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CO WORKER PEEING IN FRONT OF ME? WTF? This normal???

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 06/04/2025 18:48

so I am a cleaner. Me and this guy clean a restaurant nights/ early mornings.

its just me and him.

He recently started using the toilet, while we are working, peeing right in front of me. I just don’t get why he can’t close the door?

am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable?

My friend told me it’s no big deal and I’m making a big deal out of nothing.

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 10/04/2025 19:14

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 10/04/2025 08:07

Is he British? Then yes this is weird. If he is from another county it may be cultural for example in France its still common to have mixed toilets and have to walk past a man pissing in a urinal to get to the stalls which I always find quite grim.

yes he’s British

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safetyfreak · 10/04/2025 08:30

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 09/04/2025 22:16

So I told him to close the door and he said “just don’t look if you don’t like it”…

Omg,

Please report him to your manager,

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 10/04/2025 08:12

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 06/04/2025 19:20

My male friend said this is what guys do, it’s normal to pee in front of each other, he probably used to it and just didn’t realise or just sees you as “one of the guys”

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Or he's doing it intentionally as he wants to upset you...

Its a sex offence in any other context I think.?

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 10/04/2025 08:07

Is he British? Then yes this is weird. If he is from another county it may be cultural for example in France its still common to have mixed toilets and have to walk past a man pissing in a urinal to get to the stalls which I always find quite grim.

HueyLouisAndDewey · 10/04/2025 08:01

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 06/04/2025 19:20

My male friend said this is what guys do, it’s normal to pee in front of each other, he probably used to it and just didn’t realise or just sees you as “one of the guys”

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That's also a possibility, but it's making you feel uncomfortable. And you have every right To tell him to stop .

Tomikka · 09/04/2025 22:31

Iamthequeenoftheworld · 06/04/2025 19:20

My male friend said this is what guys do, it’s normal to pee in front of each other, he probably used to it and just didn’t realise or just sees you as “one of the guys”

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Men don’t see it as normal to pee in front of each other.

We use urinals in a line, we avoid eye contact, we stand as far apart as we can - generally the first goes to the furthest urinal, the second takes the nearest urinal, the third in the middle etc

Many urinals have a form of mini divider between them to ‘aid separation’

Its normal for men to use urinals, but also normal to minimise exposure to each other and defiantly not normal to expose ourselves to women

HueyLouisAndDewey · 09/04/2025 22:30

That's grim. Tell him not to. He may be getting off on doing this.

ThinWomansBrain · 09/04/2025 22:22

since October 24, Employers have a duty to protect employees from sexual harassment - a bloke waving his willy around in public is definitely that - report the matter to HR or your line manager, and frame it as that.

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 09/04/2025 22:16

So I told him to close the door and he said “just don’t look if you don’t like it”…

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Mummyoflittledragon · 06/04/2025 20:05

Men do do this in front of one another. Totally unacceptable in front of a woman. I also would complain to your boss.

TomatoSandwiches · 06/04/2025 19:49

No it's not normal, he's either doing a power play like a pp mentioned or seeing how far he can push your boundaries or where they are at from the start as a baseline.

Complain and start looking for a different job.

rwalker · 06/04/2025 19:48

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 06/04/2025 19:40

When DH was at collage on a course he told me the female cleaner used to barge into the gents with her mop while he was mid pee at the urinal. 😳

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It’s completely normal happens all the time in service stations and shopping centres

female cleaners will just come in

IPM · 06/04/2025 19:47

rwalker · 06/04/2025 19:45

Be blunt tell him it’s not acceptable

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First line of OP...

so I am a cleaner. Me and this guy clean a restaurant nights/ early mornings.

IPM · 06/04/2025 19:46

As usual someone has started a thread about a completely unacceptable situation, and not once mentioned...

A) What you've said to him about it.

B) If you've said nothing, why you haven't?

Simple communication "Oi John, shut the door for goodness sake".

rwalker · 06/04/2025 19:45

Be blunt tell him it’s not acceptable

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 06/04/2025 19:40

When DH was at collage on a course he told me the female cleaner used to barge into the gents with her mop while he was mid pee at the urinal. 😳

Coughcoughcoughallthetime · 06/04/2025 19:40

Absolutely totally wrong.
Sexual harassment - exposing himself to you.
I would also be concerned about your friend who is trying to.persuade you this is normal acceptable behaviour because it's not.
I agree with pp that you should be speaking to your supervisor and requesting he is taken off the job because you shouldn't have to put up with this.

Bumdrops · 06/04/2025 19:36

DelphiniumBlue · 06/04/2025 18:53

It's a power play and sexual harassment. He's exposing himself to you deliberately.
Tell your manager, back it up with an email.

This
totally
be careful of him
and report

Wigtopia · 06/04/2025 19:35

If I were in your position I would ask my manager to place me with someone else and explain why.

i’m so sorry you’re being made to feel uncomfortable in your place of work

Usernamexyz1 · 06/04/2025 19:28

Does he pee in front of his mum? In front of his nan or in front of his sisters? What utter garbage.

ilovesooty · 06/04/2025 19:27

Of course it's not normal.

Breambrune · 06/04/2025 19:24

your male friend is talking out of his arse.....whatever men do in front of each other ( and having had some incidents in a unisex changing room that was previously single sex, i'm aware of how some men can see closing the door as optional!) it is not socially normal to pee in front of a unrelated woman!!!

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 06/04/2025 19:23

Breambrune · 06/04/2025 19:20

@Iamthequeenoftheworld you actually need to tell him now this is NOT on and you will be reporting it if he carries on...i think he is testing your boundaries and his behaviour may escalate if you continue to ignore it...if you and he are alone i would be really careful. .

Yeah it’s dark outside when we work, streets empty and it’s just him and I, no one around

thats what worries me

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Iamthequeenoftheworld · 06/04/2025 19:20

My male friend said this is what guys do, it’s normal to pee in front of each other, he probably used to it and just didn’t realise or just sees you as “one of the guys”

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Breambrune · 06/04/2025 19:20

@Iamthequeenoftheworld you actually need to tell him now this is NOT on and you will be reporting it if he carries on...i think he is testing your boundaries and his behaviour may escalate if you continue to ignore it...if you and he are alone i would be really careful. .