Upset about weight 37 yo

I didn’t say he was cheating. I asked what you were going to do about it as it obviously bothers you.

Nobody has said anything about him cheating except you. Twice, now.

This is a bit of an odd thread. Did you want weight loss advice? Or are you after something else?

Nowhere did I say it means someone can’t lose weight. I said weight gain has a significant genetic component, which it does.

Oh come on, most people gain weight as they consume too many calories. All my extra weight always goes to my stomach, my mum and Nan were the same. I can’t change that. But how fat my stomach gets is down to how many calories I can consume. The vast majority of people lose weight if they eat less calories than they consume. Genetics may affect how hard or easy it is, or distribution of weight. But doesn’t mean someone can’t lose weight.

At 5'3 i wasnt even morbidly obese in a size 20! My BMI was 35, which is obese but not morbidly so. That is if your BMI is over 40. My BMI is now 22.5 however i did use the WLI as i struggled with my weight my whole life and found losing by my self incredibly difficult.

Weight gain absolutely has a significant genetic component. What wrong with calling it genetic anyway? OP is still looking for solutions regardless.

If you’re unhappy with your weight, do something about it. Of course it’s not genetic, you and your mum consume too many calories. I often lose and gain 7-10lbs, so well versed with dieting. I just count calories, increase exercise. Doesn’t need to be the gym, walking is great for burning calories. Work out the calorie intake you need (i use TDEE calculator) and knock off 500 calories a day to lose 1lb a week. I use my fitness pal to track calories. Of course it’s hard at first, but when you see the scales going down and feel better in yourself, you stick to it.

I am short, so its very easy for me to gain, as I need less than 1500 calories, and if you have a couple of meals out, few treats, goes on easily. Currently on a diet, hungry, but lost 3lbs so continuinig with it as summer is coming and don’t want another summer fed up with my weight.

Morbid obesity is more like UK clothes size 24. Isn’t MyBodyGallery American? Their clothing sizes are different to UK sizes, a US 14 is more like a UK 18.

How on earth do you work that out?!! I’m 5 ft 4 and a size 14 and I’m overweight - not obese, and nowhere near morbidly obese.

If my DH did this I’d be losing 12 stone instantly!

Thank god someone said it!!

Yes, I know what morbidly obese means. It's likely you don't. I'm 5'3 and if I were a size 14 I would be morbidly obese. Check out MyBodyGallery.

Do you know what morbidly obese means?
She is likely overweight, not obese and definitely morbidly obese! I see what people mean now when they talk about how many people in this sight are competitive under eaters or have eating disorders.
To be morbidly obese you need a bmi of over 40 which I'm sure if she had that she would be a lot lot bigger than a size 14!

I'm 37 and a size 16 mother of 2. Youngest is 2 soon. My jeans feel really tight atm and I am feeling really down on myself. I think it's the weather and a couple of special occasions that have had me raiding my wardrobe and wanting to cry. I'm going to join slimming world after Easter. I did weight watchers 10 years ago and lost more than 3 stone but since then have had two children and weigh more now than when I started ww. I know there is science behind this but I want to reset again!

I didn’t say it wasn’t, but it isn’t correct to claim weight gain doesn’t have a large genetic component. It does. Unless you have a full medical report on OP then you don’t know the main contributor of her weight gain.

The solution is the same regardless so it doesn’t matter whether it’s genetic or not.

P.S Eye rolls not necessary.

She said she's short so could easily be morbidly obese at a size 14

What are you going to do about it @Bendylendy (the weight and the husband)?

Actually genetics do play about 30% of weight gain.

Snacking and being sedentary is far more likely the reason for OPs weight gain 🙄 Denial of that will not help her.

Actually, yes, the causes of weigh gain, being overweight and obese, do have a significant genetic component.

I don’t know if cheating has anything to do with it. But it’s certainly a marker of a decent man or not. Ogling women online is not decency. It’s sleazebag behaviour. But your boundaries are you own.

Your weight isn’t genetic, that’s from snacking and being sedentary. I know because that was the reason I put on weight that I couldn’t seem to shift! Your height will make your weight gain more apparent though and that is genetic.

I cut out snacking, joined a gym and have done 5:2 for a few years now. Currently at my lowest weight in ten years. It’s doable if you’re honest about why you’re gaining weight and take steps to tackle it.

Both. Massively sleazy.