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Would you be upset if your child's teacher told the class her mum had died?

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MonBlu · 06/04/2025 05:58

She left a couple of weeks ago because her mum was sick and there was a sub since. Now she's back and told the kids that her mum died. It seems very young for them to have to think about mums dying. They're Year 4 / 5.

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Teapotters · 06/04/2025 06:02

Thats not too young at all, at that age they understand death, and plenty will have experienced loss of grandparents at least. Assuming she handled it responsiblybits fine.

MyGardenHasGreatTits · 06/04/2025 06:01

No. Death is a natural part of life and can’t be explained in an age appropriate way.

Zanatdy · 06/04/2025 06:01

I think it’s normal for school friends to know yes. It’s easier for her if everyone knows. By that age children know that people die. DS2 had a child whose mum died in a car accident when they were 7. The children were informed but i’d already told DS2.

edit - apologies I read that as a child’s mum died. Probably didn’t need to tell the children, but I wouldn’t be upset about it.