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To think ghosting a friend is cruel and actually quite narcissistic?

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SnugShaker · 06/04/2025 14:48

Being ghosted by a friend is honestly one of the most hurtful things I’ve experienced. It leaves you questioning everything: Did I do something wrong? Were they ever really my friend? Am I overreacting?

I’ve read that people who ghost, especially in close friendships, are more likely to have narcissistic traits because they avoid discomfort, take no accountability, and rewrite the story in their own favour.

AIBU to think that unless there’s abuse or something extreme involved, ghosting someone you were close to is emotional cowardice, not “protecting your peace?”

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Over40Overdating · 06/04/2025 15:06

I ghosted a friend - and not because I am a narcissist but because she was and refused to listen to anything I had to say about her behaviour or our relationship. Sometimes silence is the only thing some people understand.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 06/04/2025 15:02

Not everything shitty is narcissism.

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 06/04/2025 15:02

SnugShaker · 06/04/2025 14:57

Excuse me? I have never posted about ghosting before. There really isn’t a need for you to post such comments.

There's been an endless stream of threads about ghosting recently.

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 06/04/2025 15:01

There can be so many different reasons for ghosting that I really don't think you can pigeon hole it as just being narcissistic, especially if they are doing it for their own sanity because it's the other person that's the problem.

SnugShaker · 06/04/2025 14:57

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Excuse me? I have never posted about ghosting before. There really isn’t a need for you to post such comments.

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user1494050295 · 06/04/2025 14:56

I have had two friends who are friends with each other (we all used to do a sport together) not respond to my requests to meet up. Although one does get in touch when she wants a lift to the annual sporting event. Anyway they don’t have time for me clearly. Saw one of them at an event recently and said hi but deliberately kept it short. Apparently she has recently been diagnosed with adhd. Not wishing to derail your thread but came on to say being ghosted isnt great tbh

yeesh · 06/04/2025 14:55

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lunar1 · 06/04/2025 14:52

I ghosted a friend after she let her child hurt mine again and said nothing, she’s a fucking idiot if she couldn’t work out why!

the alternative was I told her I never wanted to see her or her badly parented brats again. I was too mad at the time for a middle ground.

Berlinlover · 06/04/2025 14:51

I’ve had a couple of friends ghost me since my cancer diagnosis, apparently it’s quite common.

Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday · 06/04/2025 14:51

Oh, you again. Yet another thread about people ghosting/being unsupportive, on which you’ll never post another message. 🙄

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 06/04/2025 14:51

Again? There have been so many of these threads recently.