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Partner won't put me on deeds !!

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Stockgirl · 05/04/2025 18:24

Hi, my ex partner and i have been seeing each other for a couple of months to see if we can rescue our long term relationship (25 years)...he asked me to go back a few months ago and he said he'd put me on the deeds of the house..but after talking to him today he said he wanted to see where the relationship went before moving forward with that!!
This causes a massive problem for me because I think he doesn't see me has his equal...after everything I've put into the property I think I deserve something...am I being unreasonable? I can't see a way forward tbh if we can't get past this...

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usersldjfksdoi · 05/04/2025 18:43

The time to be asking this is not when you are an 'ex partner' and trying to 'rescue' a relationship.

The time to sort it is right at the start of the 25 years.

Why would he do this now if he hasn't for 25 years?

spicemaiden · 05/04/2025 18:42

Just walk away. There’s no runway left.

BeeCucumber · 05/04/2025 18:42

Why didn’t you just get married 25 years ago?

DelphiniumBlue · 05/04/2025 18:41

Why did you split up?
I’d have thought that if he wants you back permanently he’d be offering to marry you after such a long relationship.
How committed is he?

faerietales · 05/04/2025 18:40

He had 25 years to put you on the deeds (or marry you) but chose not to.

Why on earth would he do it now?

Original poster
Stockgirl · 05/04/2025 18:38

I paid for double glazed doors and flooring, furnishings etc and half of the bills every month.
I left with absolutely nothing except my clothes.
I saw a solicitor and he said that I'd have an expensive fight on my hands if I wanted to take him to court.
I just see him in a different light now tbh , I thought he cared deeply about me but if he did then why not help me financially.

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faerietales · 05/04/2025 18:34

I wouldn't put you on the deeds either in his shoes.

Glitchymn1 · 05/04/2025 18:30

Did you buy the property together?
How did you split bills etc?
You'd need to see a solicitor really…

Itisjustmyopinion · 05/04/2025 18:30

If I was in your partner’s shoes I wouldn’t be putting you on the deeds just yet either

You have only been back together a few months after a break up. How do either of you know it’s going to work long term?

He has to protect himself as much as you want to be in the deeds to have security. That is something you do when you are both absolutely sure this is a long term thing

rubyslippers · 05/04/2025 18:28

If he hasn’t acted in the last 25 years, he has no reason to now
Without being married you really need to understand your entitlement
id not get back with him and get urgent legal advice

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 05/04/2025 18:26

Can you prove that you have contributed a significant amount of money to the property? If so then maybe you should talk to a solicitor and see what your options are.