Called the police

It's also astonishing how many rude and sanctimonious name callers there are on here who think only thier own opinion is ever valid on a thread.

In your experience, which is not universal.

You see, I have compassion for all of them.

So Christ-like. We know not what we do.

The thread title is 'Called the police'
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You see, I have compassion for all of them.

That may have been what you would have done. It's probably what I would have done. These people appear to be desperate for a response, for whatever reason. You don't know what they've gone through. As the OP has suffered severe trauma, then it's not unreasonable to suppose they have too?

I don't know why you wouldn't just give them a response, and be done with them? Seems logical to me!

And what if this information they are looking for (and it's not clear that it is actually information they are after) is going to cause trauma to the OP and her brother?

From what OP has said this is clearly something relating to her family's past which is traumatic and difficult and just because these people want information the OP has absolutely no obligation to give it to them if it is going to cause distress to her and her brother.

If you are talking about compassion then surely you could say that these people should have compassion for OP and not force her to relive childhood trauma.

Someone fairly early on in the thread said that they have a right to know their sibling. I haven't read every post since then, there may be others.

So it may be the case that it is your reading skills that need work, rather than @Never2many's

I am unclear about your reading comprehension skills but I have not seen a single poster state that these people "have a right" to anything. You have 0 idea what they are "probably capable of".

Some of us who are more intuitive and emotionally intelligent posters understand why they might be desperately seeking some information.

I can't believe some of the attitudes here. If I had information that might help someone move on from their personal trauma, I would share it. I couldn't live with myself otherwise. Think what you like and slate me as much as you want, I don't care. Actually save yourself the bother and just don't.

I am unclear about your reading comprehension skills but I have not seen a single poster state that these people "have a right" to anything. You have 0 idea what they are "probably capable of".

Some of us who are more intuitive and emotionally intelligent posters understand why they might be desperately seeking some information.

I can't believe some of the attitudes here. If I had information that might help someone move on from their personal trauma, I would share it. I couldn't live with myself otherwise. Think what you like and slate me as much as you want, I don't care. Actually save yourself the bother and just don't.

Just tell them you have no interest. Don't say "I don't want anything to do with you" and that's it.
They are curious, you are not, so you must respect their side of things. Just talk to them in an adult manner.

Indeed. Hiring a solicitor because some long distance relatives decided to contact you? 🤣

If you’d read my post you’ll see I was referring to the lack of reply to the original email sent by these people. I addressed the turning up at poor OP’s door in a separate paragraph.

Someone asks you something - always best to reply clearly and firmly rather than hope they pick up on your feelings by you not replying. There’s another thread active at the moment where the OP was interrupted by a colleague on a week’s break when she wanted to be alone. The colleague has now mentioned doing the same thing again (socialising in her mind, intruding in the OP’s mind). People responding are stressing the need to be clear that the OP doesn’t want her company. This thread is more serious but the principle is the same.

"one can also have compassion for the potential siblings."

We don't know that's what they are. We do know that they scared OP by their unreasonable actions and not taking her obvious refusal to have anything to do with them as final. They're trying to wear her down. That is toxic behaviour and I don't have compassion for assholes who try to intimidate a woman they know wants nothing to do with them. Fuck them stalkers.

Let's all go pester Brad Pitt til he communicates like an adult, being the master of his own destiny and all that. Once he's made it clear we're not to climb over his fence, break in through a window and sit in his bed demanding he marry us, well, then he can get a solicitor involved if we don't take no for an answer.

OP please don't pay any attention to posters who keep hammering you, they are obviously the kind of people who pester and harass others until they get their own way. Stay strong, you don't owe anybody anything.

There are clearly a lot of people on this thread with 0 boundaries, who are probably capable of emotional manipulation and abuse and stalking.

Only someone capable of these behaviours would keep coming back to insist that these people have a right to whatever it is they want, when they blatantly don’t, and no-one other than the OP is entitled to think otherwise.

You of course can think what you like.

you’re wrong though.

Are you a stalker yourself by any chance?

These two clearly don’t.

And no, it doesn’t matter what trauma you have; you don’t get to force it on other people.

Take it elsewhere.

But you’ve said you wouldn’t take avoidance as an answer, so you’re clearly as selfish as they are.

It doesn’t matter what they want. OP is not interested and does not need to be compassionate towards them, they were asked to leave several times and continued to stand around on her driveway ‘waiting’ for her. That’s intimidating and does not show any compassion towards OP.

I said 'ultimately clear'. I can understand the email, the first visit. Maybe even the second visit.

But to suggest that there is any doubt over the clarity of op's intent now is disingenuous.

And I absolutely would take avoidance as an answer. But I would never have behaved like that in the first place. I would have written a letter, left my contact details, and left the rest up to op. No answer would have been clear enough for me.