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holidaydramallama · 05/04/2025 09:18

We're going away at easter with our DC (so next week) just for a cheapish week in Spain. DH has a teen DS, who unfortunately isn't able to come due to GCSE revision.

We want to make sure DSS gets a holiday with us in the summer after his GCSEs, but would need to be in summer hols because of our own DC and school terms (so v expensive).

We both earn ok and split holidays where we can.

My AIBU is that DH is refusing to look at summer holidays now, as we're going away next week. My argument is that I am fed up of the last minute nature of all of DHs planning, and I've found a reasonable option for august and the prices might go up - I don't think I should be expected to pay more if we split the cost if the prices go up (if its even still available it might not be!) be DH refuses to look now.

I can't even just book something with a deposit as he just won't agree to pay it, and I don't/can't cover the entire cost myself.

WDYT?

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holidaydramallama · 05/04/2025 09:28

@Passthecake30 I don't think he'll look even then - he has form for being very last minute with holidays all the time.

@TheFlis said he doesn't want to sign up to thousands - but still insists he must take DSS away in the summer so I can't understand the logic (I've found a very good eurocamp and cheap flights) which is ironic as it'll end up a lot more the longer we leave it (which has happened before and we had to change locations because of it). We can afford it.

I'd be fine with a lodge in the UK or something but it's him that insists that DSS should go abroad so I don't really know what his actual rationale is lol.

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TheFlis · 05/04/2025 09:20

What is his rationale for refusing to look now?

Passthecake30 · 05/04/2025 09:20

Wait until you’ve been away next week first and try again?

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