Husbands messages to a friend

I don’t know about anyone else but I was reading it in a deep Scottish accent.

Joking aside, I’m sorry OP - this is truly shit.

Put them both in the bin. He’s desperate for a go and she’s stringing him along.

Any decent friend would have told you about the exchange and any decent man wouldn’t have flirted.

Me too!!! It’s got the opposite effect to flirting in the end. Builders’ talk!!! Yuk

I was fully ready to bat for the friend because I have been that friend and know how to politely put him off without causing friction because I'm a chronic people pleaser I know how messengers get shot.
But I remembered to read the OP updates and thought her previous comment about him crossed the line.

1- Is your husband 12? The way they both talk is so cringe. Eurgh!
2- Your husband definitely fancies your friend
3- Your friend is no friend if she doesn’t tell you about this
4- Please get rid of them both!

Yes this is awful.

Husband needs binning (but get your ducks in a row first with a lawyer and a plan before you tell him) as he was trying to cheat and he doesn't respect you and how can you trust him or feel safe with him again

Friend shut him down but also seems flattered by the attention - I couldn't be friends with her anymore after this tbh although she's not been as bad. I wonder if she has told any other friends about this, how humiliating for you (even though you've done nothing wrong).

Is this how we types/writes normally?? Huge ick!

So glad to read that you're done with the pair of them OP. What a disgusting pair they are, they deserve each other, and YOU deserve MUCH better than someone who texts drivel like this. Get him GONE!!

She previously told my H that he would be her H one day.

Okay then. That explains the buzzy frisson between them and his ‘your call eventually’. He is ready whenever she is. She has never been a true Friend or a friend of your marriage. He is a dirty dog bastard of the highest order who is happy to humiliate and cheat on you.

@PRGirlUK, this pair of disloyal Snakes deserve each other. Send him to hers with a big red bow around his neck.

I really am sorry for this double whammy of betrayal.

i would print the exchange off and substitute your name in and the name of one of his friends. Ask him to read it from start to finish and then ask him if he thinks this is appropriate. If he still brushes it off start the process of kicking him out. What an absolute ballsack he is!

Okay, re reading the conversation, something has been going on hasn’t it?
whether something’s already happened between them, or they’ve just talked about it. There’s definitely been something. You don’t just say ‘your call eventually’ out of the blue.

can you join them for a drink tomorrow and confront her?

I'm sorry but your husband is tragic.

He's dumb as a box of rocks.
He's treating you like crap.

He's not even a good at cheating. He doesn't understand how technology works, is inarticulate, his banter/flirting sucks. He won't get far with anyone with more than 2 braincells.

You could do better without even trying.

He's not a loss. You will be far better off without him.

Hed shag her in a heartbeat given the chance. I wouldn't trust her either though. She's encouraging him. You don't talk like that to a friends husband

I'd dump both of them

Eh?!! 😳 what sort of friend is she? Are they going for drinks tonight? Are you going?

😂😂😂 is you?? Arghhh

Shish. Us immigrants actually try harder 😂

I'd dump him just for his typing 'style'. Vom.

Surely actual, adult human beings don't talk like that? Had they both bumped their heads earlier that day?

This is an April fools joke, it has to be!

Chavvy

Yes, @PRGirlUK, your H is a player. He was clearly making a move on your Friend, and it feels like it’s not the first time. I would consider his sordid words and intent to be infidelity.

His defensive downplaying and accusing you of overreacting are manipulative tactics straight from the Script. You caught him shitting all over you and your marriage by coming on to your Friend, and he is not remorseful at all. That speaks volumes.

I am uncomfortable with F’s response to his sleazy overture. She is being coy and playful instead of definitively shutting him down like I would expect. She should have called him out or popped his balloon by telling him to bring you to the drinks. She absolutely should have told you instead of keeping his dirty secret.

@PRGirlUK, his faithless behavior is sickening and deserves consequences. I would send him away while I considered my options.

Just a bit?

I would be dumping him on the ground that he sounds thick - as well as a flirt

He is a twat and is definitely interested in her.
She I am not 100% about - I think she is an awkward position - if you had not read the messages live on the laptop and she mentioned to you that he had sent messages she felt were inappropriate what would you have said? I suspect - you would ask him - he would say it was banter and she was trying to split you up and you would stay with him and she would be the one you no longer see.

I think the kisses are harmless (from her) I know some people who put them to everyone and mean nothing by it. I think it is possible her 'wat is' - could be an attempt to see if he would be more explicit and she might have told you or she might be interested.