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Woken by hotel staff

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HotelStrangers · 04/04/2025 01:16

I've been at an important 2-day work meeting further from home than usual. Due to a long-term condition, which causes fatigue, I booked myself into a Travelodge overnight to avoid a bit of commenting (me paying, not work).
At check-in the lovely staff gave me a 'quiet room' when I explained the reason for the stay. By 9.30-10pm I was asleep, yay (despite it being like a sauna).
Then at 11.30pm I woke as a stranger was walking into my room! I jumped out of bed and shouted to get out. They did and I barricaded the door assuming I'd forgotten to put the snitch down (was sure I had).
Was just drifting off again when abput 11.55 there was banging on the door. Got up asked through the door if they were wanting me, yes. Had to open the door to a male staff member. I was stood there, bleary eyed, in just a 'Should not be seen in public' nightie, and had to confirm my identity. He said a brisk 'sorry for waking you' and when I said I was already awake as had had a stranger in my room 25 mins earlier he confirmed it was another member of staff as there had been a room mix-up. He seemed a bit annoyed.
No idea why they didn't call my phone and that they had to take my name with me there not dressed, face to face.

I'm now fully awake, hoping they're not coming back, regretting having booked this room, wishing I'd just done the driving, and dreading being exhausted in the meeting tomorrow.

I've just sent an email to the only email address I could find for Travelodge.

Am I unreasonable to complain?
(If I disappear will be due to trying to sleep)

OP posts:
HotelStrangers · 04/04/2025 22:27

@Strangecat the Police call handler seemed of the same opinion as me and most posters here. This was that my experience last night was not an incident on its own but the suggestion of a pattern needs to be explored and recorded. I don’t expect further contact from the Police but it was suggested they may call. It felt like a completely appropriate response.

OP posts:
Strangecat · 04/04/2025 22:18

HotelStrangers · 04/04/2025 19:46

Thank you for all the replies. I’ve re-read my original middle-of-the-night post and chuckled at how matter of fact it is. I can maybe see why some question taking it further with both Travelodge and the Police. Here’s a summary.

First at 23.30 I woke to a member of staff #1 in my room. I jumped up and shouted and they left. After barricading the door I settled back to sleep. At this point staff knew there was a single female sleeping in the room.

Secondl, 25 mins later at 23.55, knowing there was a lone woman in the room a male member of staff, #2, banged on my door to get me to open in to confirm my name. He offered no explanation or reassurance.

Third and most concerning was hearing in the morning that this staff member #2 has done this before and been reprimanded, but has now done it again. This suggests a concerning pattern of behaviour. Hence the call to Police.

Well done for reporting it to the police. I heard of many crazy stories of lone women being targeted in hotels. This guy needs to be fired for doing this several times. What did the police say?

BillyILash · 04/04/2025 21:51

I went away with my 10yo DD recently, after settling in the room I placed our suitcases in front of the door, I’d opened one so if anyone tried opening the door it would get trapped and stop the door opening more than a few inches. My DD asked me what I was doing, I told her that when ever she stays in a hotel room always make sure you can block the door from opening. Obviously I didn’t want to scare her so I said sometimes hotels can mess up and put 2 different guests in the same room.

I’ve travelled the world on my own and I do this in every hotel, usually its a chair but I also use anything I can easily move in a fire but can still block the door from opening. Thankfully I’ve never had issues myself but know others who have, including friends entering their en-suite to find it was a shared bathroom with a couple of naked old people getting frisky in the bed facing their en-suite door.

You’ve done the right thing reporting to the police op.

Also agree with you on the you get what you pay for comment, you pay for a bed to sleep safely in for the night so you should never expect anyone walking in your room, especially staff. My go to hotels are premier inns, cheap, quiet and you know what your getting, in my experience usually great service.

B1indEye · 04/04/2025 20:58

amele · 04/04/2025 20:25

What if he called you out of the room to supposedly confirm ur name but really he was taking a look at you to see if you was his type and then would’ve assaulted? It’s very strange behaviour, I can’t think of any reason why at night time they would need you to confirm ur name when you have paid for the room. This is very alarming, I know if this happened to me, I would’ve been petrified and unable to go back to sleep at all

What if any number of things happened? What have things that didnt happen got to do with anything?

