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Paedophile taking his kid to sports at weekend

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Pumpkin05 · 06/04/2025 01:03

Long story short information has come to light someone I know was convicted and imprisoned for paedophile charges, some 20 years ago (Information is verifiable)
Flash forward he now has a wife and young child and takes said child to sports clubs and matches at the weekend.
AIBU to think this is strange, and not want my child to attend said sports matches with him there? or am I over-reacting?

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Pussycat22 · 14/04/2025 09:04

Johna69 · 08/04/2025 11:29

There are plenty of people in every neighbourhood who are pedos, get released from jail and just blend back into the neighbourhood or new neighbourhood, no one monitors them,and then they strike again,you have people on here saying you will ruin his life if you tell,if he lived local to them ,their response would be why weren't we told about him,leopard never changer it's spots.

They're not right in the head !!!!

Pussycat22 · 14/04/2025 09:02

StubbornStool · 06/04/2025 05:06

He’s done his time.

They ain't shriveled his gonads though have they!!!!

SinnerBoy · 14/04/2025 08:57

Accidentally. OK...

WearyAuldWumman · 14/04/2025 08:40

SinnerBoy · 14/04/2025 04:09

As far as I'm concerned, a teacher, Police officer etc committing such offences ought to be treated more harshly, they can scarcely claim ignorance. They understand safeguarding, for a start.

Absolutely.

The defence for Brown appears to be that he accidentally offended - complete rubbish.

SinnerBoy · 14/04/2025 04:09

As far as I'm concerned, a teacher, Police officer etc committing such offences ought to be treated more harshly, they can scarcely claim ignorance. They understand safeguarding, for a start.

WearyAuldWumman · 13/04/2025 23:34

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 13/04/2025 23:29

And that's everything that's wrong with the judicial system and all involved in the process

Precisely. The judge said that it was at "the lower end of the scale". The teacher sent videos of himself to girls who had just left school. One was only 16.

ETA

From The Courier:

'He said Brown’s “career is at an end” and as a former world and European champion at his sport, he has now lost the ability to compete and is “ostracised”.
“He has already suffered punishment as a result of this episode”, he said.
The solicitor said Brown’s offending is “towards the lower end of the scale” when compared to other offences of this nature.'

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 13/04/2025 23:29

WearyAuldWumman · 13/04/2025 23:25

I discovered today that offenders are sometimes on that list only for a limited time.

A Fife teacher has just been found guilty of sending inappropriate videos to teenage girls. He's been given community service and is only going to be on the register for a year.

And that's everything that's wrong with the judicial system and all involved in the process

WearyAuldWumman · 13/04/2025 23:25

ilovepixie · 13/04/2025 23:21

Surely he should be on the sex offenders list and his access to children should be controlled? What happens when a paedophile has children of their own? Are social services involved and risk assessments carried out?

I discovered today that offenders are sometimes on that list only for a limited time.

A Fife teacher has just been found guilty of sending inappropriate videos to teenage girls. He's been given community service and is only going to be on the register for a year.

ilovepixie · 13/04/2025 23:21

Surely he should be on the sex offenders list and his access to children should be controlled? What happens when a paedophile has children of their own? Are social services involved and risk assessments carried out?

Littlejellyuk · 13/04/2025 22:03

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 13/04/2025 13:42

That is (potentially) what future life looks like.
Bills to make child sex 'a sexual orientation", another one for the ever growing LGBT label.
Not one LGBT person I know wants that attached to them because they're gay/trans, not child abusers.

It's disgusting and outrageous and wrong and should never be allowed to happen.

I remember reading a while back about individuals trying to promote 'Alice Day' and the sexual orientation of Minor Attracted Persons (MAP) and Youth Attracted Persons (YAP) and I'm sure I read that Elon Musk got rid of that pedophile promoting account. Knocks me sick.

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 13/04/2025 13:42

Justgoodforthegetting · 06/04/2025 07:06

They cannot be rehabilitated. They can make recompense for their offences (if any have been committed, plenty don’t offend) and appear contrite and live a life with no further offending but at the end of the day it is their sexual orientation and nothing can change that.
It’s why a certain section of paedophiles think that they have nothing to be ashamed of and that “paedophilia” should be considered a protected characteristic alongside sexual orientation. I don’t agree by the way.

A paedophile can no more be rehabilitated than the sexual orientation of any individual can be changed at will because they’re told so.

That is (potentially) what future life looks like.
Bills to make child sex 'a sexual orientation", another one for the ever growing LGBT label.
Not one LGBT person I know wants that attached to them because they're gay/trans, not child abusers.

It's disgusting and outrageous and wrong and should never be allowed to happen.

LittleCharlotte · 12/04/2025 18:29

Nextdoor55 · 12/04/2025 17:55

I know the law, but I'm saying that 60 years, at 17 seems excessive.

Do you have a link to this case? I'm trying to find one but all I can find is murder charges (unsurprisingly).

