Father of the child and his family forcing me into getting an abortion

OP, you've said that your parents are in their 40s.

Do they both work? Might one or both of them need to work in the future? If they are working, can they afford for one of them give up work to look after a baby while you work?

Do your earn enough to pay rent or get a mortgage if you plan to move out of your parents' home after a year or so to live independently? Do you earn enough to pay for child care if you are paying rent?

You can't assume that you will be housed by the LA/housing associations and private rents can be very high depending on where you live.

I don't see why both sets of parents needed to meet to discuss your situation - you are 24 and 26 - you are adults, not teenagers.

Do you have siblings still living at home.

I don’t see anything in OPs original post and furthers posts that suggests that she is being controlled by her family. Please quote the things she has said that lead you to your strong belief that she is being controlled by her DPs.

Please explain yourself! I do not
understand why you have come to such strange and outlandish conclusions and why you think that anything you have posted is going to be of any useful information to OP.

It is absolutely your decision.

However, be aware that families such as this can completely change their tactics once a child is born - the child becomes an item they wish to 'win' at all costs.

This could mean demands for 50:50 or even sole residence, blocking wishes to move, deliberately inconvenient contact times, refusals to return the child, interfering with school choices, medical care, dietary decisions, making reports to Social Services, constant attempts at creating discord and parental alienation, claiming child benefit, reports of fraud, etc, etc. All entirely separate to payment or non payment of child support.

It is worth seriously considering what the future/the next 18 years might look like for you if they decide to act in this way.

Have I missed a post?? I read it that the OP wanted a baby and her parents are supportive. Not that the parents made her get pregnant?!

My parents had known each other for three weeks when my mum accidentally got pregnant. She was 19 and lived at home and had a menial job, so her circumstances were even worse than OP's. My parents have now been together 55 years. The point I'm therefore making is just because we don't live like that anymore doesn't mean women of OP's age are suddenly incapable of looking after a child. Yet everyone's acting like OP's going to be the worst mum ever. It's offensive to young mums and single parents.

You're being weird

What’s that got to do with anything? It’s not how we live anymore, and her actions have shown she’s not a responsible person or else she wouldn’t have gotten knocked up by what’s a complete stranger.shes not even known him 4 months.

There is much more to here, regarding the parents involvement that the poster can share because her life is controlled. She really should talk to her parents only for all this. It is them who are going to have the baby.

no it's not!
OP got pregnant her own self because she wanted a baby and now she's having one. All her own work!

Stop making stuff up. It's embarrassing.

Absolutely not. I am both pro-life, religious and have ND child, so quite curious actually

It is the posters parents driving this

That poster appears intent on making up an entirely new narrative that is both offensive to people with autism and religious beliefs.

It is not needed. It is none of anyone's business.

Where did you get that from??

It is needed. The poster seems to have been coerced into pregnancy

If you have a supportive family, this will really help. From this point on, assume you are a single parent. I’m not going to tell you you’re silly for leaving contraceptives up to the man, but learn from that. They should take responsibility, but we are the ones who carry the children. It is our bodies at the end of the day. Also fuck his step dad, he sounds horrible.

Stop with the inquisition! OP doesn't need to give you chapter and verse on her health and sex life.

Did you really need to post this?

Can you give a complete overview what happened around your medical issues, stopping the contraception and how did you actually got conveniently pregnant so fast with someone you don't know. How did you meet that young man?

You're essentially having a baby that you will have to handover to strangers for 50% of the time. You clearly don't know him very well or his family at all. What do you think this will do to your child? What mental issues will they carry from all the challenges and insecurity this will bring throughout their life? It's a terrible start and will be extremely painful for you.

For generations women never lived anywhere but at home with their parents before getting married – their wedding night was usually the time when they would move out. Were they beyond irresponsible and incapable of raising children too?

Honestly, the way OP is being patronised because of her age and living circumstances is insane.

Whether you keep the baby is your choice but you seriously need to look at your contraceptive choices yes its a 2 way street but if you continue to plan to not use contraception for the foreseeable you could likely end up with multiple children to multiple partners. May I suggest ensuring they do use a condom if for whatever medical reasons you cannot use contraception or consider the coil perhaps. I wouldn't openly have sex with someone thinking oh well if it leads to a baby we both want kids anyway this is a prime example of how it fails you barely know each other all relationships are great in the first few months the honeymoon phase then comes the challenges. Also 24 is young I wish in hindsight I had waited later in life I thought I had been there done it all and now was time for a family but I do miss my independence so much nights away, spontaneous holidays. Family will say we will support you but trust me they will also get fed up and say its your baby your responsibility after a while. Either way if you want to keep your child of course you should but please just he mindful of contraception in new relationships/ one night stands moving forward

You realise babies are not pets?! You never even lived by yourself and want to raise another human? You had unprotected sex with someone you barely know and now have yourself tied to forever. That’s so beyond irresponsible. Fantastic life my arse.