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AIBU to be tired of living next to other people?

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GrumpyNeighbourAgain · 05/04/2025 09:11

Is anyone else tired of having neighbours? Has anyone else moved to somewhere more remote as a result?

My neighbours aren’t nearly as bad as some that I’ve had but they’re still grating on me. I don’t like kids and I’m tired of all the noise and accoutrements that come with them. Every week it feels like there’s another giant play item blocking my view and they also put it closest to my fence though there’s one side that has no one next to it.

I’m tired of screaming children. Why do children all seem to scream unnecessarily now and why does no one tell them to stop it?

Neighbour’s teenage kids shouting, laughing and talking at full volume coming home at 3am.

I’m tired of people’s motorbikes, garden parties and just noise in almost every form.

I wouldn’t mind having neighbours who are around, say 100 yards from me but not much closer.

Has anyone else moved more rurally/remote and was it worth it?

TIA

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Posia · 05/04/2025 09:23

I did originally grew up rural but ended up moving to a fairly busy housing estate, lasted 5 years before selling up couldn’t cope with the screaming, so much screaming and other noise, back rural again, can’t even see my neighbour, it improved my mental health so much

PickettWhiteFences · 05/04/2025 09:22

I grew up rurally, (our house actually backed on to a farm paddock), and I remember being home sick as a teenager with a terrible dose of the flu, having to listen to a very loud mooing cow! It was agony. Not to mention roosters, trucks and other noise associated with rural activity etc. The countryside is not necessairly peace and quiet.

I actually didnt mind the noise most of the time (maybe because I was use to it?) but I really couldnt go back to rural life due to the isolation. When I went to university it was such a novelty to have a take away delivered Grin

CaptainMyCaptain · 05/04/2025 09:22

farmlife2 · 05/04/2025 09:14

The countryside is not quiet. You have all sorts of noises. Maybe you'd prefer those noises though.

I have foxes barking all night. I'm on the very edge of suburbia though so I have neighbours too. I don't mind the normal sounds of people living their lives.

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GrumpyNeighbourAgain · 05/04/2025 09:20

farmlife2 · 05/04/2025 09:14

The countryside is not quiet. You have all sorts of noises. Maybe you'd prefer those noises though.

I do. I live directly opposite a farm. I’m looking at it now and I enjoy hearing the pheasants calling and I don’t mind the farm machinery and farm animals at all.

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RuthTopp · 05/04/2025 09:19

I live in a cul de sac of mainly older people and we are all detached , not remote but on the edge of a village .
Next door to us is 1 child aged around 5/6 but we never see/hear them as both parents work full time and they are hardly at home.
Do you want actual remoteness or could you find the equivalent of around here near to you ?

Ihavepandassurvivalinstinct · 05/04/2025 09:18

Btw more people moan about the noise because the world has actually got noisier (and less colourful)

Ihavepandassurvivalinstinct · 05/04/2025 09:17

Lived in a flat now temporarily. I am with you.
I don't know how so many people get through life without learning how door handles work. Or talking at normal volume. That's my latest gripe.

I still dream of the small old farmhouse away from other houses I saw advertised but sadly too far to commute to work😭

Katemax82 · 05/04/2025 09:16

We moved to a detached bungalow, now we get large lorries and tractors thundering down our road

farmlife2 · 05/04/2025 09:14

The countryside is not quiet. You have all sorts of noises. Maybe you'd prefer those noises though.

Thirteenblackcat · 05/04/2025 09:14

I’d definitely move somewhere more remote if I felt like this. Sounds like you need solitude