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Called the police

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Highfivemum · 02/04/2025 10:41

Had a person contact me previously stating that we shared the same parent. It could be true as had a very difficult and complicated childhood and one which I don’t want to remember. My DB and I chose to ignore it. Two days ago had a visit from a person stating they were related. I shut the door in their face. It was a huge shock and triggered every bad memory though I understand I should have acted better. Yesterday the door went again and it was a different person who also stated they were family and could they talk. I again shut the door. DH was going to stay at home today but had a meeting he had to go to and as soon as DH left for work the door goes again and it is both of them. I shut the door again and I called the police. I know it is not a police issue but I literally am sitting here shaking. DH is on his way home and DB can’t be contacted as away on business. I feel crazy for calling the police and no idea what they will say to me but I was so worried and panicked. Anyone know what can be done. ? I don’t want to know these people
and have no idea how they have traced me and found out my address. It is a mess and I feel ill with worry.

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JandamiHash · 02/04/2025 10:51

That must have been very unnerving but the police won’t do anything because it’s not illegal to knock on someone’s door.

There are Ancestry DNA social media groups that share information, it could be that people have connected some dots and shared your address with each other

rainbowstardrops · 02/04/2025 10:50

I think I’d have responded to the person originally as it was presumably an email or a letter? I wouldn’t feel comfortable with people coming to my door unannounced though.

Cloudyvibes · 02/04/2025 10:50

Have you told them you don’t want nothing to do with them or just literally shut the door in their face?

Highfivemum · 02/04/2025 10:48

Pleasecanyouadviseme · 02/04/2025 10:47

What did the police say?

Not heard back from them as yet. The woman on the phone said I would be contacted.

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Pleasecanyouadviseme · 02/04/2025 10:47

What did the police say?