As has been explained above if there was confusion at the reception and they thought that room was empty they would have needed to check the person who was in it. Absolutely not an excuse for what they did but you not being able to think of a reason doesnt mean there wasn't a simple one

All kinds of crappy things happen, businesses have systems that aren't fit for purpose and people are just bad at their jobs but it's thankfully very rare that anyone is in actual danger

nocoolnamesleft · 04/04/2025 20:32

I usually travel as a lone female. This is rather offputting.

amele · 04/04/2025 20:25

What if he called you out of the room to supposedly confirm ur name but really he was taking a look at you to see if you was his type and then would’ve assaulted? It’s very strange behaviour, I can’t think of any reason why at night time they would need you to confirm ur name when you have paid for the room. This is very alarming, I know if this happened to me, I would’ve been petrified and unable to go back to sleep at all

HotelStrangers · 04/04/2025 19:46

Thank you for all the replies. I’ve re-read my original middle-of-the-night post and chuckled at how matter of fact it is. I can maybe see why some question taking it further with both Travelodge and the Police. Here’s a summary.

First at 23.30 I woke to a member of staff #1 in my room. I jumped up and shouted and they left. After barricading the door I settled back to sleep. At this point staff knew there was a single female sleeping in the room.

Secondl, 25 mins later at 23.55, knowing there was a lone woman in the room a male member of staff, #2, banged on my door to get me to open in to confirm my name. He offered no explanation or reassurance.

Third and most concerning was hearing in the morning that this staff member #2 has done this before and been reprimanded, but has now done it again. This suggests a concerning pattern of behaviour. Hence the call to Police.

OP posts:
HotelStrangers · 04/04/2025 19:36

@TorroFerney and @ILoveMyCaravan it was reassuring to hear the police take this seriously. Notes were taken and the call handler checked the sequence of events. They were definitely alert to checking for a pattern and keeping a record of the report. I feel the police have responded appropriately.

I’ve now had a good sleep. Had forgotten how sleep deprivation can impact. On waking there was an email from Travelodge. It was a generic ‘sorry you’re unhappy, here’£25’ one. No refund. No exploration. No action.
Thank you @Goodadvice1980 for providing the CEOs email address. I will definitely be using it this weekend.

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StartAnew · 04/04/2025 18:09

EdithBond · 04/04/2025 17:38

I think the police should be notified, so they have a report logged. It’s their decision whether to investigate.

No hotel staff member should enter a room without knocking/permission at almost midnight. What would happen if she’d remained asleep or frozen and hadn’t asked them to leave?

And what if other guests have reported the same thing to the police (or worse still thefts, sexual assaults etc), and the hotel is unaware or hasn’t dealt with it properly, e.g. a certain manager is complicit? Better to log it.

I guess OP could log it but it sounds much more like something the hotel should be dealing with.

EdithBond · 04/04/2025 18:03

HotelStrangers · 04/04/2025 13:41

My meeting: I have lovely colleagues ❤️ During an experiential learning exercise at the meeting today I shared last night’s events. Everyone was appalled. They were so lovely I realised I was too tired to engage and left mid morning to be safe to drive home. Hence I have missed a unique opportunity this meeting gave to learn from a national (world?) leader in our field. He was lovely too and offered to send me info.

Police: spoke to the force local to the area via 101. The call handler was lovely. I was clear that I did not expect any action regarding last night’s events but that the incident needed to be logged in case this forms a pattern of behaviour which may escalate. They agreed and took it seriously, even suggesting I’d get further contact. As I’d been told this was repeat behaviour reporting to the police was definitely the correct thing to do.

Travelodge: I’ve heard nothing from them as yet. They will definitely be hearing more from me!

Hadn’t read this update before I posted. It’s always worth logging suspicious behaviour with police (not via 999 or emergency call out, obvs). It can be very helpful to them to identify patterns or as corroborating evidence.

