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SallySooo · 02/04/2025 18:28

My child age 2 was crying so I came to take over and my nanny wouldn’t let me. I said about 3 or 4 times I will give her a cuddle and she wouldn’t look at me and hugged my child and wouldn’t pass her to me. I ended up leaving the room. Is this normal for a nanny? Is it really necessary to be so territorial. I understand she’s doing her job but surely if someone at my work came over to my desk to talk I would look away from my computer and talk to them or let them speak to the client or whatever they were asking to do

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AirFryerCrumpet · 02/04/2025 18:40

Do you interfere and step in a lot when your nanny is working?

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SallySooo · 02/04/2025 18:39

@IntheSpaghetti thanks. I know that people on MN don’t have visibility but I am a very decent employer. I am
polite I give her space I always try not to be in the same room when she’s with the kids and I’m working at home once or twice a week but today I literally saw the little one burst into tears and was like oh I will give them a hug but no. She clutched on to the child and said the child needs to do xyz now and then put her on her lap and put the child’s head back to rest and I’m standing there like an idiot. I don’t think it’s very smart to behave this way as it just encourages employers to think you know what maybe I should just save money and juggle work and childcare myself after all.

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Shitmonger · 02/04/2025 18:39

IntheSpaghetti · 02/04/2025 18:34

Weird behaviour. That's your child and she's your employee. I'd give her the sack.

Yeah, I have to admit I’d probably have put her out on the spot. No one is going to withhold my child from me and refuse to hand them over, especially when they’re upset.

newschoolpals · 02/04/2025 18:37

That’s really strange behaviour, to blatantly ignore you without giving a reason in the moment. Did you talk to her about it afterwards?

IntheSpaghetti · 02/04/2025 18:34

Weird behaviour. That's your child and she's your employee. I'd give her the sack.

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SallySooo · 02/04/2025 18:32

@Tatemoderndrawyourown thanks. They already have a good relationship.

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Tatemoderndrawyourown · 02/04/2025 18:30

Maybe she’s trying to establish a relationship with the child that doesn’t involve you? What happens when she’s crying for mummy to take over and you are not there?

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SallySooo · 02/04/2025 18:30

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