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to think this is not nice of Richard E Grant

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StripesZigZags · 06/04/2025 16:14

and can't be swept aside as "just a joke".

Interview with him in the Times Style magazine today. He tells the interviewer (Vassi Chamberlain) that he writes a diary every night as if he is writing to his wife. She asks him what the entry about today and their interview would say and this is the end of the article. For context earlier in the article she says that after she asked him a question when he'd finished answering he'd "fire the same" quesiton back at her which is probably how he had the additional information.

Here is the quote:

"What will tonight’s account say, I ask. He bursts out laughing.

He sits up and clears his throat as if he’s about to perform at the Old Vic.

“Astonishingly,” he begins, “the journalist was 4ft 11in.” I stop him right there. I’m 5ft 1in. “She’s 5ft 1in. Her face looks like a roadmap because she had head and neck cancer 14 years ago, which she luckily survived, but because of it she’s not allowed to have plastic surgery. All her girlfriends now look 40 years old but her jawline is hanging around her knees and in ten years she will tie a bow with her dyed hair around her chin in a tight knot and she’ll look like the Queen at Balmoral.”

Ouch."

I read that and thought "what a bitch of a man". I've never really liked him - his Instagram videos where he's constantly smiling with a fake smile that never reaches his eyes always seem ultra insincere as he pontificates about how wonderful the day or the tree or the park is. This really exposes the heart of a person.

I guess everyone him included will try to justify it as a joke but it's very nasty - making the point that her short height is 'astonishing' like some circus freak, her face looking like a road map. I think her finishing 'ouch' was really very understated and kind.

Vassi Chamberlain | The Times & The Sunday Times

Vassi Chamberlain is a writer for The Times and The Sunday Times. She has interviewed everyone from Henry Kissinger and Pamela Anderson, to Alexander McQueen. Vassi has also written about the downfall

https://www.thetimes.com/profile/vassi-chamberlain

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 07/04/2025 08:47

Craquedechevalier · 06/04/2025 22:37

Celebrities need to rely on journalists having some discretion. Journalists who go for the jugular and damage a celebrity's image will be refused access to other celebrities. Celebrity journalists who attack their interviewees will find themselves out of work. No other celebrity, reading this Times interview, will want to be interviewed by her in case she says something that stitches them up.

Lynn Barber was infamous for her psychologically acute interviews that quietly took famous people apart, with the outcome that for years people refused to be interviewed by her.

Thank you for this.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 07/04/2025 08:31

hazelnutvanillalatte · 06/04/2025 21:40

I agree, it really has the specific tone of a gay man who hates women

There's a lot of nonsense on this thread but this is right up there.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 07/04/2025 08:26

NeilDiamondsBlowDry · 06/04/2025 22:36

I just feel with regard to him he did ONE role in his life that everyone seems to love ( It’s just dated now) Withnail and nothing of any note since.

Edited

When you say 'it's dated now', what do you mean? Withnail and I was made in the late 1980s and set at the very end of the 1960s. Do you just mean 'it was made a long time ago and I only watch new things'? I would say it's a classic and will never date, but then it's one of my favourite films. That won't change even if it turns out that everyone involved is a nasty piece of work.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 07/04/2025 08:22

Bogginsthe3rd · 06/04/2025 22:47

Who's the other actor ?

Not necessarily anyone well known. My understanding is that when you join Equity, the actors' union, you have to register under a name that's different from all other current members. David McDonald had to become David Tennant, for example.

Richard Grant's real name is Richard Grant Esterhuysen. Very understandable that he didn't want to use a surname professionally that many people would have struggled to spell or pronounce, so it seems he went for his middle name but had to add an initial to distinguish himself from an existing Equity member called Richard Grant.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 07/04/2025 08:13

MsAdaLovelace · 06/04/2025 23:32

Oh do tell us ALPACA ... which book ... is it the Miranda Sawyer one as that one is on my list!

And re Mr Grant ... shame on you! This is just so very, very disappointing indeed!

It was Reach For The Stars by Michael Cragg.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B0C9V1VW8P/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0

I didn't know that Miranda Sawyer had written a book, that'll have to go on my list too.

StubbornStool · 07/04/2025 08:08

I never trusted him

All that gurning online and publishing a book about his wife who he says - was very private!!

One of those professional widow/widowers - see also Esther Rantzen - we cannot comprehend their relationship etc

sharkanado · 07/04/2025 07:40

Was he being sarcastic as she is clearly very attractive.

Stirfries · 07/04/2025 07:35

StillCreatingAName · 07/04/2025 00:05

This whole thread is very bizarre, a ridiculous pile on to actor based on a really interesting close to an interview, that perhaps needs clarification for those who don’t understand why he said it…but to say he’s done nothing of any note since Withnail and I, is even more ridiculous than this entire thread.

Yes, it’s a bit odd. He’s worked very consistently on tv, stage and film since Withnail, and has lots of award nominations and awards.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 07/04/2025 07:30

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 07/04/2025 07:27

I think it reads like either:

A. he was making a(bad) joke and it’s been reported out of context or

B. He has mental health issues.

Or.. hear me out. He can be an arsehole sometimes. It’s not exactly an outlandish theory.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 07/04/2025 07:29

TorroFerney · 07/04/2025 07:23

To me it says I’m not airing my dirty linen in public so I’m giving you a nothing reply.

