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Maxie Allen and Rosalind Levine arrested - The vindictiveness of the school and police overreach

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Everanewbie · 01/04/2025 08:45

AIBU to worry that this type of incident seems to be happening more and more? To me, there are several concerning aspects to this story. Here is a link if you aren't yet aware.

www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2025/mar/29/parents-arrested-by-hertfordshire-police-for-complaining-about-daughters-school

Firstly, the apparent opaqueness of a public organisation and attempts to shut down private conversation and the vindictiveness the school has shown in attempting to silence this couple.

Secondly, the treatment of the pupil whereby she is being dropped off an escorted into school, and inability to discuss he disability and SEN with teachers, leading to multiple emails that were ultimately used against the couple.

And thirdly, WTF are the police doing? 6 Officers to arrest a meek professional couple, in front of their daughter. Holding them in a cell for 11 hours? Why are the police not dismissing this out of hand? I have always tried to be a supporter of the police, but how can reasonable people continue to accept this when they wont attend a burglary or detain shoplifters, but turn up in force for a middle class couple who called a governor a control freak in a private conversation?

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whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 12:15

User46576 · 02/04/2025 12:07

If you look at your messages - both describe scenarios that you claim to have encountered before and that you think happened based on your experience. Yet the evidence shows that in fact that was not what happened in this case.

Prejudice means you have pre judged based on your experience or beliefs about a particular group. That’s exactly what you have done here.

Maybe look at the actual facts not other different situations you may have encountered

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Yes I have encountered it. The evidence - the emails and the discussions on the school site? Videos have been released have they or were you there? I have seen the whatsapp sent after but not seen the videos or all the emails. Care to share?

I have no prejudice about a particular group. I have based my opinion on what I see daily from such groups. They are toxic and given that they mock the school after says it all. When someone says stop and they carry on, what does that say about them?

So you are prejudice in your beliefs? Thank you for admitting it.

I am asking you for links to the facts as you seen to have been there and have all the emails stored. Kindly share them.

Now given that harassment is two or more forms of unwanted contact, did they only contact the school once after being told to stop?

User46576 · 02/04/2025 12:12

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 12:04

The facts are that the couple made a complaint and it was not upheld. I have tried to explain to you why this might be despite being told I’m “off my rocker” and all manner of insults. I don’t have to argue my point, it was tested and vindicated with the dismissal of the complaint. You’re the one still insisting people are wrong with no knowledge of how things actually work so please continue.

you have tried to justify clear misconduct from the police with all sorts of claims including that they needed six police officers because of a dangerous four year old! You are not “explaining” anything.

it’s not a surprise the police aren’t upholding a complaint against themselves! Not unusual either.

Horseskeepmesane · 02/04/2025 12:10

BunfightBetty · 02/04/2025 00:09

Many schools have ‘parent behaviour policies’ or ‘home school policies’ which tell the parents not to be negative about the school on social media. Which would include WhatsApp. Check the ones you know - it is (to me surprisingly) common.

This cannot be lawful or legally enforceable.

The cheek of it.

What I would ask about all of this is how do the teaching staff find out what is being said in parent WhatsApp groups??

User46576 · 02/04/2025 12:07

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 12:02

😂 prejudices? Against white middle class couples?!

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If you look at your messages - both describe scenarios that you claim to have encountered before and that you think happened based on your experience. Yet the evidence shows that in fact that was not what happened in this case.

Prejudice means you have pre judged based on your experience or beliefs about a particular group. That’s exactly what you have done here.

Maybe look at the actual facts not other different situations you may have encountered

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 12:04

The facts are that the couple made a complaint and it was not upheld. I have tried to explain to you why this might be despite being told I’m “off my rocker” and all manner of insults. I don’t have to argue my point, it was tested and vindicated with the dismissal of the complaint. You’re the one still insisting people are wrong with no knowledge of how things actually work so please continue.

User46576 · 02/04/2025 12:04

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 11:57

It’s not rubbish at all, I’m trying to explain to you how decisions are made and justified. You can scream and shout and call for blood all you like, the complaint was not upheld because the alternative was arriving with too few officers and putting people at risk and that’s why the bosses have backed them.

You’re trying to justify six police officers turning up for a non violent allegation (that should never have been the subject of arrest) on the basis that a middle aged couple, an 80 year old and a 4 year old might be unusually dangerous.

Clearly as the police usually work in pairs be had no reason to believe my of these people were dangerous in the slightest you are talking nonsense.