Nextdoor55 · 12/04/2025 18:05

PBJsandwich123 · 12/04/2025 18:01

Better than the electric chair and better than he deserves. Hate the trend towards decriminalisation of rape in the UK. Bring back the electric chair. Men need to start treating us like the queens that we are not a set of orifices for them to take advantage of - particularly minors should be protected from this vile shite.

Edited

I think you're obviously hanging out with the wrong guys

PBJsandwich123 · 12/04/2025 18:01

Nextdoor55 · 12/04/2025 17:55

I know the law, but I'm saying that 60 years, at 17 seems excessive.

Better than the electric chair and better than he deserves. Hate the trend towards decriminalisation of rape in the UK. Bring back the electric chair. Men need to start treating us like the queens that we are not a set of orifices for them to take advantage of - particularly minors should be protected from this vile shite.

Nextdoor55 · 12/04/2025 17:55

PBJsandwich123 · 12/04/2025 17:53

This is still a crime - 14yo are children who are unable to consent, 18yo are not

I know the law, but I'm saying that 60 years, at 17 seems excessive.

PBJsandwich123 · 12/04/2025 17:53

Nextdoor55 · 08/04/2025 22:06

In America a 18 year old got 60 years for a 14 year old. Was mutual, no rape as such (in law of course it is but he didn't force himself) yeah 60 years.
It's quite possible

This is still a crime - 14yo are children who are unable to consent, 18yo are not

ZoggyStirdust · 12/04/2025 14:23

ZoggyStirdust · 12/04/2025 14:21

She did yes

shes not clarified if she’s seen proof or if this is a rumour. She said it was “verifiable”, not that it had been verified by her

I’ve just seen the post that said she google searched. I’ll shut up now as my usual RTFT skills appear to have deserted me today…

ZoggyStirdust · 12/04/2025 14:21

NC28 · 12/04/2025 13:28

OP clarified a while ago that it was a conviction for making, possessing and distributing CSA material. So there’s no debate to be had as to if he was 17 and had sex with a 15 year old or something.

She did yes

shes not clarified if she’s seen proof or if this is a rumour. She said it was “verifiable”, not that it had been verified by her

Pessismistic · 12/04/2025 14:14

Pumpkin05 · 08/04/2025 11:26

I trusted the person who told me, but also a quick google search confirmed the details.

I don’t know if the club know, but as others have said, hopefully they have the appropriate checks/safeguarding measures in place if he ever tries to get more involved than just watching from the sidelines.

Hey op I hope you have informed the club and parents and if you can the poor women whose with him. There would be nothing worse than hearing he’s done it again to someone in your community and you didn’t tell anyone. It’s not gossip it’s fact that could prevent it happening again. No one ever gets over abuse. Especially a child.

WearyAuldWumman · 12/04/2025 14:01

Just to add: the predator that I mentioned previously used to refer to his "daughters". They weren't. They were his partner's.

There's no guarantee that the predator in the OP is genuinely the father of the child. (Yes, a bio child would also be at risk, but that type of person is notorious for seeking out vulnerable/naive women.)

LittleCharlotte · 12/04/2025 13:48

TheWisePlumDuck · 12/04/2025 11:16

I'd make sure the details of what he did were spread around the entire club.

Pedophiles are calculating repugnant creatures that have never been shown to truly change, he will always want to rape children. I wouldn't be surprised if that is exactly why he accompanies his child to this sport.

Unfortunately the law doesn't protect you or your children, so the best you can do is stay very vigilant over your own dc, and make sure anyone who comes into contact with him knows exactly what he is.

Indeed - like recovered addicts steer clear from their drug of choice, if he were remorseful he wouldn't go near children but here he is actively seeking them out.

NC28 · 12/04/2025 13:28

OP clarified a while ago that it was a conviction for making, possessing and distributing CSA material. So there’s no debate to be had as to if he was 17 and had sex with a 15 year old or something.

TheWisePlumDuck · 12/04/2025 11:23

SmoothEncounter · 11/04/2025 13:42

Why are you being so nasty to the OP? She has asked for opinions, as she has concerns, quite rightly, and there is no indication she’s a village gossip.

People usually respond like this to an op when they feel personally attacked don't they.

How very... telling.

TheWisePlumDuck · 12/04/2025 11:16

I'd make sure the details of what he did were spread around the entire club.

Pedophiles are calculating repugnant creatures that have never been shown to truly change, he will always want to rape children. I wouldn't be surprised if that is exactly why he accompanies his child to this sport.

Unfortunately the law doesn't protect you or your children, so the best you can do is stay very vigilant over your own dc, and make sure anyone who comes into contact with him knows exactly what he is.

ZoggyStirdust · 12/04/2025 11:08

LittleCharlotte · 12/04/2025 10:47

She has, earlier in the thread.

Ah apologies to them, you’re correct she noted the offence. My fault.

I can’t find her saying she’s seen proof though