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To think maternity leave should be capped at 6 months to protect small businesses?

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YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 15:37

Hear me out before throwing things! I work for a small business, and every time someone goes on maternity leave, it causes massive disruption. Hiring temps who don’t know the role, training them, juggling workloads - it can’t always be absorbed. I completely understand that maternity leave is a right but should it really be up to 12 months? For SMEs, it’s almost impossible. AIBU to think six months should be the limit, with the rest unpaid or taken as shared parental leave?

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YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:31

Coconutter24 · 04/04/2025 16:01

Hiring temps who don’t know the role, training them, juggling workloads - it can’t always be absorbed.

Surely if a temp has been hired and don’t know the role, they then learn that in the first few weeks and after 6 months should know the role so why can’t they continue for another 6 months to cover 12 months? The most disruptive part would be the first few weeks and not in the last 6-12 months

That’s true in theory and sometimes it does work out that way. But in reality, especially in small businesses, temporary cover is rarely a 1:1 replacement. Even if the temp gets a hang of the role after a few weeks, they’re often still operating at a ‘just keep it ticking over’ level rather than fully owning the work or driving things forward.

And depending on the role, the longer someone’s out, the more disconnected they can feel when they return - meaning there’s disruption again during handover or reintegration. It’s not always as simple as ‘they’re trained, now it runs smoothly.’

It’s not that I think we should cut people off at 6 months - it’s that I think we need to more open discussion around the strain long-term absences place on small teams and how to support everyone better through it.

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babyproblems · 04/04/2025 16:31

I think it’s not enough tbh!!!! Support for mothers’ in general is utter crap and nowhere near enough.

Ciaroscuro · 04/04/2025 16:31

MajorCarolDanvers · 04/04/2025 16:00

Also @YourOpalLeader I would be interested in hearing your personal experience?

Were you completely physically recovered after your births by 6 months?
Did you breastfeed - how did you cope with that when you returned to work?
How did you find weaning onto food at 6 months whilst juggling your job?
Was your baby sleeping well at that age?

My first was born in 2000, he turned out to be autistic, and no he wasn't sleeping or eating well at 5 months when I had to go back to work. We only got 6 months leave back then you know, he was 2 weeks late and I stopped work at 37 weeks.

Scottishskifun · 04/04/2025 16:27

No it shouldn't be capped at 6 months. I had some friends back earlier as they were on french contracts where mat leave is less, in all buy 1 case within a few months the women were signed off sick for quite a while as they struggled with full on jobs, little sleep and usually a baby that's teething.
That's not good for a small business either!

I used shared parental leave both times at around 9 months but leave meant I was off for 11 months as my work wouldn't let me carry it over. By that point I was ready to go back, fully engaged and children settled well and quickly into nursery.
The other issue is finding a nursery which accepts enough young babies due to ratios - most women are off before birth which means your talking babies who are 5 months old. Add in the cost and you would probably find more women quitting.

For small businesses well frankly they should review how they conduct business no business (other then 1 person companies) should have a single point failure risk.

VerySkilledFirefighter · 04/04/2025 16:26

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:19

I completely respect that lived experience shapes how people view maternity leave and I don’t pretend to speak for all mothers. But I don’t think you have to have gone through birth or breastfeeding to raise questions about how the current system affects everyone it touches - not just parents, but small teams, employers, and colleagues too.

This isn’t about telling people how long they should take to recover or care for a baby - it’s about recognising that long-term absences, while completely valid, have real knock-on effects in small workplaces. We should be able to talk about that without it being framed as an attack on parents.

We can hold space for both: the reality of early parenthood and the reality of trying to run a sustainable business or team during long absences.

Yes but in most cases, a temp that has worked there for 6 months will do a better job for the remaining 6 months of mat leave than a mother who is forced back to work on not enough sleep, needing to pump regularly and not physically healed from the major trauma of child birth. So someone will still need to pick up her slack.

And you idea says the second six months should be shared parental - now you’ve just doubled the number of people who are taking 6 months off to disrupt the business while at the same time making it harder to cover because it’s too short a contract length.

You also said the rest could be unpaid. But that it’s not about cost. Well it’s only 9 months paid now, so does reducing this by 6 months have a material difference?

I think with this sort of two tier system, you make large employers a more attractive offer and you’ll be less able to attract the best talent. And you might find a lot more people not returning after maternity and finding a new job instead which is even more disruptive.

I do think the system should be overhauled with more government funding for SME employers of those on parental leave - but reducing periods of leave is not the answer.

224RainandSunshine · 04/04/2025 16:25

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:13

Yes, I think male employees should have access to meaningful parental leave too and I’d support that. Shared parental leave should be normalised - not just to make things fairer at home but also to reduce the automatic assumption that women will always be the ones out for long periods.