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 12:02

User46576 · 02/04/2025 11:57

That’s not what actually happened though. It’s just what you both decided happened based on your prejudices/ previous experiences.

😂 prejudices? Against white middle class couples?!

User46576 · 02/04/2025 12:01

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 11:52

See my above post for some ideas of things to be considered. I’m obviously not party to any intel or history re the couple or the address as the police would have been so can only make suggestions but even if nothing is known about them at all then unknown risks would still need addressing. Sometimes those situations can be even more unpredictable. The alternative would be two officers turning up, something going wrong and someone getting hurt in which case a complaint would be justified.

The police routinely work in pairs. As I have already explained your claim that they brought more officers here because of the child present is incorrect because they claimed not to know the child would be there and the parents had to get the gran to attend to look after the child as the police were unable or unwilling to do so. The parents have no history of violence or convictions and had been accused of a non violent offence.

Those are the facts. You may not wish to believe that the police ever overstep the mark but clearly they do and the evidence in this case shows they did.

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 11:57

User46576 · 02/04/2025 11:54

The police didn’t seem to be aware that the four year old was at the property as there was a significant delay so that the 80 year old grandma could come and babysit while they took the parents to the police station because they’d had a discussion in private about misconduct at a school. The idea that six police officers are needed because of a four year old child they claimed not to know was there and an 80 year old who wasn’t there is total nonsense!

There was no reason to arrest them, never mind send six police officers. It was a non violent allegation which if the police had looked into before they acted, they would never have taken any further. The police usually don’t bother to turn up at all to investigate burglaries or robberies.

No idea why you keep on with this rubbish. I don’t think anyone really believes you need six police officers in case a four year old kicks off!

It’s not rubbish at all, I’m trying to explain to you how decisions are made and justified. You can scream and shout and call for blood all you like, the complaint was not upheld because the alternative was arriving with too few officers and putting people at risk and that’s why the bosses have backed them.

User46576 · 02/04/2025 11:57

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 11:17

Completely agree with you. I have seen this too with schools. I have seen the kind of harassment parents lead and then cry they didn't do it when collared. Parents do not get bans without it being necessary. The whatsapp groups of schools are vile. The parents are the ones bullying usually through the groups and then cry 'free speech' all the while falsely accusing, name calling, threatening and harassing staff. I have seen it all on those groups.

That’s not what actually happened though. It’s just what you both decided happened based on your prejudices/ previous experiences.

User46576 · 02/04/2025 11:54

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 11:05

You’re absolutely right, middle aged people have never in the history of the world been known to be violent while being arrested and never react badly to it. Police officers make such a fuss about violence being meted out to them most days, officer safety shouldn’t even be a thing.

Having children at the property also wouldn’t complicate things if they were to become upset or need to be kept safe from intervening and potentially hurting someone or being hurt themselves.

They were psychic and knew that 80 year old Gran would be the person the couple asked to babysit before arriving so they didn’t need to plan for officers to look after the children in case a relative wasn’t available. There is no possibility that an elderly relative could be frail or ill or unable to look after the children for the length of time required when the circs were given. There is no way a 80 year old could get upset and have a medical episode herself and end up needing help. Maybe a different relative might have been asked who may not have been so frail and might have caused trouble.

There are no risks at all in this situation, there will have been no risk assessing or intelligence done beforehand and absolutely no unknowns to plan for in this situation, the police are just silly and I’m wrong. As per the outcome of the complaint. No, wait.

The police didn’t seem to be aware that the four year old was at the property as there was a significant delay so that the 80 year old grandma could come and babysit while they took the parents to the police station because they’d had a discussion in private about misconduct at a school. The idea that six police officers are needed because of a four year old child they claimed not to know was there and an 80 year old who wasn’t there is total nonsense!

There was no reason to arrest them, never mind send six police officers. It was a non violent allegation which if the police had looked into before they acted, they would never have taken any further. The police usually don’t bother to turn up at all to investigate burglaries or robberies.

No idea why you keep on with this rubbish. I don’t think anyone really believes you need six police officers in case a four year old kicks off!

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 11:52

Mnetcurious · 02/04/2025 11:38

Can you think of a reason why six officers would be needed to arrest two people who are not known to have been armed or violent then? Why not two officers?

See my above post for some ideas of things to be considered. I’m obviously not party to any intel or history re the couple or the address as the police would have been so can only make suggestions but even if nothing is known about them at all then unknown risks would still need addressing. Sometimes those situations can be even more unpredictable. The alternative would be two officers turning up, something going wrong and someone getting hurt in which case a complaint would be justified.

sumor · 02/04/2025 11:49

Woman who reported predatory officer blamed by Met

There does increasingly seem to be a pattern of blaming people who dare complain.

