Called the police

@Highfivemum I think you're being a little childish and rude.

Just get your OH to give them a piece of paper and pen and ask them to write down what it is that they want to say or discuss.

Your OH can tell them you had a traumatic childhood so do not wish to speak to them directly at the moment.

They can then leave an email address on the paper, and if you're ok with what they want to discuss, then you will contact them.

They can then go away, and you can read what it is they want and decide whether you want to talk to them.

Slamming the door in their face was rude.

Trespassing isn’t a criminal offence. Police wouldn’t bother with that (hence why they’re not coming out)
Could be classed as harassment without violence but only if they come again now her DH has asked them not to

They can write a letter. And OP can choose to read it and respond or tear it up and ignore.

No she does not have a duty to share anything. If someone has mistreated her she is in no way responsible for that person’s behaviour in the future, if that’s what you’re getting at.

I'd probably ring the police again - explain that yoru DH has asked them to leave and they are refusing.

They clearly know you don't want to talk to them - and they could write via a solicitor if they really needed to communicate with you.

I don't know - and don't want to know - my bio father and if any unknown family members reached out to me, I wouldn't want to know them either. I have my life in place and don't need it upending by someone else's quest for identity. OP is not a shitty person for not being like you. This 'desperately need treatment' tale is a fantasy in your head and even if it were real, it's no business of the OP's any more than the hospitals full of ill strangers desperately needing treatment are. You made your own choices and the OP is just as correct to make her own. Yours doesn't make you a better person or make her a shitty one.

You need to call the police back now. If they are refusing to leave your premises they are both trespassing and you and DH are being intimidated. This should result in your case being upgraded to more urgent and a police car being sent. State that you are afraid as they will not leave despite your DH telling them to.

OP has a moral obligation. We all had bad childhoods but wouldn’t act like this. OP’s response is very bizarre and selfish here. There is clearly a reason they need to talk.

She definitely has no obligation whatseover to these strangers. She's completely entitled to draw whatever boundaries she wishes to protect her peace of mind.

They know she doesn’t want to talk to them. That’s enough. They don’t need to understand why. They are not owed an explanation, or time to talk, or anything at all.

And since you’ve decided it’s a medical issue, even if OP was an exact match for the stem cells of their dying child, there would still be absolutely zero moral, ethical or legal obligations for her to get involved.

Is there something wrong with you? This is clearly a scam! And OP owes them nothing, they owe her to get the fuck off her property and leave her the fuck alone. They are stalkers and are harassing her. If these lowlifes had an ounce of decency they'd go away and respect it. OP needs to try to get some sort of restraining order against these shitty lowlifes.

Oh, and half siblings are literally related to you. That is why they're called siblings.

I was already (up the thread) very supportive of OP, but the quoted post suggests there’s more to this than she’s stated so far.
If she has information that could protect another child, for example, I think she has a duty to share it. That’s all.

Not OP's responsibility to help them navigate their own issues, assuming that's why they're there. The reason doesn't matter. Nothing about them is OP's responsibility.

She is not a shitty person, she’s terrified! They are massively out of order harassing her like this. Nice that you were able to provide information to someone who contacted you, but you were in no way obliged to do so.

They don’t know about her vulnerability. They’ve just been told she doesn’t want to talk?

OP I dont think you're being unreasonable. In your situation I would have behaved in the same way. I had a difficult childhood and young adulthood. If I had unknown people repeatedly knocking on the door who I believed were linked to that time in my life, I would be having a full blown panic attack. Random unexpected people (not delivery drivers/obvious sellers) even looking in my front windows freaks me out. I also think you were right to call the police, you have no idea what their intentions are. The fact they aren't leaving after your DH told them to is also concerning.

Hopefully the Police will be in contact soon and the people leave you alone. Take care of yourself OP

It’s nothing to do with OP, if she doesn’t want anything to do with them. No one has the right to impose themselves on anyone else, it’s irrelevant what’s driving it from their side. How dare anyone force their trauma on someone else, when it’s clearly upsetting the other person.

If they need treatment to live how can op help, could she operate do you think?

OP is a shitty person for not hearing someone out who may desperately need treatment to live

She's not, and if it was something that serious, then they'd tell her husband or leave a note.

and there is a reason (many) why she does NOT want to

no such thing as moral obligation. nobody is ever obliged to do anything for anyone that they don't want to

They have been asked to leave and haven’t which is now harassment.

Have you got local community police in the area that you could contact and explain. They may be able to pop along quicker than the actual police and have a word with them and warn them they need to leave now.

You poor thing - no wonder you are distressed.

I would be concerned about how they had obtained my address, why they turned up, when they could have written, and not least - that they might take it even further by loudly airing why they wanted to speak with you.

I hope they leave soon. You must be so shaken.

Once again, OP is not responsible for these people. They clearly don't give two shits about her vulnerability so I don't know where the hand-wringing for them is coming from.

These roles have multiple other options - tell your husband, write, email, solicitor etc.

While I wouldn't have called the police, they are wrong no matter what they have to tell you.

I hope everything works out for you.

Why can they not tell your DH what it's about?

I'd call the police back, frankly. They're refusing to leave and it's now harassment.