Called the police

"if they are genuine"
IF. OP has no idea who they are, or how they got her email & home address. They turned up uninvited and refuse to leave. OP has been clear without going into detail that she has no desire to rake over her family history as it's distressing for her.

Yet you think OP is the baddie here, and the two unwanted strangers who took root on her driveway deserve sympathy?For crying out loud.

IF they are genuine and IF they have or want important info, they can go through a solicitor, like anyone with half a brain would.

Where do people get off defending dangerous thugs and stalkers, and attacking the victim? Trespassing, stalking, harassment, refusing to leave property, and intimidation? How do they look at themselves in the mirror. What went wrong in the wiring in their formation to make them defend that.

You should be bloddy ashamed of yourself! OP has feelings, and her NEEDS AND RIGHTS to feel safe IN HER OWN HOME trump the entitlement of these dangerous thugs to terrorise a woman in her home. If you don't understand that, there is a humanity and decency and common sense mal-wiring there with you.

Ah I get it, you mean like - ‘won't someone please think of the stalkers?’ instead of supporting the OP, if only for balance.

Sorry for you. They sound unreasonable and can’t understand why they think this approach is appropriate.

They can write a letter & you can choose to read it. Maybe have husband or other close person read it first to help you decide.

good luck.

There are ways to contact people that don’t involve turning up unannounced and refusing to leave the property. They need to get it in writing.

They clearly haven’t thought about how turning up like this would affect @Highfivemum

ODFOD. After being told to leave the OP alone, they refused. Sounds to me they're just as obtuse as you.

I just think that these people also have feelings if they are genuine, and I don't understand the one-sided pile-on.

Please read between the lines. This is someone probably in the midst of a traumatic stress response to reminders of past trauma. These people need to read the room and have a little more sensitivity no matter what their motives.

Possible but unlikely.

When people are this persistent, it is usually to do with money (as in money they think is owed to them, not the other way round) or some deep emotional hole they are looking to fill.

Is this a joke post or…..?

Two complete strangers have emailed the OP with information that has upset her, then they have proceeded to turn up uninvited and unannounced to her HOME.

The OP has no idea how these people have gotten her address. That is incredibly creepy and unnerving.

I’m assuming you’ve read all of the OP’s updates and you have the absolute AUDACITY to tell a panicked woman that she has behaved appallingly and owes these unhinged stalkers an apology? Just because she has closed her own door and doesn’t wish to engage with these people.

How do you think they feel?
Are you for fucking real? How on earth do you think the OP and her husband feel after having two strangers continuously knocking on their door for multiples days and have refused to leave their property?

Seriously, do you have no self awareness? No empathy?

Absolutely shameless. I am gobsmacked at your post.

Even if they had, they don’t have some inalienable right to inform the OP if she doesn’t want to know. She’s not gone to the doctors and wanting info on her health. She’s minding her own business at home and doesn’t want to hear from them whatever they have to say.

Then they go about it via a different channel, not by refusing to leave her the fuck alone.

Cannot disagree more.

THEY are the ones being rude! She has clearly shown she is not interested in talking to them and they have stayed there for hours!!

Why should she apologise? That's nuts. She has nothing to apologise for - she was clear in her actions. THEY should apologise for not getting the blooming hint and leaving OP alone.

Sorry if this has bern suggested but is it possible they have some information such as herititory medical diagnosis that they want to pass on?

The eejits really are out in force today. She's under no obligation to respond to them in any way shape or form. Twat

If you don’t care how the OP feels, why do you care so much how the other people feel? Why does their need to tell her something trump her need not to hear it? 20 pages in and I still find this a baffling position. Can you not fathom why someone who is non contact with their family, doesn’t want to suddenly have contact with them - or anyone connected with them - just because those strangers have been ‘courageous’? And if the way they’ve behaved is your idea of courageous, I’m truly at a loss.

Thank goodness they’ve gone. I’d be very very surprised if you’ve heard the last of them though and still strongly recommend getting some security cameras installed on your property. Whatever they wanted, the fact they refused to leave shows they’re not going to take no for an answer. When you get the letter I’d advise that you do read it and respond to it, if only to state explicitly in writing that you want no further communication from them. A lot of the astonishing posts on this thread demonstrate that some people will take any excuse to ignore your very clear “no” so you need to leave them no wiggle room whatsoever.

I hope you can have a quiet evening and relax after such a traumatic day.

This is sensible.

If they want to talk to you and you are not willing, they should 'show their hand' first by writing the note.

You also do not know who they are from Larry aka possible scammers or debt collectors or criminals. Hence if and when you get the note, you (with your dh's help) should also satisfy yourselves as to whether they are who they claim to be. They must at least reference enough non-public personal details to be credible.

OP I'm glad you've got rid of them and hopefully they will leave you in peace now. It must have been a terrible ordeal for you, I hope you have plenty of support.

i am sorry to say I think you were BVU. These people if they are genuine must have really screwed up their courage to contact you, and it seems they have something important to tell you. It must have been very emotionally difficult for them to try and contact you, and then to have the door shut in their face is appalling. The way you have treated them is awful - rude, rejecting and dreadful. How do you think they feel? I hope you got some name or contact detail for them so that when you calm down you can see how badly you treated them, and maybe apologise and hear them out.

Op I'm guessing you may have had some involvement with social services in your childhood, possibly adopted and these are birth relatives who have found you. You don't have to reply to me to confirm/deny but if that's the case social services may still be available for you to talk to and support you with all this.x

How are you now OP? I hope you're feeling less upset, that sounds like a really stressful experience.

They turned up several times over a few days, banging on her door and wouldn't leave. As well as contacting her by email. That is stalking and harassment if ever there was!