I’m shocked at the number of stories of staff and guests entering rooms. I shall now always knock when entering a room for the first time and make sure I use the chain or a wedge.

If this is a frequent occurrence, and hotels don’t think it’s a big deal, a thief or sex predator could use it to their advantage.

EdithBond · 04/04/2025 17:38

StartAnew · 04/04/2025 09:13

The police surely would not be concerned about a staff member accidentally walking into an occupied room and immediately leaving when told to.

I think the police should be notified, so they have a report logged. It’s their decision whether to investigate.

No hotel staff member should enter a room without knocking/permission at almost midnight. What would happen if she’d remained asleep or frozen and hadn’t asked them to leave?

And what if other guests have reported the same thing to the police (or worse still thefts, sexual assaults etc), and the hotel is unaware or hasn’t dealt with it properly, e.g. a certain manager is complicit? Better to log it.

Bolloxonabike · 04/04/2025 17:11

For over 30 years my DH has wedged a chair or anything available under hotel doors overnight, home and abroad, and I have moaned at him for being ridiculous and potentially delaying escape in the event of fire etc. Following this thread I now stand corrected and owe him an apology. I’ve found all these recounts of intruders totally shocking and it undermines the image of a relaxing hotel stay. Very glad to have seen this thread and hope you get a decent apology and refund OP.

TorroFerney · 04/04/2025 17:00

HotelStrangers · 04/04/2025 14:09

@TorroFerney I’m so sorry to hear about your experience.
The possibility of this person moving on to assault is why it was important to raise this with the police. Plus even if he doesn’t go on to assault someone the possible trauma to those who have previously experienced assault is unacceptable.

Agree . you are so good to be thinking of others . I knew who assaulted me (another guest an older boy) and I was too scared to:embarrassed to say anything as I thought I’d be in trouble (knowing my mother I would have been) but even though it was 40 years ago I still feel guilty thinking could I have prevented him doing it again, if he ever did do.

boringingoring · 04/04/2025 16:47

HotelStrangers · 04/04/2025 14:13

Exactly this.
I hope the repeated use of the word Travelodge brings this to their attention. Still no reply to my middle-of the night-email.
Unless action is taken swiftly there will be a very clear and accurate TripAdvisor review being posted. The police will also be seeing if Travelodge took my advice to report this repeat behaviour.

I'd go ahead and write the review. You're not saying anything untrue, and you might just save another lone woman from experiencing the same.

Isittimeformynapyet · 04/04/2025 16:14

maximalistmaximus · 04/04/2025 08:36

I’d be massively kicking off.
the thought of this terrifies me.
if you were raped they’d have said you consented! You probably wouldn’t even get a conviction!

name and shame them on socials and get your money back and more.

go to the press!

if you were raped they’d have said you consented!

I hate this kind of ridiculous assumption. You do realise you've just completely made this up don't you..

thisisfrommathilda · 04/04/2025 16:05

I would be LIVID OP!

TennesseeStella · 04/04/2025 15:46

Chezxx · 04/04/2025 14:31

Thanks so much OP for posting.

Travel Lodge is clearly not a safe hotel for lone women to use. Good to know.

Of all the bullshit the Daily Mail lift from MN, this would actually be a good article to lift.

Very poor response from them.

Well done for contacting the police and adding weight to any other complaints.

That's quite the reach. I've stayed in Travelodges as a lone woman plenty of times without incident, if you want more anecdata.

Deckedoutside · 04/04/2025 15:37

Tourist29 · 04/04/2025 15:32

If they have a disabled guest they have to have an additional member of staff in case of emergency, who normally gets their head down for the night unless needed.

Did you put the ‘do not disturb’ sign up? We do that unless we want the room cleaning.

We had a similar thing is Australia, we had the door chain on and someone tried to noisily get in in the middle of the night then at about 6am the alarm clock / radio went off really loudly.
Don’t recall even mentioning it to reception.

The disabled guest thing is exactly right. TL do this all the time. Second staff member sleeps in vacant room as the team member allocated for the 'PEEP'. They might have come in to sleep then realised it was occupied. Room shown as vacant - confusion ensues. Return to room to verify who you are as they believe the room to be empty. They need to know who you are for fire risk.

