Anonymous noise complaint about my baby playing

I would say woman from the handwriting, and language, ignore, your child can’t make noise all day.
But they may work from home, so will here it all of the time.
I see you’ve guessed who it might be.

How is your hearing?

I mean this seriously. I have freakishly good hearing (also as blind as a bat). I can hear things that most people can’t, including quiet group conversations at some distance. That’s fine. I find loud music or shouting louder than most people would. I had an argument last year with my neighbours (who both have hearing aids) about their dog barking inside the house. We live in a semi-detached house and are not connected on that side. They truly thought I was bonkers, and I suspect they barely perceived the dog barking at all from upstairs in their own house. But my study is downstairs and it prevented me from being able to work.

It’s possible that your neighbour is mad.

Equally, it might be that you aren’t hearing how loud your baby really is.

That letter is completely unhinged, so sorry you have such a horrible neighbour who is clearly in a lot of mental pain. Enjoy your baby and those excited noises.

Another early 50's here to say nope wouldn't use wild that way but my teen would! Could it be the teen kids getting thier sleep disturbed. They take that very seriously 🤣. If so ear plugs! Your little one sounds very normal. I still refuse to speak to.our neighbour who complained about my son screaming at 3 months old. Summer baby, windows open. It disturbef her garden use. He had horrible cholic and is now 22! So feel your pain. I'd go with the post it back and ask them.to come forward method. If it is the teen Mum will recognise the handwriting and hopefully deal with it.

True that. I'm early 50s and wouldn't use wild in that context either. There's also a clue that the note references 'we', so it's a household or more than one person.

I’d be louder tomorrow.

You should print off some nice detached houses and post them to neighbours with a cope of the letter 😂

I agree with pp saying to copy the note and post it with your own note.

If I was a neighbour who didn't write the note I'd be round to yours asap to make sure you knew it wasn't me!

But then my DH has just said if he did write the note he'd be round to pretend he didn't.

Sorry, not much help.

Except we are grandparent age and wouldn't say "wild" in that context.

The neighbour is nuts. I’d have no respect for a person who wrote an anonymous note even if they had got lovely handwriting.
Babies can be noisy as all humans can be noisy. If you live in a terraced house then you should expect and accept a certain level of noise. Perhaps the neighbour needs to buy a detached house.

It’s not unreasonable in general, it’s a normal response to you being excited with her. It becomes unreasonable when you live in a flat with such awful sound insulation that you can hear your neighbours chopping vegetables. It’s wild that you can hear something like that; I don’t understand how these places get away with crap like this. Of course people will have issues with one another if they can hear their neighbours’ every sneeze! But it also explains why they are so overwrought about hearing your daughter’s shrieks all day.

Sounds like it might be time to start planning a move/upgrade!

If they can't put their name to the complaint, you shouldn't give it any credence.

I second this sort of approach, as the mother of a toddler who is slap bang into terrible twos. She is loud, she screams (and not in the cute adorable way that I am sure your 10 month old does), and frankly, there is little I can do about her occasional screaming paddies other than to try to distract her or ignore her until she calms down, as it is a normal part of development. Fortunately we have lovely neighbours, but yours sound as though this will not be the last time this comes up with the many child rearing years you have to come.

I wouldn't confront them as they are clearly NUTS. All babies go through a shrieking phase, there's really nothing you can do.

They should thank their lucky they don't live next to me. My baby screamed his head off for the first 3 months of his life.

The person who wrote that note sounds at the end of their tether. I'd be knocking on doors until you find who wrote it and try to have a calm conversation about exactly what they are hearing, when and from which rooms. Maybe they are hearing someone else's noise or if not, maybe something quite simple can be done to make their life easier.

If they think it's bad now, wait until she's a toddler and starts having tantrums! A few baby squeals will pale in comparison!

Would someone bother writing a note if it wasn’t really bad though? Seems an over reaction if your baby is only making the occasional noise like you say.

How loud can a ten month old possibly be? It's a phase, she'll grow out of it.

Similar to others but slightly different sentiment.

Copy the letter and send it with a new letter to neighbours that states living in such close proximity and presence of neighbourly noise can be understandably frustrating, but you will not stop encouraging your child to engage in the world even if that means her response is noisy - around the hours where she is normally asleep or out. Everyone has choices and if they don't want to live next door to noisy children THEN THEY CAN MOVE.

Nip it in the bud or they'll be in you for the next ten years.

It also means you can show you're not intimidated by the letter and want to deal with it in a mature and direct way. Unlike them!

Anyone too scared to sign their name is unlikely to want to speak in person. Possible, but unlikely.

I'm guessing if they can hear you 'encouraging' the shrieks, then they can hear what you describe as playing with her. Unfortunately this is probably due to poor insulation/inferior building. Can you hear the neighbours as well? I'd be worried your neighbours would 'retaliate' by playing loud music when your baby is asleep so you can hear how noise travels.

I'd be annoyed that the note is anonymous more than anything.

My DC went through a phase of shrieking at around that age and grew out of it fairly quickly. Hopefully yours will too.