AIBU to be tired of living next to other people?

I'd sooner live next to a cockerel farm than next to kids.

Children can live their lives without screaming. Just not necessary and we seem to accept it. I'd have been given short shrift as a child for screaming anywhere in the house or garden (densely populated South London). In this case, my parents would have been correct.

This year seems quiet near me, family with 2 loud children moved last Yr. Next door are quiet never hear them although they are awake during the night to relations back home in Zimbabwe. 80 Yr old man other neighbour is very quiet, no trouble. Bottom flat is empty. The 2 houses that back on to mine are quiet as well, although 1 man smokes weed and the awful smell is wafting over which I'm not happy with.
I have just had all privacy fencing put up because I don't want to see anyone.

I am autistic too, I can't stand neighbours 😂, fingers crossed we can move pretty soon, meanwhile I have maaaany pairs of headphones, my favourite are a pair of noise cancelling sound core that I play lovely soothing bird noise through and pretend I live in rural idyll. Try it, it honestly is sanity saving.

Kids are allowed to be loud. It's not loudness that's the issue. It's the high pitched screaming that's the biggest issue for me and most of my neighbours but we daren't say anything. We're not expecting children to play quietly. Mine shouted, laughed loud but they didn't scream. I'm beginning to think that some people have never heard the shrieking I'm talking about. It's not just standard kids playing noise.

I live in a semi rural area my estate is full of younger children but I’m really lucky as they don’t seem to be out all the time screaming and when they are in the gardens it’s normal kids play which I love to hear.
where I lived before was on massive long road and the noise was awful , balls kicked up the fence all day every day etc but what can you do really , kids need to play out and it’s safer for parents to put all the toys in the gardens so they worry less about them playing out etc.
i have to say I love hearing the foxes , deer and badgers etc wildlife noise is joyous to me
I hope you find your peace op , it’s not easy not relaxing where you live

Do you have any tips on reducing your child’s noise? Mine are crazy loud at home and nothing works long term.

Im struggling to see how parents can control their children’s behaviour when not present. In our village, it’s the kids who are left to go out on their own who cause the most mischievous (read antisocial behaviour and criminal damage).

Perfect for you @GrumpyNeighbourAgain 😆

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We (my husband, then 9 year old daughter and me) moved from Barnet to the countryside ten years ago.

Our house and (approximately) half acre garden is surrounded by farmland. We have no shared boundaries with other residential properties.

The two neighbouring houses are five and ten minutes walk up the lane, respectively. We are good friends with both households.

As well as not having to put up with other people's noise, we don't have to worry about disturbing the neighbours either. We often sit out late with friends during the summer and can do so without worrying that our music or conversation is upsetting anyone.

We can walk into the local village (with a small shop, pub and church) in 10-15 minutes and the nearest market town (with supermarkets and a mainline railway station with direct trains into central London) is a further five miles away.

There are small disadvantages:

There is no footpath for much of the way between our house and the village, which can make walking to and from the village at night a bit hazardous.

The smell when the farmer sprays the fields around our house is enough to scorch your nostrils, but he only does it once or twice a year.

Occasionally, the cows or sheep break free from their fields and up the lane, or into our garden. They make a bit of a mess of the lawn and we usually lose a few flowers, but we don't mind.

I would definitely recommend rural/edge of village living to anyone who can afford it. The difference in our quality of life since we moved from London is immeasurable.

Used his own funds for the purchase I believe

Should we all be like PC? Bought a house next to Camillas "Bolthole" for 3 mil.Apparently Camilla was worried that the house (stately home) would be used for noisy weddings ,disturbing her peace and quiet!

We live in the " Burbs Pretty quiet usually.decent NDN. However Some building work goes on sometimes .Dont mind DC objects to drilling ,banging and so on though!

This is such nonsense. I've lived in estates with families my whole life. My kids used to play out on the street etc. The noise from kids nowadays is on a whole other level. My youngest is only 13 so it wasn't a million years ago that mine were out, they weren't allowed to roar and scream though.

Only just last night DH went out to the street to check everything was ok because a child was doing that high pitched horror movie screaming, he thought the child was seriously hurt...nope just 'playing' with another child. How the parents can stand it is beyond me. I'm used to it (hate it though) but he's usually at work when kids are out round here. It's completely different to how it was only a few years ago.

