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To think maternity leave should be capped at 6 months to protect small businesses?

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YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 15:37

Hear me out before throwing things! I work for a small business, and every time someone goes on maternity leave, it causes massive disruption. Hiring temps who don’t know the role, training them, juggling workloads - it can’t always be absorbed. I completely understand that maternity leave is a right but should it really be up to 12 months? For SMEs, it’s almost impossible. AIBU to think six months should be the limit, with the rest unpaid or taken as shared parental leave?

OP posts:
megthemum · 04/04/2025 16:46

Yes, you are being incredibly unreasonable.

I can only assume (by the fact you put the needs of a small business you don’t even own above those of a tiny human dependant on its mum and those of that mum who is already most likely struggling on what garbage our maternity pay is and the short amount of time she is given to raise and bond with that tiny baby) that you don’t have children. What you’re suggesting doesn’t ‘make things fairer for all’, it makes a difficult time more difficult for a new mum while making things better for the employer.

I like my job and am currently 6 months into maternity and can’t imagine EVER putting that job above my baby. What you’re suggesting is putting the needs of the business first. Absolutely not.

the7Vabo · 04/04/2025 16:46

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:39

I hear you and I’d never suggest separating a mother from her baby at that stage just for convenience. I’m not dismissing how physically and emotionally demanding it is to care for a 6 month old, especially if breastfeeding is still central.

What I’m questioning is whether there’s a better way to support everyone, including businesses, so that maternity leave isn’t something that places disproportionate strain on one side or the other. If we want parents to be supported properly, that means everyone needs to be supported: the mother, the baby, and yes - the business trying to keep going while that parent’s away.

I’m not calling for a rigid 6 month cut off. I’m raising the question of whether more flexibility and shared support could make things fairer for all involved. This isn’t about taking anything away - it’s about making the system work better.

But OP what are you calling for?

You seem to be suggesting that mothers should “share the burden”? What do you actually mean? Work part time?

RedToothBrush · 04/04/2025 16:46

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:25

I understand your concerns, and I want to be really clear that I’m not suggesting all women should return to work at six months, or that breastfeeding and early childcare aren’t major considerations.

What I am saying is that the current model puts a lot of pressure on small businesses, and that’s its worth asking whether there’s a way to better support everyone involved - including parents who want longer leave and the businesses trying to stay afloat in their absence.

If six months because a default with extended leave offered through shared parental options or government support, it wouldn’t mean forcing everyone back - it could mean providing more choice and less pressure on any one part of the system.

It’s not about disregarding mothers or babies - it’s about creating a setup that works more sustainably for all the moving parts.

Perhaps you shouldn't employ anyone with that attitude.

How do you know they aren't going to get cancer or have mental health issues which lead to them going off with stress?

Given your inability to adapt to other people having the audacity to not be a slave to your company I'm not sure your business is particularly viable in the first place.

Themaghag · 04/04/2025 16:45

Frankly, there are already more than enough reasons for women not to have children - the cost of housing and childcare, the hit to their career plans, the difficulties that come with juggling the competing demands of work and family, dire maternity care, plus the complete uselessness of so many men - that if you add too many more disadvantages into the mix, the birth rate will plummet even lower than it already has to the eventual detriment of all businesses. You are being very unreasonable - and I speak as someone who ran her own small business for nearly 30 years!

UrinalCake · 04/04/2025 16:44

If you want systems to work better for small businesses OP, why have you proposed something that will act as an incentive for all their best employees to piss off elsewhere as soon as they become sufficiently attractive to get more rights?

Deckedoutside · 04/04/2025 16:44

Small businesses should take a leaf out of big business book for this sort of thing.

Handbooks explaining how to cover a person's role.

Defined and structured job roles - not simply oh that's one of 'Anna's areas'. Don't have 'Anna' and 'Sue' have 'an administrative manager' and a 'HR assistant' etc. Make the roles clear, and don't let a person's work ever only their business.

Hire temps for a full year, utilise job sharing, hybrid working, flexi-time, TOIL etc etc.

Yes, maternity leave can be difficult for companies, but larger companies don't let it destroy them. It's not about the size of the business the woman works in either. Think of, for example, a small roadside Greggs. Unlikely to employ more than 10 people. If one full time worker went on maternity 10% (likely more given some will be part time) of their staff has gone! And yet I guarantee it doesn't throw them into hell.

Have a succession plan with all your employees - identity the best ones to be able to step up - even if only for a year. If a bottom rung employee leaves for maternity, hire another, temp or permanent, and look to grow.