But you’ve actually hit the point I was trying to raise: it’s not about gender, it’s about business strain. Whether it’s a man or a woman, when a key member is gone for 6-12 months, it’s disruptive - especially for small businesses with limited backup.

That’s why I think we need more creative, flexible models that protect both parental rights and business sustainability - instead of treating it like an either/or.

@YourOpalLeader my husband is pretty hands on and a good dad. He can't breastfeed. He's also not the one who had to push a baby out and recover from that. So realistically most men will not be taking leave in the first 12 months.

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:25

FanofLeaves · 04/04/2025 16:00

And woman who are breastfeeding very small babies who have only just started to wean? What are they supposed to do? Where are all the childcare places available to care for these very small immobile babies, many of whom are still dependant on their mother for nutrition? Not to mention the emotional and possible physical impact of going back to work six months after giving birth. I know some women do it, whether out of choice or necessity, but to suggest it should be the norm is ludicrous for all involved.

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I understand your concerns, and I want to be really clear that I’m not suggesting all women should return to work at six months, or that breastfeeding and early childcare aren’t major considerations.

What I am saying is that the current model puts a lot of pressure on small businesses, and that’s its worth asking whether there’s a way to better support everyone involved - including parents who want longer leave and the businesses trying to stay afloat in their absence.

If six months because a default with extended leave offered through shared parental options or government support, it wouldn’t mean forcing everyone back - it could mean providing more choice and less pressure on any one part of the system.

It’s not about disregarding mothers or babies - it’s about creating a setup that works more sustainably for all the moving parts.

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Mamabear487 · 04/04/2025 16:25

You sound like someone who has never had kids.

MyrtleLion · 04/04/2025 16:23

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 15:56

I do and I actually think MN is the perfect place to talk about this. Who better to weigh in on how maternity leave works in practice - and how it affects everyone - than the people who’ve taken it, managed around it, or juggled both?

I’m not here to bash maternity leave - I’m here to ask if the current system works for everyone it impacts, including small businesses. If there’s no space for nuance on here, where is there?

You sound like a journalist.

Or researching a book.

CF.

UrinalCake · 04/04/2025 16:23

224RainandSunshine · 04/04/2025 16:21

Well, I don't live in the UK and I only got 6 months mat leave (I added vacation to make it 7). It's extremely challenging and I'm working at about 50% capacity.

Employer has to give me 4 × 20 minutes breaks to pump milk for my baby by law. realistically I faff a lot longer than that with my pump, sterilising etc. I leave the office at 5.00, never a minute longer, as I want to avoid pumping one more time so i go home to feed baby.

And I'm pretty slow as baby still wakes once a night so I am suuuuuper tired.

And I still have birth injuries I have to do physio for so employer has to let me do those too.

3 women in my team resigned while on mat leave as they couldn't face coming back so soon. So now employer is scrambling last minute for hires.

It really doesn't work very well. At 12 months, babies are not breastfeeding in the day anymore. They mostly sleep through the night and are absolute terrors in the day so you put them in nursery anyway so they can expend energy. Physically most women have recovered.

One of those be careful what you wish for situations. It's not necessarily to an employer's advantage to have someone in work who isn't fit to be there.

Reminds me of reading on here ages ago about some City firms who give full pay for a big chunk of the mat leave. Posters said the subtext was essentially, don't come back until you're fully recovered and ready to give 200% again.

YaWeeFurryBastard · 04/04/2025 16:22

Any business should be able to survive with any member of staff being absent for a period of time or leaving, it really is the very basics and one of the first things I look at when taking over a new team. If you can’t do that you’re not viable and playing a dangerous game.

Snugglemonkey · 04/04/2025 16:22

No. I think that statutory maternity pay should be extended to a full year, making it easier for women to take the full time.

UrinalCake · 04/04/2025 16:22

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:19

I completely respect that lived experience shapes how people view maternity leave and I don’t pretend to speak for all mothers. But I don’t think you have to have gone through birth or breastfeeding to raise questions about how the current system affects everyone it touches - not just parents, but small teams, employers, and colleagues too.

This isn’t about telling people how long they should take to recover or care for a baby - it’s about recognising that long-term absences, while completely valid, have real knock-on effects in small workplaces. We should be able to talk about that without it being framed as an attack on parents.

We can hold space for both: the reality of early parenthood and the reality of trying to run a sustainable business or team during long absences.

There are other, better ways to help small businesses in this situation.

For example, you could advocate for them to be able to claim more than the 103% of SMP costs they currently recoup. This would also have the advantage of helping those smaller businesses whose staff take extended paternity leave. Or there could be tax breaks for the period.

