Husbands messages to a friend

I'd go easy on your friend, she is trying to brush him off. She may be questioning herself if she is mistaking banter for flirting and worrying about whether or not she should say something to you.
He has definitely crossed the line though, even if it is 'banter', which I very much doubt, it is disrespectful at the least.

Are from the West Country? I totally read the messages in that accent.

seriously though, do grown ups really speak like that? I thought it was an April Fool!

Have neither of them gone to school?

I agree with all of this.

Why would you stay with a pig like this? Salivating over your friends and being totally inappropriate. 🤮

Oh he is 100% up for it and was sounding her out.

Marriage ending.
He's a liar.
Get snaps and ask all family and mutual friends for their opinions.

I would be done. I am so sorry OP.

Any man texting women like that has likely been already unfaithful.
Wouldn't trust him as far as I'd throw him.

He is a sleazy creep.

It’s all relative depending on your and your husband’s circle of friends and how you all talk to each other. But. The line he says you are all a man needs yum. There is no dressing that line up. He is flirting. And he is flirting with your pal which in my book makes it doubly crap. There’s no getting away from it and if he has no shame about flirting with your pal, he’ll be doing that with others too. She isn’t interested - she tried to bay him away. Really sorry. Also his response is lacking. He shouldn’t minimize this - but considering he has, he doesn’t sound very mature nor emotionally intelligent. I’d look at the rest of the relationship and review it X

He's fishing to see if she's interested. Disgusting behaviour from a married man.

Yeah he wants to fuck her. Sorry @PRGirlUK You need to let him know you have seen all this, and then leave the cunt. Vile. I threw up a little in my mouth reading this ...😖

I pretty much guarantee your partner has cheated on you, perhaps multiple times. And he is now trying to shag your friend

Totally unacceptable. It's not 'just banter' and I think you're completely right to be angry and upset. I bet his 'banter' with his male friends isn't like this.

I also disagree with PPs who are saying it's all him - it's not. At the very least, she's really enjoying the attention. She's just letting him do the chasing so she can kid herself that he's the guilty one.

They both type like they've recently been lobotomised.

And yep he's trying to shag her.

Your 'friend' is actively flirting with your DH and he is definitely interested in taking this further. I would be fuming with both of them.

Ewww! Scum bag. This is all him. How awful for you (and her tbh). One of your friends! It’s like double disrespect. If he wants to play away then play away but don’t keep it this close to home! Stupid, little man.
I’d tell her you saw the exchange, that you know HE was the one trying it and give her an opportunity to tell you the truth and make it clear you will 100% believe whatever she has to say. I’d be shocked if this is the first time he’s tried it on with her and wouldn’t be too surprised if he’s tried it with your other friends too. Your friend might have some insight you might not like to hear, but it’s better you know than continue being that woman who’s husband is a known dirt bag to everyone but the wife.

Was it iMessages or what’s app? If it’s iMessage then you can look in the recently deleted folder. I’d be asking friend to show me all other messages between them too, just to see how long he’s been chasing her for

Ew - just read it over and where he says - You is all any man needs - YUM! 🤢🤮

She knows him and it's often safer to play along and brush it off, whilst trying to work out if you want to say something to the OP.

She may enjoy a bit of banter and it's now crossed a line.

Only the OP knows the situation and her DH/friend dynamics.

They both need dumping

I think she put him down trying not to be mean. But she's not interested and he is. This is a husband problem OP. I'm sorry

Friend brushed him off/tried to make out like she was taking it as a joke, but I guarantee she will be uncomfortable with his creepy messages!! He’s vile and I’d be devastated at my husband messaging anyone this, let alone a friend of mine!

A. He is married and is behaving absolutely appallingly.
B. He seems to be barely literate.

You need a different husband.
You also need a different friend.

He’s trying to cheat.

I wouldn’t put it past him to have cheated with someone else either, seeing as he’s so confident to speak to one of your friends like this, knowing it could get back to you. Imagine a stranger.

She isn’t your “friend” either. I would have sent the screen shots to my friend. She was half entertaining him but I don’t think she’s quite as interested as he is.

But she hasn't shut him down and a friend would have.

Too bloody right.

It's the your call eventually.... that would upset me. The first bit wouldn't bother me too much. Sounds like banter but that bit leaves me feeling like he likes her and he's waiting for her to give the go ahead to start something.

On the other hand she doesn't come across as interested and doesn't seem to necessarily get what he (could be) trying to say.

I beg your pardon, no, this isn't banter, this is him pursuing her. He was clear with his intentions.

She doesn't seem interested but she also hasn't entirely shut him down. A friend would have.