I've lived in towns, cities, villages and now the coast. When I was a child we lived under a railway bridge and its fair to say I never noticed great big steam trains trundling over the top of our home. When in the city it was road noise and a few sirens, in the village farm noises and church bells. Now, on the coast the sound of the sea and holiday makers enjoying themselves. I like to hear happy giggling children having fun but what I can't abide is screaming children and noisy loud adults!

We are in the process of moving to a house in a conservation area that backs on to arable farm land. Neighbours are probably 50+ metres away on each side side and we are separated by trees and hedgerows.

No more people parking right outside my front door, no more next doors kids in the garden before 7am, no more listening to others peoples music blaring from their gardens and no more constantly having to close the windows because outside stinks of weed.

I cannot wait for moving day!

This would be very area specific. Town and cities? Yes due to traffic mostly.

Rural areas? Villages? Not so much.

Also country specific, in some countries there’s a notable population decline so it won’t be noisier. In others, like much of Asia, it definitely will be noisier.

Peoples tolerance to noise is also a major factor. OP is either an extreme introvert or a miserable git 😂. She probably would have felt that way 50 years ago too.

Longing for no neighbours. Ours have 2 barky dogs, the walls are thin and they're into weed. I'm sure they are getting revenge on us for years of noisy kids though

I live rurally and it is bliss. I really couldn't cope with hearing people around me all of the time.

We moved from the suburbs, with inconsiderate noisy neighbours to a farmhouse surrounded by fields.
No near neighbours and no houses visible from anywhere in the house yet we live 2.5 miles from the nearest supermarket.
It is absolute bliss, been here 10 years and we'll not be moving again.

I totally get you OP. I'm desperate for solitude but not sure I can afford it. I live in a terrace and it's 60 a day smoking on one side and deaf person's ear splitting tv the other.
I bought some noise blocking ear phones but I can't block my nasal passages, I need to breathe.
Sometimes I just want to get my tent out and go somewhere very remote for a week on my own. We don't have screaming kids here but the adults make up for it.
I'm thinking of moving to Wales when I retire.

We are in a small terrace, in a cluster of hmmmm maybe 6 rows of terraces.

so it does have the potential to be very noisy.

I was thinking just today we have always been very lucky with the amount of noise- sure there are moments, a one off party being noisy at midnight, a sunny day spoilt by a bloody power washer , or a yappy dog , but ultimately it’s fairly quiet.

I don’t know what helps this - possibly how small the houses are ? So as soon as people have kids they tend to move ( we bought it in 2007 and have never been able to borrow as much since ) They seem to attract couples.

I too would love no neighbours at all but I do know it could be worse

Absolutely. I have lived in numerous flats all my life in another country before coming here ( eh, a maisonette, only two floors block but) I have never had noisy neighbours. People are ashamed of having bad fame in my country so even if they have problems, they hide them or just separate. Kids go out and play in playgrounds or streets because the gardens, both front and back are usually used as market gardens or small holding. So kids don't run and scream like mad????

We moved 12 years ago because my DH felt much as you do. We live 6 miles from a market town with 1 quite detached neighbour and are surrounded by livery stables and horses. There is quite a lot of noise in the day time from horses, livery stables employees and their families, including children, the blacksmith makes a lot of noise once a month generally, but they all go home between 5 and 7 pm and then we have a gloriously quiet time until early the next morning, with an amazing wide view and quite a bit of wildlife (muntjac deer, foxes, rabbits, hares, house martins in the summer, red kites, owls, woodpeckers, badgers, frogs) which we really love. Great walks from the door, high levels of privacy, easy drive into town to get train for commute for work. Downside is the need to provide transport, driving lessons and then cars and insurance for the kids which is time consuming and expensive. Zero public transport. I’d like to stay here at least until we retire in 10 years or so.

We are moving from a city semi detached to a rural detached and I cannot bloody wait!

the quiet, the birds…heaven.

Yes. Most mothers know it's not ok to.lwt kids scream all day. Maybe we can teach those of you that don't....