AIBU to find people who don’t read threads before commenting rude?

Yes otherwise I wouldn't of said it

I live how the rudest, most clueless person in this thread is also the one repeatedly citing long paragraphs written by others. Clearly the desire to make every thread they are on less readable expresses itself through many facets.

One thing I'd like to point out that never gets taken into account is that until recently (and I'm talking very recently, 2-3 weeks ago ish) if you use the android app you couldn't just filter on OP's posts. If the thread was 600 comments you would have to just scroll through manually and hope you don't miss one. I understand the Apple app has had the filter feature for a long time but we haven't, so if it's a busy thread lots of android app users won't be able to easily "just read the OP's posts" as I so often see mentioned here.

I posted about a really difficult housing situation under a different username a few months ago. In my OP, I explained I couldn’t ask friends or family for help and I couldn’t drive. In fact I think I mentioned both things more than once in said OP.

The amount of comments from people saying “can you ask your friends and family for help?” And “could you take up extra work doing Evri, amazon” etc was astounding. As in, a good third of the replies. I knew people didn’t always read the OP but experiencing it AS an OP was something else.

Anyway YANBU

I don't comment on many threads, mainly because a lot of them are made up rubbish. If I'm interested I do read all of the OP's comments so I know where the thread is at if I'm posting.

Better than loud cold.

Even more annoying when someone claims to have spat their tea out. Did you though?

I don’t think people need to read other contributions, it’s not a group chat. But yes should read all of OPs posts.

There are posters who don't bother reading the whole thread, or the OP's posts, or even the OP properly. There are also posters who proudly state that they are 'unable' to read an OP of more than, say, three paragraphs (which must surely mean they've never read a book, or a newspaper, or even a magazine article).

I don't consider them rude, per se. Just undeserving of the time it would take to read their contribution.

Ignore all that 🙄.
There's currently a running thread about a woman who found a flirty text between her husband and her friend. The OP has been providing updates and still posters are telling her to LTB .
She already is/has and even when the divorce has been finalised and she's married to someone else, the page 27 contributers will still be advising her to get her ducks in row .

Ahh, so what you REALLY want is an echo chamber. Got it! 👍

I too have used internet forums for 20+ years. My experience is the opposite. A lot of people just like to give their two penneth and that's it. You think it's 'rude', I disagree. That's OK.

I think you're perhaps thinking a little too deeply about this.

join the discussion meaningfully v expecting other posters to divert an ongoing conversation.

I'd hazard a guess that many posters aren't intending on either. They're not fussed about 'joining a discussion', nor do they 'expect to' divert an ongoing conversation. Sometimes some people just want to offer an opinion.

But you wouldn't just read their posts - you'd likely need to read the first few pages of all posts to get a handle on the conversation.

In which case, many if us are happy to take the OP at face value and comment accordingly. You can simply scroll through any posts that annoy you.

That just made me spit my tea out you have the same humour as me 🤣🤣

I see lots of complaints of ‘so many pages’ so you can easily change your settings to show fewer pages. Then you click on ‘see all’ by the OP and you’re 90% of the way there.

It does explain a lot - screaming into the void if you will. I can imagine if you are having a shit time of it , have only had the company of small children in your day-to-day and are just itching for any kind of interaction no matter how argumentative then I get it.
The only time I will repeat the same, is if the OP just isn't getting it and they are overwhelming doubling down. And the yabu is at 99%>

Surely if you’re going to invest the time to post at all, you at least read the OP’s posts and the last few comments?

But it's not the same level of investment. Posting a comment takes 30 seconds, while reading through multiple comments first can take upwards of 30 mins. So YABU for that assumption alone - that's aside from the fact that you personally can't police how people use MN.

This problem is easily solved by people not drip-feeding information. If all the detail is in the OP, there no need for the thread to derail.

the thing is that threads can move very quickly. When I start to reply there might be only a handful of replies but by the time I’ve actually posted there might be a page and a half and the points I’m making may, or may not, have been raised, questions answered. I do generally read all the OP comments but sometimes there is only one OP comment and 6 pages of replies, discussion amongst posters but MY input is in response to the OP and not the side conversations that have developed as a result of the OP

This is why I don't bother opening threads that have more than 100 comments.

I'll admit to not reading the whole thread 😳 but I have wanted to start this conversation, myself so many times . It screams arrogance lack of social skills and critical thinking and you can only imagine how insufferable they will be in real life .
Loud and wrong.
I appreciate that someone on page 3 has made this point so I probably look hypocritical 🫣.