Partner won't put me on deeds !!

It's possible to split property ownership in uneven shares, no requirement at all for 50/50. In England and Wales it's called tenancy in common.

I never said anything about 'working things out'. If her name went on the deeds, she'd be a joint owner - so half each. And, as I said initially, we really don't have enough information to judge. OP doesn't have to continue contributing. Also, her partner doesn't have to put her on the deeds - or even let her live in his house! P.S. Crack is not my drug of choice.

Where did I say she was entitled to half???

Nowhere.

Hiwever, she did invest in a property she had no claim to abc is now trying to irk things out with a dick who happily took that money to improve his property.

In what world would it be a sane option to advise the OP to carry on ‘working things out’ with a man who likely (given his historical behaviour) will more than happily allow OP to continue investing with no actual security net?

if you’ll let him think this is a viable and fair option I can only ask the following: are you on crack?

Sorry to say OP that you've made a lot of mistakes. By getting back with him you'll just be making yet another. My advice would be to change the tide and make a good decision- to leave.

But she was also housed during that time so didn't have to pay rent elsewhere. I don't think she's entitled to claim half of his property and they should have sorted this out much earlier.

You chose to stay with him even though you weren't married and he hadn't put you on the deeds, though. You also chose to go part-time.

We have no idea what you put into the property or the relationship (was it his house in the first place?) so how on earth can we judge?

@Stockgirl how old are the dc? Were you pt for the full 25 years? As @redphonecase has already said a single mn search would have been so useful!

Yeah, hindsight is 20/20 but I would never have children without being married. It’s been an edgy fad since the 1990s to call it just a piece of paper and never get married but 90% of the time this means the woman gets screwed over.

You lost 25yrs to this man, don’t lose any more years! You still have decades ahead of you, leave him and don’t look back. Preferably, take at least the furniture you bought with you when you leave again.

You paid half the bills and so did he.

He paid all the mortgage.

Furnishings don't add value to the property but if you paid for double glazing that arguably gives you a small portion.

You don't love him and don't want a sexual relationship but want half his asset.

There is no point moaning about how you didn't protect yourself financially now 25 years down the line when you split and are only just back together. He would be mad to give away his asset now.

Well you were very foolish to do this without being married. As 5 minutes on MN would have told you.

Then you put yourself in a very, very vulnerable position and are now paying the price for that.

You have left yourself in a very vulnerable position but I guess you know this. Your ex deserves a fulfilling relationship in all senses of that expression.

Seriously just walk away.

Hes a prick and he’s persuaded you to financially contribute to his house.

Hes gif what he wants and more going by your previous posts

If you’ll let him he will continue to royally screw you

Why didn’t he put you on the mortgage and deeds about 20 years ago? The ship has sailed. You should have been contributing equitably to a joint home and you both should have been on the deeds when you decided the relationship was a serious one and you were going to financially throw your lot in together. I’ve worked PT and earn considerably less than my Dh. We are joint tenants on our house and I’ve been on the mortgage from the very start. At this late stage, I think your past it though.

I would move right back out, he will never see you as an equal, only a lodger.

To be honest, the amount you have put into the house is still cheaper than paying 25yrs of rent as a single person.

You can leave him and succeed on your own.

But he has been helping you financially, hasn’t he? You say in your other thread that you’re financially much better off living with him, which is why you were considering getting back together. You said you don’t love him and you don’t want a sexual relationship with him. He would have to be very foolish to put you on the deeds now.

It’s a lot harder to break up and move on when you’re financially tied. If there’s a decent chance you aren’t going to make this relationship work (and it sounds like that may very likely be the case, from your subsequent posts) then just keep on living your own life, with separate finances, saving your own money away for what is likely going to be a future on your own. Then you can end the relationship if you need to on your own terms without having to fight for your own stake.

It sounds like a fairly shit relationship. There are a lot of problems and you resent a lot of the past. Is it really worth it?

As a fellow 'cohabitee' rather than spouse, I understand where you're coming from.

However, if I were him and things are still quite rocky, I would not put you on deeds yet either. Have you been contributing to the mortgage or in other ways on top of bills all these years ie childcare so he can earn? If not, he could say you've benefitted by living rent free all this time... If you want the relationship back I'd work at that, and revisit when things feel more solid...

You’ve been taken for a mug. You’ve improved a Hoise you had no claim to. You are on a hiding to nowhere.

walk away and start again and do not give your hard earned money to a wanker who will use it gif his own gains again.