To consider this arrangement

He's grooming you for him and his mates!

I bet he's from a different culture as this is the modus operandi to groom girls and women.

He will present as being well to do and married so that you are at arms length and he can tell you any old nonsense because he thinks you are gullible.

If you say yes to £600 he knows you are going to be an easy target to put into prostitution.

You are walking into a a trap and will belong to a gang of men, to be passed around.

Is size 12 big now then is it?

Why does your size matter..? Some men (and women!) have a genuine preference for women size 18+ and wouldn’t personally rate or sleep with anyone under a size 12. It always gets me when people mention their size in relation to their attractiveness. You clearly need to get out more and speak to more men (as I’m gathering that is your preference!) to find out how highly sought after women of all sizes happen to be!

Even if he was not married you would still have done it?

Ewwwwwwww. 😖

This. ^

One of my fears about this arrangement would be your ability to enforce boundaries in terms of what you consent to. If he's buying you he may refuse to accept that there are sexual activities you don't want to do or won't do. I mean that's always a risk with any guy but this demonstrably shifts power dynamics.

He wants to meet 4 times a month for 600?

You are literally selling yourself short.

Sex work wouldn't exist if we didn't live in a patriarchal society where women are seen as commodities to buy/sell/trade... But a woman in a dire financial situation is the last person I will lecture on morality.

Think about yourself in 5 years, when you could be doing okay money wise. Will the thought of you doing sex work make you feel dirty, used, shameful?

If so, do not do it. A short term fix is not worth a lifetime of mental health issues surrounding intimacy and sex.

If you think you will be fine and you want to do it, then I would be asking for a more realistic number.

Make sure he pays for the entire month at once at the beginning, or at the very least in advance before each time. Do not let him "owe" you. Do not let him pay via PayPal or similar where he can claw the money back and call you a scammer (it could affect your ability to use banks).

I know a woman who did this for several years. She is happy she did it, but I feel sad she felt she had to in the first place.

Edit: My friend charged 300 per time and double that for anal. I forgot to add that she was doing the same as you are considering. She only did it with one man at a time. I guess it's a sugar baby arrangement. Your guy is probably on that seeking arrangements website lol

I think pp are right, that if he’s paying for it he will expect degrading acts or things he would never do with his wife. That’s the difference. If you were a girlfriend or an equal partner then you’d just say no or he wouldn’t ask you to do these things. I’d be scared of saying no as what will happen then? Potentially the possibility of violence

I suspect he's not rich and you'd never see any money for your work. £600 per month is an oddly low amount for someone to offer for this amount of sex work. Is he all flash talk about money but really has very little?

I don't think you are unreasonable to consider it. If you are stressed about money and this is a means to paying off debt for something that you were considering doing anyway, see it as a bonus.

But do consider it from all angles...

How long are you prepared to do this for?
What price are you willing to accept?
What are you prepared to do for this money? (Is it just sex or will it be dinner/dates too?)
What are your boundaries (condoms, positions, kinks, bondage, STD tests beforehand etc)?
What if he turned up with a friend?
What if he wants to do something you say no to - will he feel entitled to do it anyway because he has paid you?
What if he filmed it and blackmailed you or put it on a revenge porn site?
Do you have another way to make the money (eg. ask him for £2k or you show his wife the screenshots...)

The fact that he is married and using a dating site shows he is not entirely trustworthy.

For me, it would be too risky and it isn't what I'm looking for, but it is sensible to consider these things.

An escort provides company only. Once sex is sold it becomes prostitution.

This I would consider as escorting not prostitution. I think there is a difference.

Personally OP, I wouldn’t do it. I feel you are worth more than that, and I’d be aware it could harm your self-esteem in the long run.

If you take all the moral issues out of this for a moment, just ask yourself the following questions.

You know he is a liar so how can you be sure he would actually pay you? Would you get your whole month’s wages in advance? Does he intend to deduct the price of the hotel rooms from the £600?

Some sex workers do have regular customers, but what he is asking for is exclusive access. I don’t know but I think they would charge an awful lot more for that service than what he’s offering. That suggests he sees you as a low value whore. Or maybe it is because he hasn’t had sex with you yet so is unsure of the quality of the service you would provide. Are you prepared for him to renegotiate if he decides to pay you less?

What put you in the financial straits you find yourself in? If you can’t manage on your wages, how likely is it that this would only be a short term solution? You could find yourself dependent on him until he tires of you and then, within a short time, be back in the same position.

But at that point you will feel very differently about yourself. It’s very unlikely the experience will leave you feeling empowered, more likely your self esteem will be destroyed and your mental health shattered. Will you be able to afford the long term therapy you will need to recover from that?

I’m wondering if you see this as some sort of Pretty Woman situation. Don’t. It’s fiction. You would be far better off googling to find the official agencies that are there to help with debt management. The citizens advice bureau is the first that springs to mind. Beware of private companies that will charge you for advice, they are not what you need and are often scammers. But to be fair they won’t give you an STD.

I don't really understand why I was propositioned for this

Because if you don't ask, you don't get? He was chancing his arm. All you need to do is say no and block him

He doesn't seem that rich if he is offering you less than the going rate for sex work. He wants a discounted sex worker?

If you're going to do this to yourself, you might as well get paid properly for it.

You have watched too many movies.

OP, you are getting an undeserved bashing on this thread.
Times are really tough right now, and I understand why you would consider it.
Given the arranged natures of the proposal, with a clear layout in duration and frequency, and as long as it does not involve anything seedy, I would not judge you if you decide to partake.

Ok I’ve reread the OP and I apologise to her for saying she’s already fucked him however I stand by the rest of my post.

She hasn’t. As you’d know if you’d actually read her posts properly before dropping in full of judgement and righteous indignation.

Leaving aside any questions about morals, you don't know for certain about his finances.
As PP said, he could be grooming you for trafficking with his friends / associates.
Maybe I am also bieng paranoid, but
you could be at risk of blackmail, assault, rape anything!

Also I cannot imagine wanting to have sex with a man who cannot even convince his own wife to have sex with him.

And somebody who has demonstrated women’s boundaries mean little to him.

If you’re gonna do this ffs ask for more money