Paedophile taking his kid to sports at weekend

Even with the best of intentions on his part to refrain from criminal behaviour, he will always be sexually attracted to children and will always be a paedophile. I would not want my children around a paedophile but in society we come into contact with many people and we have no idea who they are and what they have done. He's highly unlikely to do anything at the club so I think as long as he's not in a situation where he's left alone with any child or coming into direct contact with children other than his own I'd probably keep my child at the club.

What utter tosh

Agree with that - hopefully every volunteer needs to be DBS checked but can never be too sure tbh.

I would tell the club so he can’t volunteer and I’d stay well clear of him

They cannot be rehabilitated. They can make recompense for their offences (if any have been committed, plenty don’t offend) and appear contrite and live a life with no further offending but at the end of the day it is their sexual orientation and nothing can change that.
It’s why a certain section of paedophiles think that they have nothing to be ashamed of and that “paedophilia” should be considered a protected characteristic alongside sexual orientation. I don’t agree by the way.

A paedophile can no more be rehabilitated than the sexual orientation of any individual can be changed at will because they’re told so.

Someone is knew served time as a paedophile and needs to notify social services each time he has planned contact with other children (he also has a wife and children).

You can check with the police he's not breaking the terms of his Sexual Harm Prevention Order if one is in place. Otherwise you just have to be wary and teach your child about safety. The paedophiles you don't know about are potentially more worrying.

We had a guy in our town who had been convicted years ago of raping small boys. He lived next door to a scout hut (coincidence? I think not). Plenty of people knew about him and his house regularly got graffitied and windows smashed. It was horrible for his neighbours. Happily he is now dead.

Hes not suddenly magically not a pedophile though. Still a pedophile.

They walk among us OP even if you don’t know who they are. Best thing just keep watch of your child!

Paedophiles are everywhere. OP at least you know about this one.

Take precautions to keep your child safe, if you move them to another club they may be another one at the new club, but you don't know about them.

And you know this how?
Are you a psychiatrist specialising in this particular field? Do you lecture on this from a place of research.
Or are you merely a faily dail, social media believer?

I think this is the pragmatic advice here.

Unless he is doing something wrong legally then the only thing you can do is decide not to go to the support or tolerate his presence.

I would be worried about my child befriending their child and the possibilities for future issues (omg that poor child).

Do the other parents know? Any friends of the peados child are potentially at risk and I would be concerned that the other parents didn't know so can't protect their child. It's horrible to have to say to not be friends with the child but I can't see many other options.

The fact that he had a child is a perfect opportunity to be around other children, very difficult situations.

Would definitely speak to police about it, possible nspcc too to get advice about if you should be informing anyone else.

if you’re uncomfortable with your child being in that space, find another club. He has every right to be there with his child.

What’s the context of the offence 20 years ago? If is was an offence against a young child and he has a young child that is highly worrying although it should have been assessed by social workers, probation etc as long as they knew about it. Or was it an offence more along the lines of him being a young adult having an underage relationship - still not acceptable, but doesn’t necessarily mean they are a risk to young children - hence why they are able to bring one unsupervised to a sports group.

Just playing devils advocate here OP but how much of the circumstances of his offending are you actually aware of?

people may disagree with me but I’d argue that an 18 year old having sexual contact with his 15 year old girlfriend then this being reported to police is very different from the same 18 year old grooming them raping or sexually assaulting their 6 year old cousin.

Both are criminal offences, both would lead to the male in question being on the sex offenders register for offences against children.
I’d argue that these two men would present wildly different risks to very young children.

If he is still on the register then he may be subject to certain conditions.
ultimately though, there are genuinely paedophiles absolutely everywhere in society, your children will come into contact with many. Just make sure you safeguard them.

Oh cool! So prison-time cures paedophilia? You should tell all the psychologists of your amazing discovery.

Jfc

Personally, I would let the club know - such that if he volunteers to be coach, official or any role that brings him into contact with children they can refuse.

But I wouldn't ask that he doesn't attend. But it would make me very uncomfortable that he is making connections into other people's lives that may trust him with their children (and his own).

Nothing you can do sadly

We did have a case of a an ex writing to a school to flag someone who had multiple allegations against them (but no actual convictions) they had a "stepchild" at the school and were going for a job..they never got the job the children at the school were in his usual target age range too

Practical things you can do:

You can obviously protect your child by making sure you don't leave them alone when its not safe to and talk to them in an age appropriate way about safety, that they know not to trust adults they don't know well. This will help protect them against all potentially dangerous adults, not just the one you know about.

Children's organised sports usually have very clear safeguarding arrangements so it is worth finding out what that is for your club and making sure you inform them of your concerns. The safeguarding lead will take appropriate actions.

Depending on the type of offences the Individual may still be on the register and may be monitored by the police. You can contact the police and inform them of your concerns, they may not be aware that he is attending the events and want to do further checks/disclosures.

My child did have one at their sports club it seems.
but no one knew at the time.

You’re on a hiding to nothing with this policy.

Obviously I’m not saying that one should not be wary around sex offenders but the idea of batting people from everyday life just makes them more likely to reoffend because nothing to lose

And I can tell you that paedophiles are everywhere. So the idea of you knowingly removing yourself from being there them is ridiculous.

Wtf! This isn’t petty crime or a driving offence, it’s a pedophile! Would you feel like that if it was your child at the club?

You don’t have to be his buddy
just you can’t ban an ex offender from normal daily life

She'll no doubt know as she has a child.

I'll bet that he's said he was either falsely accused or the charges were exaggerated!

His poor child being around him. I do hope they’re safe from him. How can his wife stay with him too!

I'm amazed at some of these relaxed responses. I wouldn't be happy about this at all. I don't know what you can do about it.