Police won't care - Travelodge will probably refund you. They retain the right to enter your room so it's not a police matter at all.

Tourist29 · 04/04/2025 15:32

If they have a disabled guest they have to have an additional member of staff in case of emergency, who normally gets their head down for the night unless needed.

Did you put the ‘do not disturb’ sign up? We do that unless we want the room cleaning.

We had a similar thing is Australia, we had the door chain on and someone tried to noisily get in in the middle of the night then at about 6am the alarm clock / radio went off really loudly.
Don’t recall even mentioning it to reception.

RedRoss86 · 04/04/2025 15:31

Iwanttoshopnow · 04/04/2025 09:34

I don't get this.
Keys in Prem Inns are a card system.

Not sure about a TL.
If one has already been given out the staff would see this- and same for a physical key.
And yes, I know each room has 2 keys for 2 occupants, but they should still see one key wasn't there.

Edited

You'd be surprised at the absolute state of some key card systems.
Incredibly old card systems, you have to key in the room number and number of nights. Majority of time, keys are never done for correct amount of nights which is why if your card stops working during a hotel stay, that's the reason. It wasn't done correctly by staff. The machine will say to override any previous keys & you can just say yes.

For newer computer systems, if the key system is separate to the hotel reservation system, it's a quicker system but it wouldn't tell you the name of the guest or any other information. It's literally just to cut a key for the room.

Some hotels have invested in integrated systems where you will see the guest information on the key cutting system but out of over 25 years of working in hotels, I've only seen this in one hotel.

AuntAgathaGregson · 04/04/2025 15:29

HotelStrangers · 04/04/2025 09:08

re Taking this further: I will have consequential losses.
re Police: I had not considered reporting to police but driving to venue was thinking about how this is repeat behaviour despite reprimand. There is a chance this behaviour may escalate (typical path). Will consider reporting so the person can be flagged

How was it repeat behaviour?

Deckedoutside · 04/04/2025 15:15

I used to work for them and I've accidently walked into an occupied room before, in the middle of the room. A guest had been checked into the system into room 40 (or whatever) but had actually been given the key for 41. I turned up for night shift had no idea. The system showed room 41 as vacant and ready, so I went straight in (guest had a broken TV remote and I went to get one from the 'empty' room to switch) Walked into a man in his bed at 2am. I was probably more scared than he was as a lone female worker.

Stuff like this happens a million times at Travelodge. I've walked into multiple occupied rooms due to mix ups, but only once at night like that.

Generally the smaller ones (under 100 rooms) operate on one lone worker for night shift so sending male/female staff to rooms for genuine reasons isn't possible.

But with the amount of errors made frequently I think most of them generally have a very inaccurate sense of which rooms are vacant and which are occupied - certainly if there are more than 40 rooms or so.

It's all much more manual than you'd expect and leaves huge margin for error.

It's not acceptable, but it's very unlikely to be sinister. I think most night staff at Travelodge are more scared for themselves than anything - we were all issued panic alarms etc but working completely alone in a hotel occupied by hundreds of people, at the side of a road, was always scary for me, especially when having to walk the corridors (a mandatory requirement every 2 hours).

Goodadvice1980 · 04/04/2025 15:05

Sounds like a nightmare OP. The CEO of Travelodge is Jo Boydell:

[email protected]

wooo69 · 04/04/2025 14:57

We stayed in PI in London, friends in the next room. We came back from evening out my friend and I went back up to the rooms and DH’s stayed in the bar. She rang me and asked me to come to their room. All their stuff had been moved into a pile and two extra single beds made up. We went to reception, staff member with little English asked why they hadn’t removed belongs if they had checked out, couldn’t get what we were saying.
We asked for someone to come to the room and get rid of the extra beds which happened about an hour later but all night they were expecting a family to walk in, so didn't get a proper nights sleep.

weirdoboelady · 04/04/2025 14:56

I haven't read full thread, just full OP. OP, post on Twitter to Travelodge. They should/will be thoroughly ashamed to have their extensive failings exposed in public, and so more likely to respond properly.