If an employee having maternity leave causes a problem, that problem lies with the business, and their solutions should be in place before anyone so much as announces a pregnancy.

Redhotspicywine · 04/04/2025 16:44

So where are these babies meant to go? Research shows that children do best with a primary care giver for their first three years of life. Does a team having to manage absence for six months trump the mental well being of both mother and child?

DazzlingCuckoos · 04/04/2025 16:42

shoppjngtime · 04/04/2025 15:43

Well you could stop employing women of child bearing age?

<light hearted comment >

I know it's a lighthearted comment, but for many small business owners this is still unfortunately a big issue. Not that they're allowed to admit it out loud as that's, you know, sexual discrimination!

I am an employer who has a number of female staff of child bearing age who could announce a pregnancy at any time. I can't say the thought didn't cross my mind when I first took them on (though ultimately still took them on, along with that risk!).

I don't think, however, that maternity leave should be capped at 6 months. Family comes first, no matter what. It's a burden employers of any size have to carry. I agree with a PP that it would be easier to find a 12 month cover for mat leave than 6. You'd get better work out of them over a longer period, the more familiar they become.

CelestialStar · 04/04/2025 16:41

In addition to the points already made about recovery and feeding, returning to work early would, for many, mean paying for the baby to be in nursery for an additional 6 months.

If you are saying that the way to help small businesses is to scrap the repayment scheme mentioned by other posters, and instead cut maternity leave, you are essentially arguing that individual mothers should bare the cost of subsidising small businesses.

Bumble2016 · 04/04/2025 16:41

My work put NO plans in place to cover my role or my work when I went off, instead I essentially had to do my actual job and plan and schedule for the year before I went off. Can't help but feel that if they now struggle it's totally on them. I put in the hours to make sure everything was in place before I left, but if something unexpected arises I will not be helping. I imagine a lot of women who work for SMEs are treated similarly.

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:39

Chipsahoy · 04/04/2025 16:02

And how do you propose we breast feed baby when we are at work? By one most are weaned but if they aren’t (mine weren’t) they fed in the evenings and at night.
At 6 months mine were still being fed regularly and I could not pump at all.
A small business is not an excuse to rid a child of their mother for hours a day when they are so tiny and when a lot of them, still rely on them for their food!

I hear you and I’d never suggest separating a mother from her baby at that stage just for convenience. I’m not dismissing how physically and emotionally demanding it is to care for a 6 month old, especially if breastfeeding is still central.

What I’m questioning is whether there’s a better way to support everyone, including businesses, so that maternity leave isn’t something that places disproportionate strain on one side or the other. If we want parents to be supported properly, that means everyone needs to be supported: the mother, the baby, and yes - the business trying to keep going while that parent’s away.

I’m not calling for a rigid 6 month cut off. I’m raising the question of whether more flexibility and shared support could make things fairer for all involved. This isn’t about taking anything away - it’s about making the system work better.

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Janefx40 · 04/04/2025 16:39

I think it’s worth thinking longer term. Women who are treated well during maternity and especially if offered some flexibility on return have huge stickability. So you may have a short term disruption but in the long run there may be more continuity for the business.

the7Vabo · 04/04/2025 16:39

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 16:31

That’s true in theory and sometimes it does work out that way. But in reality, especially in small businesses, temporary cover is rarely a 1:1 replacement. Even if the temp gets a hang of the role after a few weeks, they’re often still operating at a ‘just keep it ticking over’ level rather than fully owning the work or driving things forward.

And depending on the role, the longer someone’s out, the more disconnected they can feel when they return - meaning there’s disruption again during handover or reintegration. It’s not always as simple as ‘they’re trained, now it runs smoothly.’

It’s not that I think we should cut people off at 6 months - it’s that I think we need to more open discussion around the strain long-term absences place on small teams and how to support everyone better through it.

So what do you want if you don’t want to force mothers back at 6 months?

RaspberryBeretxx · 04/04/2025 16:39

CandidAzureBee · 04/04/2025 15:44

Statutory maternity pay is

  • 90% of your average weekly earnings (before tax) for the first 6 weeks
  • £184.03 or 90% of your average weekly earnings (whichever is lower) for the next 33 weeks
The rest of maternity leave is indeed unpaid.

Then for most businesses they can claim back 92% of that (potentially 103% if your business qualifies for Small Employers’ Relief).

So your big improvement would be paying nothing between week 26 and week 39, so 13 weeks of paying out a total of £2392.39, of which £2201 will be refunded, saving a grand total of £191.39?

