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Highfivemum · 2025-04-02T09:41:31+00:00

Had a person contact me previously stating that we shared the same parent. It could be true as had a very difficult and complicated childhood and one which I don’t want to remember. My DB and I chose to ignore it. Two days ago had a visit from a person stating they were related. I shut the door in their face. It was a huge shock and triggered every bad memory though I understand I should have acted better. Yesterday the door went again and it was a different person who also stated they were family and could they talk. I again shut the door. DH was going to stay at home today but had a meeting he had to go to and as soon as DH left for work the door goes again and it is both of them. I shut the door again and I called the police. I know it is not a police issue but I literally am sitting here shaking. DH is on his way home and DB can’t be contacted as away on business. I feel crazy for calling the police and no idea what they will say to me but I was so worried and panicked. Anyone know what can be done. ? I don’t want to know these people and have no idea how they have traced me and found out my address. It is a mess and I feel ill with worry.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 02/04/2025 14:19

Please ring the police again. You need their help if these people are refusing to leave your property.

AthWat · 02/04/2025 14:18

Highfivemum · 02/04/2025 14:12

DH went out again to speak with them but they are still refusing to leave. They are actually in our driveway. Not heard from the police and don’t want to keep phoning them. I will not be going out to speak to them. I do not want anything from them and they are not having anything off me or my family. The idea of a note is a good idea and I a writing one so my DH will pass it to them. Basically saying please leave me alone. How they have got my details if indeed they are in some way related is a real concern. Have managed to get hold of DB who is like me not happy.

Are they refusing to tell yuor husband what they want? If so, why?

Megifer · 02/04/2025 14:18

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What are you even for?

Cloudyvibes · 02/04/2025 14:18

Personally I wouldn’t even bother writing the note now your at this stage. Your DH has told them you want nothing to do with them so they are aware of how you feel.

They are on your property and refusing to leave I would now be logging this with 101 so they have a record of it, they may also be able to send round non emergency police in the area or may be able to advise the emergency police that things have developed more since you phoned them last.

WongKarCry · 02/04/2025 14:18

AthWat · 02/04/2025 14:16

She doesn't even know who they are. Consider my example of the person telling them their house is on fire. They might have information they think she needs, and they might know for a facts he has no idea about it.

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But they can communicate that information to her without hanging about on her driveway intimidating her, no?

SirDanielBrackley · 02/04/2025 14:17

Highfivemum · 02/04/2025 14:12

DH went out again to speak with them but they are still refusing to leave. They are actually in our driveway. Not heard from the police and don’t want to keep phoning them. I will not be going out to speak to them. I do not want anything from them and they are not having anything off me or my family. The idea of a note is a good idea and I a writing one so my DH will pass it to them. Basically saying please leave me alone. How they have got my details if indeed they are in some way related is a real concern. Have managed to get hold of DB who is like me not happy.

Ring the police and keep ringing them. 999 not 101.

TheGentleOpalMember · 02/04/2025 14:17

Highfivemum · 02/04/2025 14:12

DH went out again to speak with them but they are still refusing to leave. They are actually in our driveway. Not heard from the police and don’t want to keep phoning them. I will not be going out to speak to them. I do not want anything from them and they are not having anything off me or my family. The idea of a note is a good idea and I a writing one so my DH will pass it to them. Basically saying please leave me alone. How they have got my details if indeed they are in some way related is a real concern. Have managed to get hold of DB who is like me not happy.

No, OP you really really need to call the police again and insist that it's urgent. You could be hurt. They could break in somehow. If they're on your property, your driveway, that's against the law. You could be in danger. Your husband can't stay home off work again tomorrow. Call the police now!

Megifer · 02/04/2025 14:17

Today's a lovely day for your DH to do some jet washing on your driveway isn't it op?

I'd leave the please off the note tbh, they seem like the sort of thick losers who would think it's a request they can decline.

AthWat · 02/04/2025 14:16

chakrakkhan · 02/04/2025 12:44

She doesn’t want to talk to them. She doesn’t need to let them tell her what they want.

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She doesn't even know who they are. Consider my example of the person telling them their house is on fire. They might have information they think she needs, and they might know for a facts he has no idea about it.

SirDanielBrackley · 02/04/2025 14:16

MrsCastle · 02/04/2025 10:53

I’ve put Yabu because you are failing to tell them you don’t want to speak to them

Having a door shut in your face is a pretty fair way of communicating that non-verbally IMO.

