Paedophile taking his kid to sports at weekend

Right back at you

Paedophilia isn't a sexual orientation, it is, as a PP said, a paraphilia. Ie a perversion.

Clearly not happy to be corrected then… 😂

I agree, I fancy men, and imagine I’ll always fancy men.

Paedophiles fancy kids, and surely will always do so, or have the memory of it. Also 20 years ago we let people get away with all sorts, the bar was high for conviction.

Statistically, there will be domestic abusers, child abusers and paedophiles amongst most gatherings of adults.

At least you know who he is. Keep a close eye. Yes, he’s served his sentence but he’s unlikely to be rehabilitated.

I hope you don’t have children.

Peadophiles can't be cured.
They just are.
And every parent should be very careful around one if they've been identified, time spent or not imo.

What does it mean though that all these paedophiles are in relationships and having sex with adult women? Your saying it's their sexual attraction to be attracted to kids. So how are they also able to have sex with grown women? I dont think many straight men could also have gay relationships for example. It does seem paedophilia is something different- an evil mind.

I would feel grateful you know. They are absolutely everywhere and most of them are people you would never suspect. At least 1 in 20 but possibly as many as 1 in 5 children are sexually abused. Most by someone close to them. If your child has 20 children in their class or 20 friends they play with at activities or parties, one of those children will very likely have an adult in their life who is abusing them and is a risk to your child. Except you won’t know because they won’t have been convicted or made the papers.

I have 2 very close family members who have been convicted of CSA, but there no doubt are more. We are obviously NC with them, but I’ve also worked very hard with my dc on trusting their gut instinct. If someone or something makes them uncomfortable, they can make a fuss. Obviously, I am there keeping them safe when we are together, but when they are out in the world without me, they know they don’t have to be polite if someone is being weird or pushing their boundaries. I’ve worked very hard on getting them to speak up for themselves and others.

Not all abusers wear a big red sign like this one. And you can’t wrap them in bubble wrap. You can set boundaries for them (you can’t go to Joey’s house to play) and you can teach them how to trust their gut by encouraging them and rewarding them when they do.

According to law he has served his time. There are many people with prison sentences that work with kids.

I know a man that spent 6 months in prison for GBH and now teaches martial arts to kids. Does he still have that violent tendency lurking? Who knows.

I find it hard to imagine that someone who hurt a child in such a way can ever be rid of such thoughts.

"Paedophile charges" is super vague. If it was 20 years ago and he has kids in football matches, I'd assume he was anywhere between 18 and 35 at the time of the offence. So was he a 19 year old sleeping with a 15 year old, or was he a 30 year old circulating child porn? They're quite different things.

Either way, unless he's alone with your child, he can't harm them. I would intervene if he starts volunteering with the club.

Is he on the register of sex offenders? If he is tell the football clubs but when my DH was a coach for my son’s football club they did full DBS checks. I’d tell the club. It may be that he is not supposed to be there.

What do you think he's going to do to your child from the sidelines of a football pitch or whatever?

If he was volunteering to help in the changing rooms or to help coach you might have a point. He wouldn't be able to do either of those things because he would need a DBS.

Entry level critical thinking would come up with several reasons why the “data” is unlikely to be reflective of reality.

Hasn't he been added the register and prevented from seeing/interacting with children? Do SS know? OMG is the child at risk?

Keep your child away for sure, give him the widest birth.

Paedophiles cannot be rehabilitated. For them its a normal sexual urge and we've yet to find a cure.

(just as you can't assume every pedophile was caught on their first time abusing)

Not only that but with pedophiles you are speaking about a subset of victim who may find it very difficult to understand or discuss their abuse in the first place. And for the very young may not even be physically capable of telling someone. It's a silent crime.

Just have your wits about you whilst his at sports club let the club members know

We found out a local guy was a convicted peado, time served years ago, now in a good job and I have been quite surprised at the amount of people who very much have gone with the "oh well, he's done his time" line - and the overwhelming majority of them have been women - which again surprised me.

I'd sooner never speak to him again, but seems I'm in the minority here at least.

And no, you don't know if Little Jimmy's grandfather is a pedophile, which is why you should be vigilant. But you get mocked for that too. "Sun reader who thinks there's a peado on every corner".

So what, because some are hidden, we should, what, ignore those with convictions?!

Makes no sense at all. Did you think it through before you posted?

Is that not because conviction rates are incredibly low, rape is essentially legal, it wouldn’t at all be unusual for a rapist to never be convicted in the UK.

This.

They don’t/ can’t change. You’d be naive to think a few years in prison will make him a safe person to have around kids.

OP - you need to inform the sports organisers to ensure he’s never given the chance to be close to children. I would also be finding a way of informing the wife, I mean, she either doesn’t know or is a complete idiot.

Poor child, having such a risky home life.

What a really nasty, plain ignorant and frankly, cunty reply.

Do you know how many women are victims of sexual assault? I assume you've been lucky or you wouldn't say "calm down". But please consider why women aren't usually calm about sexual abuse and who you might be telling to not worry about sa.

Christ calm down. Most paedophiles don't go round with a sticker on their head. How do you know Little Jimmys Grandad who has come to watch isn't one?