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Adolescence - aibu to think this is more a story about bullying?

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Apricotfuzz · 05/04/2025 19:24

Aibu to think Andrew Tate has nothing to do with it, I don't understand the emphasis on this strange moral panic. Isn't the bullying behaviour the real trigger? Why are we talking about Tate rather than our out of control kids who behave atrociously

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maddening · 05/04/2025 19:50

Sminty2 · 05/04/2025 19:32

Your post is exactly the reason that Adolescence was made and needs to be seen by everyone, until they get what is happening to our young men and girls. It is insidious.
Please watch it again.

What have you confirmed is happening to our boys and girls and what is there beyond a tv show to PROVE your summation. And precisely what numbers ( by population, by ethnicity and broken down by geological location) of boys and girls is this actually happening to in real life.

I have said on other threads - we should not be demonising our boys.

Spirallingdownwards · 05/04/2025 19:48

HisBoxers · 05/04/2025 19:43

I've not watched the show yet. I only know bits and pieces. Are we saying the girl bullied the boy?

The girl calls him an incel by the use of the emojis she uses in reference to him online. He can't handle her rejection of him when he wants her to go out with him and stabs her.

5128gap · 05/04/2025 19:47

The trigger was a girl rejecting a boy for a date at the fair. He thought she would accept him because she had been brought low and made 'weak' by boys sneering at her for being flat chested, after circulating topless pictures of her. Where do you imagine a 13 year old boy would get the idea he was so entitled to a date with her, that he punished her refusal with murder?

Spirallingdownwards · 05/04/2025 19:46

Apricotfuzz · 05/04/2025 19:40

Please don't be vague and ambiguous like that. If you feel it is underscoring a vital message - then why wouldn't you make it clear. What have I missed?

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That it is precisely about the likes of Tate and other misogynistic influencers telling boys that women are nothing and they aren't allowed to reject you and if they do it's OK to physically assault (or in this case kill) them.
That our kids aren't safe up on their rooms when they have access to this crap they are spewing.

It isn't ambiguous at all.

HisBoxers · 05/04/2025 19:43

I've not watched the show yet. I only know bits and pieces. Are we saying the girl bullied the boy?

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Apricotfuzz · 05/04/2025 19:40

Sminty2 · 05/04/2025 19:32

Your post is exactly the reason that Adolescence was made and needs to be seen by everyone, until they get what is happening to our young men and girls. It is insidious.
Please watch it again.

Please don't be vague and ambiguous like that. If you feel it is underscoring a vital message - then why wouldn't you make it clear. What have I missed?

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Sminty2 · 05/04/2025 19:32

Your post is exactly the reason that Adolescence was made and needs to be seen by everyone, until they get what is happening to our young men and girls. It is insidious.
Please watch it again.

Maitri108 · 05/04/2025 19:27

Rejection seems to have been the trigger.