He really has forgotten about me

Wow, a two week holiday leaving you alone to care for them.

Wow. I can see how I am happily married 33 years next week.

No way would my husband dream of doing such a thing and no way would I tolerate it.

Your husband is a selfish twat.
You poor pet.

What are your plans to take off and have a two week break?

If you don't, your marriage will continue like this.

My friends were absolutely firm in doing time off equally as several had husbands who loved rugby tours and golf trips.

They said crack on, but took back every minute of the time.
Their husbands became more discerning in what they committed too when they knew what was ahead of them.

I mean ‘capitalist relationship’ also sounds like a form of ‘claptrap.’ If that’s how we’re classifying each other’s pairs, of course.

So when do you get your carefree child free break and holiday away on your own enjoying yourself while he holds the fort? Never I suspect. Why do we still pander to men’s needs and value their need for time out over our own?

I wouldn't expect a gift tbh.
Also I wouldn't expect a mother's day message. You aren't his mother!
Mother's day is on different days abroad. I live in Spain mother's day here is in may or June he may not have been surrounded by adverts like in the UK so even if he usually would he may not have had the reminders

Bull, he was on holiday!

Yes I would also like to know this. When do you get 2 weeks off being a parent/wife/appliance to recharge your batteries?

Just a thought. Mothers day is not on the same date in my EU Country as in the UK.
Having said that, he reverts to sulking rather than apologising is shit selfish male standard behaviour

Why didn't you go with him? I don't get it. Both DH and I were born in different countries and have families there but we never travel solo. Had you gone with him, you would have had some help with the kids at least instead of suffering alone at home.

You need to book a trip to recharge your batteries then. Leave the selfish prick to it.

I was just about to say this! This would bother me the most!

Might be that families have different expectations? I very much expect to be made a fuss on mother's day by my husband when I have little kids. I'm the mother of his children and I do a heck of a lot to make his life better. I reciprocate on father's day because he's an excellent father

I don’t think he’s upset with you for getting upset that he forgot Mother’s Day and a perfectly average sized Toblerone. (Although the latter is unforgivable). He’s upset because you’ve made him feel guilty and it’s far easier for him to get angry with you than it is to acknowledge that he’s fucked up and try to show you that he really did appreciate you holding down the fort so he could go swanning off having fun with his friends and family for two weeks.

I think you need to show him a bit of anger here. Once the DC are in bed, remind him that HE is the one who did a shit thing and how dare he get angry with you for being upset with him. He should be getting on bended knees and thanking God that he had a wife who could pick up the slack and who wasn’t planning on pissing off on her own two week holiday leaving him with a sick dog and two kids he wouldn’t last two days with. It’s teenaged behaviour. And tell him the next time he wants you to see him as sexually desirable, he should think back to this behaviour and then he’ll have an answer to why you don’t want to rip his clothes off (aside from being knackered because he’s left you to do all the donkey work). I’d be furious.

This he clearly didn’t appreciate it and is Joe sulking so let him let him sulk until he is ready to address it

I'd be leaving him to it for the next couple of weekends. Let him handle everything at home.

Tell him you’re about to book your holiday to recharge your batteries and see what he does then

They’d support her buying him a massive fuck off Toblerone to say thanks. The bar isn’t that high. And why wouldn’t she want to, especially if she’d bought gifts for everyone else?

This. After close observation over many years, I've concluded that presents genuinely don't mean as much to men as they do to women (with exceptions in both of course).

If your DP is a non-giver, you're setting yourself up for hurt and anger to expect anything from him. As for designated gift days like Mother's Day - unless he's got his own mother reminding him to get his ass down the shops, it would probably never occur to him to do so.

Some men do learn that gifts are expected, then tie themselves in knots about whether their offering will be considered 'poxy' or not. Which kinda defeats the 'here's a token of my love and affection' point.

My own DP would perfectly happy if we never got each other presents again, but after many discussions he saw it from my point of view. I wouldn't torture him with trying to guess my perfect pressie though - I just tell him what I want.

But HELL yeah a two-week holiday abroad, leaving you alone with two small kids - that's something to get sorted.

For me the fact he's sulking about you being upset means he knows he's fucked up.
Doesn't make it any less pathetic, inconsiderate or an absolute turn off though.
He flew business class and had a lovely time away while you were juggling everything at home, allowing him to do so.
Nah, he doesn't get to sulk for being a selfish prick.
I'd be on solo travel sites right now if I was you.

When do you get a holiday to recharge your batteries?

I'd be doing fuck all for him until get gets on the beam and stops taking you for granted.

Selfish pig - stop cooking and washing his clothes - you need a break - any chance you could get away with friends for a child free weekend. I would ge very upset my his lack of care.

He is a selfish thoughtless twat actually. I would not put up with this and he doesn’t get to sulk just because he is a cunt who treats his wife poorly.

You are not his priority. Did I miss why all of you didn’t go on holiday? Time to think about the future of your relationship. You seem to be managing everything on your own - so what does he bring to the table?

I would suggest having your mother's day this Sunday. It does sound a bit rubbish he didn't think to get cards from the children beforehand (unless he still has these and is going to surprise you at some point). I assume they don't go to nursery so you didn't get anything from there either.

I really don't understand. Yes, not bringing you anything and not appreciating all that you've been doing is shitty. You should book a break for just yourself 100%.

But what's up with the mother's day? You're not his mother. I phone my dad on dad's day (different countries) or send him something. So I'm also supposed to congratulate my partner? Happy father's day to the man I sleep with? He's not my father and it's bizarre. That's children's job to do mother's/father's day, surely.

I was a single mother since DD was 3 (current partner not the father). So I didn't get 'happy mother's day' until DD was older. And that's fine and normal. I certainly didn't expect my ex phoning me with 'happy mother's day' or for my boyfriend to do it.

He sounds like the typical DH who ends up on numerous MN threads.

You are not his priority. You may have been once upon a time but you aren't now.

Getting back up his priority list will be exhausting and futile.

It isn't about the Toblerone or not remembering Mothers Day. Those are just visible symbols of the root cause. He just doesn't care.