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DH buying his ex flowers for Mother’s Day?

286 replies

Roosch · 06/04/2025 11:57

Would you be happy for your DH to buy his ex (mother of DSD) flowers on Mother’s Day?

Just saw that he basically got her the same thing as me. He did not tell me he was going to do this.

For background, DSD is 10, and we have 2 young children together.

I’m not sure how to feel, and just hoping for general advice.

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SusanStrat · 06/04/2025 12:02

I think it’s a credit to him that he did it - he’s modelling a positive co-parenting relationship to all his children.

Cornettoninja · 06/04/2025 12:01

It’s fine. I’d take the piss out of him for buying exact replicas though.

aCatCalledFawkes · 06/04/2025 12:01

I hugely dislike my ex but he did give our son money to buy me quite a decent Mother’s Day present.

user1471497170 · 06/04/2025 12:01

If his DSD is 10 she'll need her father to buy her a gift for her mother. Your husband is doing the right thing for his daughter. There's many non resident fathers who don't bother.

Scorpion84 · 06/04/2025 12:01

I would be okay with this as their child is 10 so realistically they aren't going to be able to purchase the flowers themselves.

AndImBrit · 06/04/2025 12:01

I’d be disappointed if he didn’t do this. It’s not wives day, and both mothers of his children should be celebrated equally by him, until his children are old enough to do it independently (and 10 isn’t old enough to fund and buy flowers by herself).

TwentyTwentyFive · 06/04/2025 12:00

Sounds sensible and fair to be honest. Why shouldn't he treat you both the same when both of you are the mothers of his children? Do you think she somehow deserves less and you deserve more? I genuinely can't understand why anyone would object to what he did.

SophieAnt · 06/04/2025 12:00

I would heartily approve (although I hope he didn't get her exactly the same thing- two different bunches of flowers or whatever would be better).

SassySusie · 06/04/2025 12:00

Sweet of him.

TeenToTwenties · 06/04/2025 11:59

Were they from him or ostensibly from his daughter?

Cushionseams · 06/04/2025 11:58

They were for his daughter's mum? Why would you object to that.