Is your child like you?

Mine was the dead spit of her dad when she was a baby. She grew up looking like him and I didn't see any of my mannerisms in her... until recently. As a teen she is now very like me. They grow and change.

DD looked much more like me when she was little, but as a 17yo she's the spitting image of DP aside from her colouring.

Personality-wise she's much more like me, including some facets that I wish she hadn't inherited unfortunately

One of my is my double and she's going to college to do Accountancy, same as me.

My son not a bit and my other daughter, well you wouldn't think I was her mother at all.

Awww, that's so sweet - and also very cool!

My eldest has the same sense of humour as me, but is the opposite of me in every other way. She’s loud, outgoing, energetic, loves new experiences. Has a real zest for life. She is everything I wish I was!!

My youngest has a different sense of humour to me, but is very similar to me in every other way. She’s quiet, doesn’t enjoy the company of large groups, is happy on her own, scared of new experiences etc. I do feel sorry for her that this has clearly passed on from me.

My DS is adopted and totally unlike me or my husband. It's been a learning curve!

Nope, there’s a few bits we have in common but personality wise we’re very different.

I read that the first born is who you are and the youngest isnt the person you want to be

Yes, they both look like me and have my traits.

DD looks similar to me, DS looks a hybrid of DH and my brother ha!

DD is sporty like me and science mad like DH and myself. She's got my strong work ethic and my temper.
DS is very hands on, was building things in pre school ahead of his age. He is more like DH in that respect. I can't see any of my traits in DS actually thinking about it. I'm looking forward to starting scouting together next month as something we have to do together.

DD looks like my mini me. DS looks like his dad. DD has ADHD like me. Alas I'm mathematical, logical and rational....she's an arty, airy, creative. Loves Drama and dance and sees beauty in paintings and murals. Dad and I see beauty in arcitecture, machinary and elegant solutions to problems. She's the parts of our DNA that neither her dad or I are using!

DS has severe learning difficulties and processing problems. His love language isn't Hugs like mine, it's his cheek and wit. His interests are Lego and Minecraft. He's not like me at all.

I love the fact they're their own ppl. Done my job right.

I have a ds and a dd, both late teens. Dd is like an absolute cross between me and dh in terms of personality and doesn't look like either of us much. She looks more like other members of the extended family. Ds has my colouring and hair but otherwise looks more like dh. Personality-wise he's really like dh's brother!

Neither of my DDs look like their dad. Dd1 is very similar in personality to her maternal grandma - v academic and quite rigid in her thinking. Artistic and loves art and history.

dd2 looks like her maternal grandma as a child and also like me. Personality wise she is much more confident than I was as a child and breezes through life and school. She is very strong and dances and does acrobatics with ease which none of her family do. She is emotionally sensitive like me though.

my DDs seem to find life far easier and more enjoyable than me and I’m so glad. They are nothing like their dad personality wise either and I doubt he would disagree.

DS
Looks - an exact mix of me and DH
Personality - mainly me, sorry kid! It’s really quite humbling seeing some of your traits crop up in the next generation. Excellent facial expressions are a good thing I’ve shared. Over-sensitivity may be something we should work on together…

DD
Looks - nothing like me, very similar to DH, almost identical to my SIL as a child
Personality - 💯 from her aunt. I’m terrified

Baby
Looks - very similar to DS as a baby
Personality - too soon to say, but seems to be the most placid baby alive, so am hoping this means more DH than me 😂

My three kids are a weird mix of me and my DH. One of my kids has all my worst traits and it’s definitely affected how I related to them growing up. I have serious mum guilt now.

Op- are you sure your DC wasn’t mixed up at birth? 😉

My son is so similar I feel that he has taught me about myself.

Also I think it makes you like yourself more. My child has inherited a physical flaw of mine. Nothing too awful but obvious enough that most people in my life have commented at one stage or another (think weird ears or something like that). Now I look at her with the same feature and think she looks adorable, so it makes me smile when I catch sight of the same "flaw" on me.

I was quite a laid back child who was content to sit and play with toys or watch the television. I was good at following adults’ instructions and never tried to run away or go off on my own. I was an early talker. My parents could have a full conversation with me at 18 months old. But I was delayed with physical milestones like learning to walk and run, which was probably part of the reason I was good at sitting still. I hated cuddles for some reason and would try to escape or look away if my mum tried to give me any affection.

My son is 2 and so far is nothing like me. He does look a lot like me physically but personally-wise is completely different. He is hyperactive and never sits still. He wants to run everywhere and climb everything. He doesn’t listen to a word I say. He can say quite a lot of words but not consistently and I can’t have a conversation with him at all. He doesn’t tell me what he needs and just whinges until I guess. But he is lovely and affectionate and initiates cuddles with me all the time. From what my in-laws have told me, I think he mostly takes after my husband.

Yes it is odd you catch yourself thinking I look really good/thin there or I don’t remember that and then the realisation hits you!

People have also stopped us in the street to say how alike we look!

That's what I imagined it would be like! It sounds cool too, though. 💖

I read a quote on Mumsnet years ago "your real DC are nothing like your imagery DC".

I never thought my Daughter would be an emo, meet school friends for board games, extremely polite and kind, very nervous, hasn't had a boyfriend, despite growing up in the same area.

At her age, I was street smart, was a bit wild, drinking, partying, sex.

She is more than I could ever wish for. 🥰

I'm glad her life is peaceful.

DS is more like me, only extremely grumpy.

Energy levels, nothing like me, they're low energy, love to be lazy.
I cannot sit still.

Looks, DS is the image of DH, DD is like me at her age, minus the pink hair and clip on earrings.

It's really weird
When you look at them or photos of them it feels like you're looking at yourself and it's like when you catch sight of yourself in a mirror unexpectedly

I always loved my eyes and thought they were the most 'me' thing about me (if that makes sense)
My daughter looks just like me except for her eyes which are completely different! It still surprises me when I see photos of her

DD is nothing like me in terms of appearance and only bits of me are apparent in personality. Unfortunately, the other 90% is totally her father.

Wow, sounds like you gave him quite a turn! 🤣👻