Paedophile taking his kid to sports at weekend

And it’s not evil. It’s SICK. It’s evil if they act upon it.

Huh? Many gay men have sex with women. Haven’t you read all the posts and articles about women discovering their dh is gay?

How wonderfully apt is your username? Well done. Saved me the effort ;)

Yes theres lots of detail in this area of work that most people dont understand.

Not all CSA's are paedophiles and not all paedophiles are CSA's

Its why using that word to describe the criminality is incorrect and inaccurate and tells you nothing about whats happened or the level of risk

Majority of people abusing minors don't really have paedophilic paraphilia, they just don't care that much and find minors to be easier victims.

All we really know is that he was convicted of a crime of sexual nature against a minor.

If he harmed several young children, I'd be concerned.

If he at 18 overstepped with 13-14 yo, it would show serious lack of judgement, but not a huge lifelong risk for children

There was. They were known then as schedule 1 offenders.

I don't think there was a formal sexual offenders register 20 years ago. Many are only put on the register now for x years, then it's wiped off.

Its surprising how many people don’t care about the victims, on of our teachers groomed a pupil and became pregnant, her mum complained that the child she groomed had ruined her daughters life rather than considering himself lucky. I bet she wouldn’t have considered her daughter lucky if she had been groomed from 13 and raped at 14.

So have the children he abused but they aren’t free.

Yes but no one is convicted of being a pedophile. The are convicted of child sexual abuse

The problem is with these discussions is that people dont make the distinction and dont understand the terminology.

OP uses the word, thats not what the conviction was for, so it is unknown what happened.

An 18 year.old having sex with a 15 year old isnt a paedophile either
It would be clsssed as having sex with a minor
A paedophile is somebody who is attracted to prepubescent childern.

I agree with your response OP. The starting point for me is that a presumption they are not rehabilitated. I agree with the person who pointed out what could be described as degrees of offence.

I agree with a PP though - an eighteen year old having a relationship with a fifteen year old will not get serious, or any, jail time.
Think of the derisory sentences people with thousands of images of abuse get.

To get actually locked up, they must have done something very awful.

Not always, it depends on the restriction given

People are also muddling up 'being around children' with 'being unsupervised with a child without the person with PR's permission'

He isnt unsupervised with the children at the club is he?

^ This is the important information, if it's 15 & 18, then really no issue.
If it's a young child, then yes, not only a monster, but should be locked up for life as there is no rehabilitation in that case.

Agree with others that it’s better you know.

With that in mind, the idea of the presence of these filthy bastards always provokes a strong response from me (for which I’ll never apologise or be made to feel bad).

Although we know that they are all around us, it’s galling to have them swanning around like they’re a normal part of society when they should never be allowed to be.

In your position, OP, I’d make it clear to him that you know what he is. You don’t need to verbalise it, but I’d make it very, very clear to him that you know at any opportunity you get. I also wouldn’t be shy to warn any other parents you’re friendly with. A few whispers and he’ll probably fuck off back under his rock like the coward he is.

We're surrounded by them. The ones you don't know about are the problem, not the ones you do. You know about this one and can keep your child safe from them.

As PP says, you can't ban them from normal life once they've hoop-jumped, however ineffective it is. That is the law of the land and if you do anything in knee-jerk reaction you could find yourself on the wrong side of it.

At least you know sbout him and can avoid him but really we should always have our guards up nobody would knows if their friendly next door is a paedophile ,if they have never been caught and convicted

As a pp has said posters are confusing sexual orientation and paraphilia’s.

Sexual Orientation is heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or asexual.

Paraphilias include voyeurism, exhibitionism, paedophillia, AGP etc.

You normally have one sexual orientation but can have multiple paraphilia’s.

I agree with this post.

There is a disturbing movement, gaining increasing traction, to destigmatise pedophilia

‘Grateful’ probably the wrong word but at least you know!

Within that sports club and amongst the parents and extended families that attend there will be a good few others. It’s far more common than people realise. I would be grateful you know about this one and can be wary and encourage your child to be so too.

This is sensible

To be fair I’m not sure there is much you can do and I think their child has a right to attend sports clubs as well as any other ( who knows maybe the mom doesn’t drive) and have their Dad cheer them on as any other child. ( even if he is a monster)
Id just keep a very close eye on my child at any event he was around.