This.

I work for and co-own a small business and my maternity leave cost the company a total of £300 over the 9 months I took - this was purely the excess employers NI they had to pay (this was 2012). Every other penny was covered by the government.

I think what might help more would be encouraging fathers to take a portion of parental leave. Or offering more paid KIT type days (on top of govt funded maternity pay) to assist businesses.

pelargoniums · 04/04/2025 16:37

whether there’s a way to better support everyone involved - including parents who want longer leave and the businesses trying to stay afloat in their absence.
One way would be to run a better business. HTH.

UrinalCake · 04/04/2025 16:36

MoodEnhancer · 04/04/2025 16:32

It would be far more difficult to hire for a 6 month role than it would be to hire for a 12 month one. If you don’t understand that, then I don’t believe this is a genuine post. Anyone who has any involvement in hiring staff or running a team would understand it.

It's a suspiciously glaring blind spot, isn't it? OP talks of wanting a wider discussion, but ignoring the issues of recruitment and of losing qualified staff once they're trained up doesn't suggest the desire is genuine.

Emanresuunknown · 04/04/2025 16:35

PinkArt · 04/04/2025 15:41

Isn't hiring cover for 12 months less disruptive than hiring someone for 6 months? The training to knowing what they're doing ratio is much better.

This. Small businesses wanting 6mths just want to take the piss and avoid hiring mat cover at all and want to try and get other staff to cover it because it's 'just a few months'. Maternity cover isn't there for the benefit of the company it's there to protect the jobs of new mums while they care for newborn babies. Yabu

BodyKeepingScore · 04/04/2025 16:35

So in your mind, the welfare of a business takes precedence over the wellbeing of both baby and mother?

Hedjwitch · 04/04/2025 16:35

I actually agree with you OP.

RedToothBrush · 04/04/2025 16:35

YourOpalLeader · 04/04/2025 15:56

I do and I actually think MN is the perfect place to talk about this. Who better to weigh in on how maternity leave works in practice - and how it affects everyone - than the people who’ve taken it, managed around it, or juggled both?

I’m not here to bash maternity leave - I’m here to ask if the current system works for everyone it impacts, including small businesses. If there’s no space for nuance on here, where is there?

I don't think it's for women to worry about. They need to heal and adjust.

It is for society to wake up and value the contribution of having babies (to pay your pension and care for you in old age). And to then reflect that.

If women's labour was actually valued this wouldnt be a question.

Overall women are more likely to cost less and be more loyal to an employer. This isn't just about how much they are paid per hour, it means they cost less to hire and train. And we should be talking about the loss of skills in the workplace from not supporting mothers properly in the workplace more rather than having this weird focus on how women aren't as good as men somehow.

It's bollocks. Women bring other things to the workplace and in economic terms it's not as straightforward as just looking at 'how much maternity leave costs' (which as demonstrated on this thread is actually bollocks anyway).

Change the conversation to accurately reflect reality. All reality. That doesn't make women invisible or deemed a nuisance from the word go without a proper unbiased and non sexist attitude.

Crazybaby123 · 04/04/2025 16:35

You have to think about the wider picture of how we want society to be, not just the picture of your business.
Are babies better staying with their breastfeeding mothers for longer, are mothers better to have the option to recover for longer, do we want to force women to hand their children off to nurseries to go back to their jobs stressed and tired if they are not ready. A few poeple do go back early but for many it would force them to exit their jobs if maternity was cut short.
What is best for society and how should we manage it collectively should be the question. Then go from there. If small business suffer then there should be subsidy for small business supporting mat leave and training for cover staff, not cut mat leaves short.

Paganpentacle · 04/04/2025 16:35

Are you a man?
Or a misogynist woman?

SeventeenClovesOfGarlic · 04/04/2025 16:33

Can you explain why anyone should care about someone's small business?

UrinalCake · 04/04/2025 16:33

And you idea says the second six months should be shared parental - now you’ve just doubled the number of people who are taking 6 months off to disrupt the business while at the same time making it harder to cover because it’s too short a contract length.

Very true!

Speaking as someone who has moved job to do a maternity leave cover, I'd not have bothered for 6 months. It wouldn't have been worth giving up the stability of my existing role. In most sectors, it's harder to recruit for fixed term contracts of less than a year.

MoodEnhancer · 04/04/2025 16:32

It would be far more difficult to hire for a 6 month role than it would be to hire for a 12 month one. If you don’t understand that, then I don’t believe this is a genuine post. Anyone who has any involvement in hiring staff or running a team would understand it.