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Bullybanfan · 01/04/2025 19:04

Nc for this one! In Oct 22 my daughter was bitten by an XL bully and has had to have several surgeries on her arm.
We have several of the beasts in our area and I feel more and more incandescent with rage everytime I see one, muzzled or unmuzzled. I just feel there's such injustice for children like DD who have had to suffer yet they are still allowed to roam free as a breed. I saw one being walked earlier in the park and my mind jumped to 'i wish they had all been destroyed'

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TheWonderhorse · 01/04/2025 23:27

I can't hate XL Bullies, they're not at fault. It's like being angry with a lion. They're the product of inbreeding between aggressive dogs. Humans created them.

I also think the rules will lead to more attacks in the short term because the dogs can't be exercised safely, and are stuck at home frustrated a lot of the time. It's no quality of life for them. People will get different dogs in future, hopefully from a better gene pool.

LittleMissLateForWorkAgain · 01/04/2025 23:14

Your poor daughter. How scary for her. I m a grown adult and not scared of much but those dogs terrify me, knowing they can weigh more than some humans and the muscles on them! Terrifying things.

Randommomontheinternet · 01/04/2025 20:31

Hey,
I completely get your frustration and I hope DD recovers!

However, I do not agree with your hatred towards the dogs. I am a HUGE animal lover, mostly dogs. I have two myself ( Not XL bullies, one is a Maltese and one is a Maltese x border terrier)

I feel like the owners are to blame, not the dogs, as they are taught how to behave and what is acceptable and what isnt. You could say that about most dogs how they're horrible and all need to die, for example there was a talk on banning Rottweilers for a time..

I think you need to redirect your anger towards owner and not the animals themselves.

I do hope your daughter makes a full recovery and is back to full health asap!

ClaraMumsnet · 01/04/2025 20:26

We're so sorry for what happened to your DD, OP Flowers
I'm just letting you know we've edited your OP as it had quite graphic descriptions of abuse in it, which aren't allowed. We do want you to be able to get support which is why we haven't removed it entirely.

pearbottomjeans · 01/04/2025 20:21

Alix111 · 01/04/2025 19:54

Whilst I understand the sentiment and agree you should be angry. It is not the dogs fault it is the owners, no animal is inherently bad, it is the owners who have trained (or lacked in their training) of the animal. If you see an unmuzzled XL bully report it to the police or if you see any report them in case the owners are illegally having them, that is the only way of dealing with the problem. Sending thoughts to you and your daughter in her recovery :)

If a dog hasn’t been trained, it’s in its natural state. So yeah, it is the dog.

FrozenFeathers · 01/04/2025 20:20

Not loving all the calls for animal cruelty on this thread.

Surely OP's (and some other posters') beef is with the owners and not the dogs. Dogs can't help what they are. It's irresponsible owners, who take on breeds they don't know and don't know how to raise and handle properly, that is the cause of these attacks.

lolly792 · 01/04/2025 20:20

They should be humanly destroyed. As for the morons who own them….

Cucy · 01/04/2025 20:17

Waiting for the deletion thread on this one.
I’m sure OP won’t be back.

I’m shocked so many posters support animal abuse.
It’s absolutely disgusting!!

Cucy · 01/04/2025 20:16

sprigatito · 01/04/2025 19:37

I would feel this way about a human who attacked and disfigured my child, so I don’t think you are being unreasonable to hate XL bullies with all your heart.

They are monstrous freaks which should never have been developed in the first place. They need to be rounded up and destroyed, no exceptions. But MN is a weird place when it comes to dogs. The same people who will call you evil for wishing harm on these Frankendogs would be enthusiastically baying for the death penalty if it had been a human who savaged your daughter.

How can you compare a human, who consciously goes out of their way to attack a child to an animal which has been bred to fight.

stickmanohstickman · 01/04/2025 20:14

BelloItalia · 01/04/2025 19:33

There was a woman on here a few months ago gushing about her “placid XL Bully”. When people questioned her intelligence she said she was an educated professional or something … she’s been quiet lately - I do hope it hasn’t eaten her

I’m ashamed to say this made me laugh out loud 🤣

BlondeMummyto1 · 01/04/2025 20:12

Just seen a video of someone with one on a train acting all big and clever because people look nervous when they see it. She thought she was the dogs bollocks.

These thick scum bags use these dogs for attention without a second thought on the possible dangers to others.

Cucy · 01/04/2025 20:11

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FedUpandEatingChocolate · 01/04/2025 20:10

Your poor daughter and you, that must be so traumatising.

I don't understand why people keep them, it's not fair on the dogs themselves. At our local dog park there are people with fighting dogs and the odd XL and it makes my blood boil. People often don't have control of their dogs - a great Dane put it's hind paws on my daughter's chest and the owner told her off for being scared!

