To be sad about reasons behind niece’s choice

Sounds like a pretty wise choice to me.

Good luck to her.

As you aren't close at all she's probably just told you a reason, and not gone too deep into all the stuff to do with her health or anything else.

I can't really understand why you're feeling sad, but you're being very wise to keep it to yourself.

She’s 23. Her frontal cortex hasn’t fully developed yet. I had my first child at 35 and I had no real grasp of what I was letting myself in for. And I was in a happy relationship with a lot of support. She can’t possibly know what it will be like. But obviously it’s up to her to make her own decision.

I think yabu

It's a wise choice. If a man made it, ie Christiano Ronaldo, no-one would bat an eyelid.

I wanted to do this. If I had another, I'd use a donor. I really wish I had been wise and strong enough to really choose the life I wanted.

Maybe she'll fall in love and change her mind. But I think that this, for me, is a wise choice. The only detractor is her age for me, she's so young.

Edit - sounds like she has family and friends for support. That's very important, controversially I know - more important than a husband.

Maybe she does realise that because she’s not a child, but an adult, fully capable of understanding the magnitude of her decisions.

She is making a very selfish choice so I don’t blame you.

Not sure this has anything to do with your poor relationship with your nieces.

I can’t see anything wrong with her decision, better that than stuck co-parenting with someone who makes it harder for you.

What makes me sad is how badly women’s health is treated that she has to make the decision around something which with the right healthcare is entirely treatable.

Well, yanbu to feel sad about anything as long as you do it privately.

You are, of course, quite right in saying that it is none of your business.

Not sure what else to say, really.

Sounds like she may have psychological issues that might be worth working through with a professional prior to taking this step, is possible.

Obviously this is her choice, but does she have someone close enough to her who can discuss the very real financial, emotional, logistical and practical implications of choosing to be a single mother? Is she well supported?

Maybe she doesn't realise how hard it is bringing up a baby, unless she will have a lot of family support.