Called the police

OP has a moral obligation. We all had bad childhoods but wouldn’t act like this. OP’s response is very bizarre and selfish here. There is clearly a reason they need to talk.

Of course she doesn't have to hear them out. She doesn't want to know what they have to say - and certainly doesn't owe them her stem cells ffs!

They are refusing to leave as they want to speak to me about something.

This is where they are being completely unreasonable. Their want to speak to OP does not overrule her want to not engage with them. They need to back off.

This is definitely getting into harassment territory. The police should come and talk to them.

Putting this as gently as I possibly can, I thinks it’s possible this person also has bad childhood experiences and is looking for mutual support and/or someone to provide evidence. You are not in any way obliged to talk to them though. Make sure you get their car reg. and if your DH can get a photo of them without aggravating them that might be helpful. Have you got any cameras on the door or anything like that?

This must be stirring up all sorts of bad feelings. I’m sorry this is happening to you. I’m glad you’ve got a supportive DH with you.

Could it be related to an inheritance?

Edit- sorry that's silly - you'd be contacted by a solicitor in that case.

Somethings definitely up here, there is absolutely NOTHING they could tell you that they couldn't first tell your DH, so this 'they can only talk to you about it' he needs to forcefully insist they tell him what it is about or fuck off immediately.

Can you write a note out OP explaining that you will not be talking to them, you have no interest in anything they have to say so they either tell your DH and he will relay what he thinks is appropriate or they need to leave immediately.

I do not want anyone involved in my past being now involved in my life.

They are involved now OP because they are willing to turn up at your door to try and get you alone, you need to deal with this now and stop hiding from it, the police will not do anything realistically, so you and DH need to get rid between you.

I also think that on reflection OP, you should hear / read via letter what they want to say. It could be very important to them or you.

Op does NOT need to hear them out.

I'd guess, if the OPs background is as bad as she's alluding to, that it's not about stem cells or inheritences, and their refusing to take no for an answer and leave confirms that.

I'd phone the police again now op if they are refusing to leave.

Have you got a dog? I'd be introducing my bull breed to them at this point (very barky and scary looking but that's all)

I think you should call the police again and request someone come out if these people won’t move.

This could be a person that needs stem cell transplant or are telling you about a genetic condition. you need to hear them out.
i also pressed YABU as you didn’t tell them you’re not interested

I guess it depends on what they want to communicate, and how they’re thinking. If you look at it from their point of view they sent an email/message and got no response; they assume OP didn’t receive it, so go round to her house in person to check they have the right person and to communicate with her; before they can speak, the door is slammed in their face so they assume OP didn’t realise who they are, thought they were selling something, or was in shock, so they feel they have to try again.

Yes, they’ve gone about this the wrong way, but so has OP. If OP had replied to the original message, they probably wouldn’t have turned up at her house.

You are not that reasonable then.

Any reasonable person would leave, and if they really need to impart important information, they would write.

It's not reasonable to lurk outside someone's house when they ate clearly not wanted there. It's just not.

i'd say it could be classed as the beginnings of stalking and harrassement. how did these people get your address? and they keep showing up at your door uninvited causing alarm and distress.

i understand why the police have not come out immediately and you may find you are offered an appointment to discuss this as these persons are not currently present at your door.

do you know who these people are? names? addresses? contact telephone numbers to be able to give to the police?

edited.. i see they are still there? i assume they are not being aggressive, is there any reason why your DH cannot speak to them on your behalf and ask them what they want?

i suspect there is a massive drip feed here you are not sharing which would explain a lot.

Windy day? I mean many people react with shock when lost relatives re enter lives, and then change their minds, so the key thing is to communicate you don't want to and won't speak with them and perhaps allow only a letter.

Can you just not tell them you don’t want to speak to them and you want no further contact.

Who cares if it's legally harassment or not or if they broke the law or not. That's for the police to decide. OP called them because she is a woman alone at home who is alarmed by strangers repeatedly coming to her door and loitering. Yes, it could have been handled differently, but she's not done anything wrong.

If the matter is so pressing for them, why can’t they tell your DH, or write it to you? It is incredibly bizarre they won’t take no for an answer. I hope everything works out for the best in the end!

oh @Highfivemum thank god your DH is there, but them refusing to leave IS a police matter - call them again, tell the police that they are outside, refusing to leave and you are scared.

I called the police on my own mother and her revolting H, they came out. this is unacceptable behaviour and they do not have a right to demand to speak to you

I'm a reasonable person and it doesn't mean that to me.

As a reasonable person I would hear them out on the doorstep.

It could be important. It could be an inheritance. It could be an inherited disease.

It could, as OP said she had a traumatic childhood, be someone that is reporting historic abuse to the Police and the Police have asked if there are other possible victims.

That happened to me though I was in contact with the other abuse victims who decided not to support my report because of how it would effect their family relationships. Which was a kick in the teeth no matter how I understood where they were coming from .

Fact is, OP doesn't know and even if she wouldn't want to hear them out, she can just make it clear she doesn't care what they have to say and ask them to stop contacting her.

Then if they persist she can possibly make a case for harassment.

Till then, she's not got a case and is potentially causing anxiety and distress to other people who have no idea why she's reacting the way she is. Or are making false assumptions based on her behaviour.

OP doesn’t owe them anything. A door slammed in your face makes it perfectly clear that you are not welcome. People are allowed to say no to you.

If DH has conveyed your wishes I think no further input needed. I suspect the police will have limited power to remove them from public land (outside) sadly.

What about three door slams?

Call them again OP.

Why would you think they would need to get to know you, just because you do?