But talking about his abusive, alcoholic father and his mother having sex with another man with him in the car isn’t? He had an abusive, shitty childhood and he openly talks about it, which is actually fair enough, and more people should talk about it and feel comfortable enough to do so.

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 07/04/2025 07:27

I think it reads like either:

A. he was making a(bad) joke and it’s been reported out of context or

B. He has mental health issues.

TorroFerney · 07/04/2025 07:26

springbringshope · 06/04/2025 22:36

But she looks nothing like his description so I think he might have been attempting humour. I’ve never found him funny. But she doesn’t have any of the weird features he described so surely it wasn’t a dig at her.

I agree, they are such exact things, he’s not just plucked that from thin air , he wouldn’t know her from Adam would he to know such specific things.

TorroFerney · 07/04/2025 07:23

NZversusLondon · 06/04/2025 21:10

Not great. I met him once and found him very charming. But apparently not. He’s estranged from his brother because they have ‘nothing in common’. 🙄 Says a lot.

To me it says I’m not airing my dirty linen in public so I’m giving you a nothing reply.

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 07/04/2025 07:03

weird.

thesecondmrsdewinter20 · 07/04/2025 02:08

Bloody hell. How needlessly cruel. She’s gorgeous, but the fact that he’s commenting on her appearance at all seems deeply inappropriate and just, well, gross. Also, what clunky and opaque writing. I’d expect someone who keeps a diary every day to have a more elegant turn of phrase.

Kilroyonly · 07/04/2025 01:57

NeelyOHara · 06/04/2025 16:40

Yes!! He never mentioned his stepson at all when his wife died, just their shared child.

Why on earth would/should he? His primary concern would be his own child as would most people’s be; the other (presumably adult) child has his own father to advocate for him

Vegandiva · 07/04/2025 01:40

NeilDiamondsBlowDry · 06/04/2025 22:36

I just feel with regard to him he did ONE role in his life that everyone seems to love ( It’s just dated now) Withnail and nothing of any note since.

Edited

I really loved How to Get Ahead in Advertising

StillCreatingAName · 07/04/2025 00:05

NeilDiamondsBlowDry · 06/04/2025 22:36

I just feel with regard to him he did ONE role in his life that everyone seems to love ( It’s just dated now) Withnail and nothing of any note since.

Edited

This whole thread is very bizarre, a ridiculous pile on to actor based on a really interesting close to an interview, that perhaps needs clarification for those who don’t understand why he said it…but to say he’s done nothing of any note since Withnail and I, is even more ridiculous than this entire thread.

MsAdaLovelace · 06/04/2025 23:32

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 06/04/2025 16:50

I was reading a book recently about the music industry in the 90s and 00s and one journalist was talking in it about being sent to interview a pop group who were so rude and obnoxious she wrote the whole encounter up as it happened and swiftly got a grovelling phone call from their pr lady apologising for their behaviour and asking if they could redo it. Unfortunately for them the journo was so pissed off she refused. Wonder if it might be a similar case here.

Oh do tell us ALPACA ... which book ... is it the Miranda Sawyer one as that one is on my list!

And re Mr Grant ... shame on you! This is just so very, very disappointing indeed!

Stirfries · 06/04/2025 23:18

Sunnygreen · 06/04/2025 17:42

Sometimes people don’t want to be included in memoirs for privacy reasons though, so that’s a possibility.

His stepson is mentioned in the book’s acknowledgments I believe.

Yes, a friend, who is a fairly well-known novelist, published a memoir about a period living overseas some years back, and her teenager didn’t want to be in it, so it seemed as if she’d had only one much younger child living with her. I wouldn’t read anything into that.

I can only assume the REG ‘diary’ entry was a joke that didn’t translate.

Lavenderandbrown · 06/04/2025 23:07

@Craquedechevalier yes it’s called protecting the talent. It’s an industry standard you protect the talent… hot mic moments would be an example If star
says something not realizing the mic is on you shut the mic down immediately. If star arrives looking like shit or acting like shit or is giving terrible interview you have to protect them by salvaging the interaction into something non damaging .

Craquedechevalier · 06/04/2025 22:49

I'm pretty sure that there was some kind of joke going on. I worked for years in the red-top media sphere and I never heard a bad word about him. No groping, no boozing, no unpleasantness. Widely liked. Plenty of bad stuff about a number of celebrities you'd probably think were wonderful. Let's see what tomorrow brings.

Bogginsthe3rd · 06/04/2025 22:47

Mudkipper · 06/04/2025 22:37

There’s more than one Richard Grant who’s an actor.

Who's the other actor ?

Pullmeunder · 06/04/2025 22:38

she says something that stitches them up.

he said something that stitched himself up and he was the one doing the attacking

Craquedechevalier · 06/04/2025 22:37

Pullmeunder · 06/04/2025 21:39

No one with any sense would trust her.
yes totally untrustworthy for including his reply to an interview question. Also even if he never thought she’d put that in (why it’s an interview), that’s not any better, just insulting a woman and then hoping she doesn’t put it in.

Celebrities need to rely on journalists having some discretion. Journalists who go for the jugular and damage a celebrity's image will be refused access to other celebrities. Celebrity journalists who attack their interviewees will find themselves out of work. No other celebrity, reading this Times interview, will want to be interviewed by her in case she says something that stitches them up.

Lynn Barber was infamous for her psychologically acute interviews that quietly took famous people apart, with the outcome that for years people refused to be interviewed by her.

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