Paedophile taking his kid to sports at weekend

At least the cold is not alive with him at home all the time

You’ve got something wrong here, or you’re missing out, or perhaps don’t know, the full facts. It is simply not true that you could get 8 years for statutory rape of a nearly 16 year old as an 18 year old. Christ you’d barely get that for a violent non consensual rape.

If you believe that you’ll believe anything.

I'm not so sure and that's not my lived experience. Certainly in schools and in sport you have to pass police checks etc but what about those of us parents who help at various activities just because we like to? Or what about the parents who offer room in their car to an away match? Or the parent who needs to go into the changing room because their small child needs help? Or the friendly parent who children gravitate towards? What about the parent who offers to wash the team kit? They are so many ways of ingratiating oneself, offering a hand and having lots of access without any police checks at all. I personally think a paedophile will know all the tricks on how to fly under the radar without needing to pass any kind of safeguarding checks.

Well. This has thrown me. I am the mother of an adult disabled daughter who was groomed and abused by a teenage neighbour 25 years ago, when she was 8. Wrecked our lives, threw our community into turmoil. We moved away. The situation was intolerable. I know he married and had a daughter, don't know where he is/they are. Don't want to. BUT even after that first-hand ordeal, I STILL would not be saying he shouldn't be taking his kid to events. I don't have grandchildren - that's the only comparable scenario I can see myself in - but if I did, I would not feel my fears and distress over encountering him took place over that child's right to a normal life. If I thought he had access to other people's kids, that's different. But mere attendance - no.

In response to those saying sex offender’s can be near children/schools/ family events

Not true. DH worked as safeguarding lead for a charity that runs all age events. Every now and then a registered sex offender’s case worker would apply for the man to attend the events. The charity would respond with what their procedures were according to the level of offence. They accepted an application from a man who had lowest level of offence, who came along, but DH had to stay with them constantly.

Another sex offender with a much worse level of offence applied, but then decided not to attend because of the procedures that were in place.

I don't think it's a case of "he's done his time" he will not be able to work with children etc and id be curious to know if hes on the register and if there are any restrictions in place that prohibit him from being around children. I would be informing every parent I know so they can make informed decisions around playdates etc IMO he is still a pedophile and I wouldn't have him anywhere near my children

I think that's rather naive. Paedophiles are sexually attracted to children. They will share the most innocuous imagery of children they deem attractive, i.e. playing a sport/performing in a school play all the way to raping babies. A person is either a paedophile or not, it's as black and white as that. A person isn't just 'kind of' a paedophile and will only be attracted to scantily clad children.

For those who have the stomach for it, Channel 4 did a harrowing but educational documentary last year called 'The Children in the Pictures'. The investigative teams who may it their lives' work to catch and convict paedophiles are immesureably brave. It's a difficult but necessary watch particularly in terms of how paedophiles operate when it comes to the distribution of imagery. And their behaviour escalates. So the type of sport wouldn't make one jot of difference to me. It's a significant safeguarding issue and I'd be flagging it stat.

I would check with the police he’s allowed to be around children serving time isn’t always the consequences he could have received. he will probably be on sex offenders list he may have a ban being around kids. Definitely worth looking into is it sarah law or Claire’s law you can ask?

This.

Put every last one of them down.

I think for me it would depend on the sport - gymnastics or swimming bit of a different case to judo or fencing.

Even if he volunteers he will have to have an enhanced police check, so it’s unlikely he will, knowing what it will show up. Thankfully it’s not so easy these days to get access to kids.

He might have done his time but he’s always going to be a peadofile.

OP be very careful I think someone should let his dp know if they can just because he’s a dad doesn’t mean he won’t abuse his own or there friends.

If he is on the sex offenders register he isn't allowed around other children or in social settings where children are likely to be. The offenders themselves admit this is an 'addiction' and as such there always lurks a possibility of regression. No there is no way they should be allowed near children who may think this is a safe person because he's 'John's' Dad.

In the U.K. an individual convicted of a sexual offense 20 years ago would likely still be on the Sex Offenders Register, as the notification requirements are generally indefinite for certain offenses and sentences, under Sarah Law I believe you can ask for information from the local police about someone who has contact with a child if you suspect they may pose a risk.
if he’s on the register still it’s likely they may be aware and that social services are involved, but the sex offenders register does also cover underage sex between teenagers as well as grooming etc.

Not enough. He should be dead. 😊

Every fair-sized crowd that you're ever in contains a paedophile, or more than one - you just don't know who they are. You know someone who you think is a nice man, and he's a paedophile. It's common, and we just try not to think about it - not much else we can do. At least this way you know where never to let your dc go for a playdate. It's disturbing because it reminds us of all the times we don't know.

How is this defending SA, for heaven's sake?
I simply asked how they were so adamant.
Besides, you know nothing of my history, so please don't assume I am defendjng SA

Are you just looking at sexual offences? Because that is low, but that includes all types of sexual offences. I just looked at an official report of a case study of men convicted of possessing child porn and it said 55% went on to reoffend. That's pretty high!

I wonder if his wife even knows about his past. I'd be watching my DC like a hawk and not allowed any contact between my DC and his DC but other than that do t know what you can do.

Ummm, no… check out reoffending rates by offence type…

May of done his time,but the freaks never change.

I had the same questions as the previous poster so this absolutely changes things. Go to the police. I’m sure he must be in breach of some of his terms of release. He absolutely should not be around other children

He will always be on the sex offenders register

I don’t think that you are over reacting in the slightest but personally I would not remove my child from the same activity. I would make sure that my child or any other was near him. As has already been mentioned I would have a quiet word with the safeguarding person. Totally expect that they are not aware. Sadly paedophiles end up coaching and helping out with sports where they have easy access to children.