A few years ago I was involved with a married man, in a text book situation of which I am not proud - chose to listen to nonsense from him/ lackof self esteem from me. Brief overview - it lasted two years, I lied to her face, met her toddlers, stayed at her home, mutual friends were aware but turned a blind eye . i can’t actually believe I was that person.
Im in a different place now. But appalled by my behaviour, have had counselling.
I’m being urged by friends to ‘ tell her the truth to let her live make her own decisions’
99% of me thinks it was two years ago , let it be,
1% thinks I’d want to know, even if it was twenty years ago , never mind two
it’s reared it’s head for unrelated reasons, as tonight people I know (drunk) were saying they’d want to know, and I thought “would you really??”