Mbhhhvff · 01/04/2025 20:04

They are basically a tiger on a lead, so I don’t blame you either.

I don’t understand why ownership of these dogs is being put above peoples safety.

Morons own them and morons are letting them exist. I agree they should all be destroyed.

ionatrolley · 01/04/2025 19:59

I would try my best to poke its eyes out with my door key.

Treesarenotforeating · 01/04/2025 19:55

I understand your anger, I don’t know why anyone especially family’s would want such a beast

Alix111 · 01/04/2025 19:54

Whilst I understand the sentiment and agree you should be angry. It is not the dogs fault it is the owners, no animal is inherently bad, it is the owners who have trained (or lacked in their training) of the animal. If you see an unmuzzled XL bully report it to the police or if you see any report them in case the owners are illegally having them, that is the only way of dealing with the problem. Sending thoughts to you and your daughter in her recovery :)

lolly792 · 01/04/2025 19:54

@BakelikeBerthayes, she was trying hard to come across as a responsible owner but frankly owning this breed is not responsible full stop. No matter how many hours a day you spend training them and trying to convince yourself you’re a good owner, you’re being an irresponsible idiot for having one

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 01/04/2025 19:48

I am a proper dog lover, and a big advocate of "it's not bad dogs, just bad owners". There's an American Bulldog walked in the park I walk mine in, and he's a proper sweetie. Massive and muscular though. As a responsible dog owner, I'd not have a dog I couldn't physically hold onto if the need arose. My collie is big enough for me.

However, the XL bullies should never have been a thing. They have only been bred to be status symbols and to be used as a sign of being "tough".

I also saw a video the other day of a Cane Corso standing on it's hind legs next to a woman. It looked like a very muscular, dangerous man, with a very strong jaw and teeth, rather than a dog. I'm not scared of dogs in the slightest, will happily play on the floor with my friends rotties, but this thing worried me. I can't imagine wanting one in your home.

BakelikeBertha · 01/04/2025 19:40

There was an article on TV about it this morning, a man's daughter was attacked, and the TV people wanted to introduce him to an owner so that he could ask why she keeps one. She seemed totally gormless, 'oh my dog wouldn't do that', and I just thought, 'how stupid can you be?' They eventually persuaded the man to stroke the dog, but not until it had a muzzle on. The man told the woman the last time he'd been that near to an XL, was when he was laying on top of it, trying to protect his daughter! In all honesty, I was shocked that he agreed to do the article, as there's no way I'd go near one after one of my kids had been attacked, with or without a muzzle.

sprigatito · 01/04/2025 19:37

I would feel this way about a human who attacked and disfigured my child, so I don’t think you are being unreasonable to hate XL bullies with all your heart.

They are monstrous freaks which should never have been developed in the first place. They need to be rounded up and destroyed, no exceptions. But MN is a weird place when it comes to dogs. The same people who will call you evil for wishing harm on these Frankendogs would be enthusiastically baying for the death penalty if it had been a human who savaged your daughter.

Itsoneofthose · 01/04/2025 19:34

Bullybanfan · 01/04/2025 19:04

Nc for this one! In Oct 22 my daughter was bitten by an XL bully and has had to have several surgeries on her arm.
We have several of the beasts in our area and I feel more and more incandescent with rage everytime I see one, muzzled or unmuzzled. I just feel there's such injustice for children like DD who have had to suffer yet they are still allowed to roam free as a breed. I saw one being walked earlier in the park and my mind jumped to 'i wish they had all been destroyed'

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You are not being unreasonable. You should consider EMDR therapy for the impact this has understandably had on you to help you process it.

TinkerbellStarbright · 01/04/2025 19:34

No, I think you’re totally justified

i am a huge dog lover and I think they shouldn’t exist and for reasons like the attack on your daughter they should be humanely euthanised

i hold the idiots who keep and breed them to blame.

BelloItalia · 01/04/2025 19:33

lolly792 · 01/04/2025 19:24

I’m not surprised. Why anyone feels the need to keep this breed of dog is beyond intelligent reason.

There was a woman on here a few months ago gushing about her “placid XL Bully”. When people questioned her intelligence she said she was an educated professional or something … she’s been quiet lately - I do hope it hasn’t eaten her

lolly792 · 01/04/2025 19:31

I was reading in the news earlier about the grandad who died some time after being chased and attacked by a XL Bully while he was walking in a residential area. The news report said the owner is already facing charges for having a dangerous dog out of control. I hope the moron now gets charged with manslaughter and ends up in jail. The news report said the man suffered unimaginable pain before his death. So many deaths, so many life changing disfiguring injuries, just because some total idiots seem to be afraid to walk around without a fucking dangerous dog at their side