CalleOcho · 02/04/2025 14:16

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Why are you even on this thread if you are going to continue to mock the OP?

You are seriously strange.

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 02/04/2025 14:16

Please film them, or get DH to, he can tell them to leave, then you have something to show the police or court, if it ends up there. This is definitely a police matter, don’t listen to people here saying it isn’t.

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What a piece of work you are!

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 02/04/2025 14:14

@Highfivemum - I really think you should tell them that if they insist on getting in touch with you and your DB, that they should only go through solicitors.

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Highfivemum · 02/04/2025 14:12

DH went out again to speak with them but they are still refusing to leave. They are actually in our driveway. Not heard from the police and don’t want to keep phoning them. I will not be going out to speak to them. I do not want anything from them and they are not having anything off me or my family. The idea of a note is a good idea and I a writing one so my DH will pass it to them. Basically saying please leave me alone. How they have got my details if indeed they are in some way related is a real concern. Have managed to get hold of DB who is like me not happy.

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HangingOver · 02/04/2025 14:12

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I really disagree with this, or else I'm a drama queen too. I'd climb out an upstairs window rather than see someone who wanted to ask me things about my childhood.

Hwi · 02/04/2025 14:11

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 02/04/2025 14:04

How about they get their solicitor to write a letter to OP then?

At the moment it’s got nothing to do with OP and it’s a them problem, whatever it is.

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You are barking up the wrong tree - it is not about restraining orders, it is to make sure they don't or do (?) have a potential claim on their mutual parents' estate! I could jolly well become the OP's real problem if they do.

Megifer · 02/04/2025 14:09

Jollyhockeystickss · 02/04/2025 14:07

Don't believe all you read

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Take it you've had a door slammed in your face 4 times recently?

If so why are you being so dramatic continuing to make a scene at someone's house who clearly doesn't give a shit about you?

MarioLink · 02/04/2025 14:08

I don't blame you and in your situation it would be very triggering and scary. If any of my half siblings ever came knocking I would too act out of shock and probably couldn't say anything. It is encroaching on your safe space that you have locked all of it out of. You have my sympathy, I hope they get the strong hints!

Jollyhockeystickss · 02/04/2025 14:07

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 02/04/2025 13:55

Very unkind post.
You clearly have no empathy.

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Don't believe all you read

CalleOcho · 02/04/2025 14:07

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A drama queen who has had a traumatic past and has no interest in speaking to strangers about it.

A drama queen who just wants to relax and feel safe in her own home without strangers turning up on multiple days and who are now refusing to go away.

A drama queen who has ignored emails, and now ignoring strangers on her doorstep and has now contacted the police because this is now intimidation and harassment.

The police are here FOR situations like this.

Yes, there are also murders, robberies and road traffic collisions that are happening - but that doesn’t mean they can’t be involved with the OP. You do realise the police are here to protect the public in many situations? Including stalking and harassment. There aren’t just here for the immediate life threatening 999 calls you know?

You probably need to speak to the police yourself to get a better understanding of the different types of scenarios they can assist with.

The OP hasn’t created any drama. A person must be really dim and obnoxious to think the OP is the antagoniser in this situation.

NiceoneSonny · 02/04/2025 14:05

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 02/04/2025 14:01

I can't believe some of the responses on this thread. OP owes them absolutely nothing, she doesn't owe them a minute of her time, let alone her stem cells FFS. Any normal person would realise when the door was slammed in their face they weren't welcome, I do that to JW and even they can take the hint!

Oh, but she owes them something because THEY WANT IT, and she needs to find at least 10 different ways of articulating "no" for them to desist, and even that may not work. This is the thread where all the people who don't understand common human gestures of rejection, consent and boundaries have flocked. Just thank god most of them probably don't have a penis.

EquinoxQueen · 02/04/2025 14:05

Things that would really worry me in this situation are how they found you, got your email address and home address. Having watched ConMum I would be also sceptical that they are related without evidence.

if the police attend (which I doubt, but you should call back and update them), you can say that they could write to you via letter if necessary and you will respond if deemed appropriate. Your DH can then read it and relay it to you if he thinks it is appropriate.

you absolutely do not need to engage with these people and do not accept anything without clear evidence.

Jollyhockeystickss · 02/04/2025 14:05

Actually they could get debt collectors as it's a ploy they use so I've been told that they knock on your door to get your name and then they know that you live there, if so they will keep knocking, would explain why there is 2 of them, thinking about it if they were family they would put a note through door