Fibrous · 04/04/2025 16:21

I work at a small business (30 something staff). We have men and women taking six months or so parental leave, there's quite a lot of leave sharing going on in our industry these days (science and tech). Our company has now approached some agreement on six months sabbaticals, so those of us who have no kids don't feel hard done by picking up extra slack to cover parental leave, training, etc, if we also fancy taking some time off. No one has taken a full year off yet, though, but life would go on if they did. It's difficult recruiting in our specialities but we have been able to pick up the slack internally so far.

224RainandSunshine · 04/04/2025 16:21

Well, I don't live in the UK and I only got 6 months mat leave (I added vacation to make it 7). It's extremely challenging and I'm working at about 50% capacity.

Employer has to give me 4 × 20 minutes breaks to pump milk for my baby by law. realistically I faff a lot longer than that with my pump, sterilising etc. I leave the office at 5.00, never a minute longer, as I want to avoid pumping one more time so i go home to feed baby.

And I'm pretty slow as baby still wakes once a night so I am suuuuuper tired.

And I still have birth injuries I have to do physio for so employer has to let me do those too.

3 women in my team resigned while on mat leave as they couldn't face coming back so soon. So now employer is scrambling last minute for hires.

It really doesn't work very well. At 12 months, babies are not breastfeeding in the day anymore. They mostly sleep through the night and are absolute terrors in the day so you put them in nursery anyway so they can expend energy. Physically most women have recovered.

RightThenFred · 04/04/2025 16:19

It's easier to get decent maternity cover if you can offer a 12 month contract. Not many people want a 6 month contract - you limit your pool. Also, do you really want a mum of a small baby to be back at work... I'm a valuable employee with in-demand skills but would have been fairly useless at that stage, with the sleep deprivation. And also very sad to have been forced back prematurely - so frankly I'd be looking for another job, somewhere they can handle the fact that women have babies.

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:19

MajorCarolDanvers · 04/04/2025 16:00

Also @YourOpalLeader I would be interested in hearing your personal experience?

Were you completely physically recovered after your births by 6 months?
Did you breastfeed - how did you cope with that when you returned to work?
How did you find weaning onto food at 6 months whilst juggling your job?
Was your baby sleeping well at that age?

I completely respect that lived experience shapes how people view maternity leave and I don’t pretend to speak for all mothers. But I don’t think you have to have gone through birth or breastfeeding to raise questions about how the current system affects everyone it touches - not just parents, but small teams, employers, and colleagues too.

This isn’t about telling people how long they should take to recover or care for a baby - it’s about recognising that long-term absences, while completely valid, have real knock-on effects in small workplaces. We should be able to talk about that without it being framed as an attack on parents.

We can hold space for both: the reality of early parenthood and the reality of trying to run a sustainable business or team during long absences.

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allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 04/04/2025 16:18

@YourOpalLeader it certainly is no use for my dh's business! there are hundreds of different forms which we have to complete, all different with sometimes only a couple of sentences different. anyone goes off sick for a length of time, I have to go in to cover. it would take at least 9 months to learn all the forms!!

PickledElectricity · 04/04/2025 16:18

YABVU and even more so that you don't even own a small business so quite frankly come across as talking out of your arse.

My DS didn't sleep for more than 3 hours at a time until he was 11 months old. Even if I'd WANTED to come back after 6 months I'd have been of absolutely no use to anyone. Probably a hinderance, actually, given how affected I was by the sleep deprivation.

HTH.

unicornpower · 04/04/2025 16:17

You’re changing what your issue is- no, maternity leave should be improving, not mandating women go back to work when their baby is 6 months old.

UrinalCake · 04/04/2025 16:15

YABU.

The idea of watering down legal protections at smaller businesses gets mooted regularly as something to help them. But what would happen is once staff had got trained up and attractive, they'd take their skills to jobs that offer them more legal protections.

You're also still talking about people potentially taking 12 months off anyway, just with different payment. The lowest income ones would be able to take the full time off, they'd just get top up benefits earlier in proceedings. And anyone with a sufficiently well paid spouse or enough savings could still do it.

pelargoniums · 04/04/2025 16:14

SeventeenClovesOfGarlic · 04/04/2025 16:09

I'm childfree, so no skin in the game, but I couldn't care less about anyone's small (or large!) business.
If they're incapable of providing basic legal entitlements to staff they aren't a viable business.

Came here to say exactly this. If it can’t meet workers’ rights it’s not actually a business at all, it’s a fancy hobby.

SeventeenClovesOfGarlic · 04/04/2025 16:14

So the small business can figure out creative, flexible models to ensure their business is viable. It's a them-problem.

Richiewoo · 04/04/2025 16:14

Did a man write this.

Sofiewoo · 04/04/2025 16:14

If the remaining 6 months can be taken as unpaid leave then what difference does it make? Companies reclaim SMP anyway.