Called the police

This is so out of order OP- how bloody dreadful of them. So glad your DH is there.

I don’t know what happened in your childhood or who did what but if you don’t know these people then they didn’t do anything to you . They may have had a difficult childhood as well or may be surprised that you had one. It may change how they see their relatives if they don’t know.

Door slamming is a mixed message.

To idiots maybe. For anyone of sound mind, it's pretty unequivocal.

Yea, I always get confused when a door slams in my face 4 times. Is it a joke? Does the person like the noise? So many mixed messages.....

This sounds slightly more serious than just not wanting to rake over old stories.
Do you know things that they may need to also know, if they are family, perhaps have kids etc?
Please don’t leave them vulnerable to something you could help them avoid if they had information you have.

I think shutting the door in their face prior to their joint visit was a good indication she don't want to talk to them

If it it's something important, I think I would want to know. Could your DH speak to them as an intermediary and try and find out what is going on so you don't have to be directly involved?

Make another call to the police and tell them it's URGENT. Don't wait for them to call you back, you may be waiting til tomorrow morning. Tell them you are in fear of your life, they are casing your house and refusing to leave, and you need police help right now!.

If this was me my husband would just ask them to tell him what they want to talk to you about and then if he thought it was something I would want to know he would tell me. Can your husband do that?

the fact that they aren't buggering off despite your DH telling them you don't want to speak to them is worrying. Call the police again. I mean, it could be deemed as a breach of the peace if they swear, incite fear or follow you, for example but hopefully it won't get to that!

OP, you don't have any responsibility to these people, at all.
You don't have to read their messages or mail, you don't have to answer the door to them.
They are harrassing you so you are right to have contacted the police.

People assume all sorts of ridiculous things. A man came up to me in Asda (I know, I know, I should shop somewhere more upmarket but it's about 40 miles to the nearest Waitrose) and said he knew my mum and could be my father! Look, old man, I don't care if you shagged my mum, you're not my dad. Fortunately, I've been interested in family history for a long time and my dad and I were both dna tested - he was definitely my dad. I told the man that, but he still tries to claim paternity. Fuck off, old bloke. You're nothing to do with me.

Why are you so keen to empathise with these guys as opposed to the OP? She knows what she can cope with and she's set her boundaries very clearly. She doesn't have to dismantle them for anyone let alone these randoms who have repeatedly intruded on her well-being. We haven't 'all had bad childhoods' but it's possible to empathise with OP and understand she's not being bizarre. She was going about her day living her normal life and it's these guys who've broken into that and won't leave her alone. They won't even tell her DH what the issue is and are insisting on talking to the OP when they know she doesn't want to. It's their selfishness that's driving this and OP has zero moral obligation to facilitate it.

You only think that because you are nosey and want to know what they want and for it to play out here as a MN drama.

She has no moral obligation she doesn't have to speak to these people at all.

They can write to you if they need to give you information.

Tbh i would call the police back if they are refusing to leave. They've been told no. There's also the worry they may come back tomorrow when youR H is not here

That isn’t the OPs responsibility.

No she doesn’t. She’s clearly suffered trauma, and is now suffering more trauma at the hands of these supposed relatives. They have a moral obligation to fuck off and leave her alone. You can’t demand someone’s attention like this, they have no right whatsoever .

Now DH has told them to go I'm in complete agreement. They need to write to OP. Door slamming is a mixed message.

Who cares what they want. It’s utterly irrelevant what they want. OP does not have to listen.

There is clearly a reason they need to talk.

That is their reason though & Op doesn't have to hear it.

Respectfully, I disagree. OP owes them nothing. Clearly there’s a lot in the past that needs to stay there. Anything that is critical for OP to know could be disclosed to DH & passed on, or written in a note and given to DH to be passed on.
Again, OP owes them nothing.

@Bogginsthe3rd@Jellyfishcoolimgthe simple answer is that they need to write. There is no justification for continuing to upset someone quite clearly distressed

She damn well does not have a moral obligation.
Dear bloody god

She really, really doesn't. Not even a tiny bit of an obligation, moral or otherwise.