Called the police

You husband obviously has less of a temper than mine because if someone was refusing to get off of our property I think he'd forcibly remove the two of them at once.

But given that he's not that way inclined, it's now a 999 job as far as I'm concerned. They're harassing you.

Some people are being deliberately stupid here. The OP has very clearly told them to go away through her actions and her husbands words. I can’t believe so many people actually believe that if she personally spoke to them face to face to tell them she doesn’t want to talk to them and to please go away that they’d just graciously leave. If they were going to respect her wishes they’d have left already.

OP keep phoning the police. This is absolutely not okay. And if you don’t have them already, get some security cameras on your property. You might have to look into a restraining order if they don’t give up. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, it must be terrifying.

Do NOT let them in no matter what.

They sound nuts if they're trespassing after having been asked to leave the property and leave you alone, it sounds like they're trying to intimidate you and isn't that harassment?

Did your husband tell them directly you would not be speaking to them at all and to leave the property now?

This is nothing good.

Yes, I just said, I missed that line. Everything else I stand by. I've said throughout that once her husband turned up and gave them a communication channel, it changed things completely.

I disagree. Once she shut the door in their faces the first time they should have backed off. If they were desperate for info they should write a letter and hope for the best. The OP doesn't owe them anything.

I have a dad that I haven't spoken to in thirty years. If someone showed up saying they were a half sibling I'd wish them well, but I'd want nothing to do with them. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I appreciate other people would feel differently.

If there was an inheritance due or medical information I doubt they'd be stalking the OP. They'd send a letter instead of constantly for knocking.

I missed the "told them to go" part, so fair enough, but I have said that since the husband turned up, the game changed.

But yes, if I was turning up to tell someone something, knowing they knew nothing about me or why I was coming, and they kept slamming the door in my face inexplicably, I might try again, because yes, I'd imagine they thought I was someone else.

Op has other threads where she says she has received letters in the post, separate to the email incident, she was in regular contact with some members of her family in 2019 who she then subsequently went NC with, so her family will know where she lives and how to contact her.

I came on to say this - if you feel panicked etc I understand the reaction and wanting to just shut the door, but this has the advantage of being in writing, so unambiguous, and you can prepare and write it carefully (typed/ printed is even better)

Sigh - read it again.

He has told them to go or the police will be called

You're really coming across very poorly.

Actually, sorry, I missed the "told them to go" part.

Yes I can read.

It says he has spoken with them. And they are refusing to leave.

Nowhere there does it say he told them to go. You are assuming that. Once again, not an unfair assumption, but not a fact.

It's possible he's gone out and said "what's this about" and they've said "We'd like to talk to your wife, sorry". We don't know her husband. He might just come back inside on hearing this.

Are you being deliberately obtuse here?

The OP states her husband has told them “to go”. But you don’t believe it?

You think the husband telling them to go may not have happened so these poor desperate people are hanging around outside someone’s home until they are directly verbally told “Please go away” by the OP.

Having a door closed in your face can mean that the person slamming the door thinks you are someone you are not, on business other than what you are there for.

Honestly 😂😂😂

Would you really turn up uninvited and unannounced to a strangers home, knock on their door and proceed to refuse to leave AFTER having the door shut multiple times because “oooh they might think we’re salespeople. We better carry on knocking until we’ve explained ourselves”.

UN FUCKING HINGED.

There are websites where - for a small fee - they'll look up the name and address of people on the electoral roll and will also give you the names of anyone (over 18) who lives at the same address.

I don’t. When I said ‘everyone on here’ I was excluding myself. This is someone’s real life, not a soap opera.

It's worrying that they know where she lives. Would they have got the address from the electoral register?

We have opted to not have our names on it.

Slamming the door in someone's face, 4 times, literally is a response.

And that's not even considering her husband asked them to leave.

Going back day after day and just standing there is batshit behaviour on their part.

It absolutely is, no disagreement from me at all.

If they are the ones that wrote the email, it has been ignored, OP mentions in previous threads about letters they have received that have gone ignored (not sure who from though), all methods of contact with her family are ignored because she is NC with them all.

So if they really feel strongly enough that they need to speak to her, turning up on the door is the only way to do it.. it doesn't explain why they can't talk to the husband though, that part does not stack up AT ALL. But if I was the husband I'd demand to know what they are doing there and what they want... it seems as if he has just told them to go away and threatened the police (who may or may not turn up).

Can you not read??? The bold bit says that the DH told them to go. If you can't comprehend that as being 'directly told to go by the husband' it's no wonder you're being so dense about the rest of it.

The OP believes she knows what they want, so she won't be wondering. She's sure it's that they just want to talk to her about her family and she doesn't want to do that.

Absolutely! WE want to know what they want, even if OP doesn't!

It is now, yes, now that the husband has returned and given them a channel of communication.

That doesn't say they have been directly told to go by her husband. As I say it's a fair assumption, but it's not stated.

And yes, it's a fair assumption it's the people who wrote the email, but they may nnot be. But it is an assumption. The "most likely" explanation is not true a sizable minority of the time.

Having a door closed in your face can mean that the person slamming the door thinks you are someone you are not, on business other than what you are there for.

I'd want to make sure of all these things in a quick 30 second conversation before simply refusing communication so then there would be no doubt on either side.

As I say now the husband is there, it's moot, they could just tell him and if they won't, that's on them.

Give what crap? It's basically a commentary on what has happened, they've turned up multiple times, OP is completely ignoring them as if they don't exist, DH has asked them to leave, so why haven't they?

They are obviously under the misguided impression that if they stay, something different will happen.

I'm not saying OP is in the wrong, of course she isn't, I'm not saying they are in the right, of course they aren't.

But they are there, and OP hasn't made her wishes clear, her DH doesn't seem to be doing an effective job of fucking them off, and the police don't seem interested.. maybe they will eventually give up and go away, but then they are likely to come back if they think they will get a response next time..

Lack of response is not a response.

The OP doesn’t appear to be at any risk of ‘forever wondering’. She doesn’t want to know, which is fair enough. It’s just everyone on here who is wondering!

If it was so important why don't they write a note and pop it through the letterbox?

I agree that hanging around like that is extremely odd and unnerving.