The more I read more I think parents were badly treated, though not sure they were completely blamless, but the child had already left the school a week before the police came round.

So yes they are MC and media savy - and god know there are many diffcult parents out there - and with a child with serious medcial condition can well believe they were on anxious side - but I don't think this situation was handled at all well.

Lorraine is shown in silhouette as she cannot be identified

Met Police: Woman who reported predatory officer gets apology

The woman accused the force of trying to discredit her over her complaints against a Met constable.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cwyd9g2pnwxo

Everanewbie · 02/04/2025 11:43

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 11:33

I mean I don’t know but I’d imagine the police aren’t too quiet and might have a few other jobs on the go plus they’re not exactly flush with staff so if six are sent, it’s because six might be needed. They weren’t, great news, everyone is safe. Which is the whole point and the reason that complaint would have gone straight in the bin. Not everyone can have knowledge of every subject but maybe we should try thinking a little bit deeper sometimes.

They should never have sent 6 officers. They should have sent zero. The officers should have been assigned to dealing with murders, rapes, burglaries, shoplifters and drug dealers. They really should have dismissed this straight away, but if they were so determined this could have been handled with a single officer and a voluntary conversation to provide their side of the story.

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Mnetcurious · 02/04/2025 11:38

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 11:33

I mean I don’t know but I’d imagine the police aren’t too quiet and might have a few other jobs on the go plus they’re not exactly flush with staff so if six are sent, it’s because six might be needed. They weren’t, great news, everyone is safe. Which is the whole point and the reason that complaint would have gone straight in the bin. Not everyone can have knowledge of every subject but maybe we should try thinking a little bit deeper sometimes.

Can you think of a reason why six officers would be needed to arrest two people who are not known to have been armed or violent then? Why not two officers?

QuirkInTheMatrix · 02/04/2025 11:38

Audhdmum · 02/04/2025 11:24

Its not illegal to criticise a school or teachers. Much as some school staff would dearly like it to be.

I don’t think it is. However if it crosses the line into harassment and bullying then it should be illegal and I believe is.

Swiftie1878 · 02/04/2025 11:33

To get to the truth, you need the WHOLE truth, that is, ALL sides of the story.

Ronsealit · 02/04/2025 11:33

Mnetcurious · 02/04/2025 11:32

SIX police officers turning up at the home of a couple who haven’t done anything violent?! Madness. What a complete waste of resources.

I mean I don’t know but I’d imagine the police aren’t too quiet and might have a few other jobs on the go plus they’re not exactly flush with staff so if six are sent, it’s because six might be needed. They weren’t, great news, everyone is safe. Which is the whole point and the reason that complaint would have gone straight in the bin. Not everyone can have knowledge of every subject but maybe we should try thinking a little bit deeper sometimes.

Mnetcurious · 02/04/2025 11:32

SIX police officers turning up at the home of a couple who haven’t done anything violent?! Madness. What a complete waste of resources.

Gherkintastic · 02/04/2025 11:31

Its not illegal to criticise a school, but it is illegal to off roll children and to me it looks like that's what the school were up to.

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 11:26

Swiftie1878 · 02/04/2025 11:20

Totally incorrect, and that’s why we’ve become so shit at being fair-minded.

That isn't incorrect. There are only facts - the event that happened. So there is only ever one side of the story - the truth. The rest are lies.

Audhdmum · 02/04/2025 11:24

Its not illegal to criticise a school or teachers. Much as some school staff would dearly like it to be.

Swiftie1878 · 02/04/2025 11:20

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 11:18

There is only ever 1 side the story - the truth.

Totally incorrect, and that’s why we’ve become so shit at being fair-minded.

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 11:18

Swiftie1878 · 02/04/2025 11:10

There are clearly 4 sides to this story and at the moment we only know one of them.

Lots of assumptions are being made and prejudices being displayed- when did we all become so shit at being fair and even-minded?

There is only ever 1 side the story - the truth.

whippy1981 · 02/04/2025 11:17

PicaK · 02/04/2025 07:40

Let me tell you how it comes across to me. (I'm a clerk in a school, governor in another. Parent of children with SEN.)

The guy stops being a Governor (not sure why) but then gets FOMO when the old head leaves. Bombards school wanting to know what's happening with recruitment. School politely refuse to tell a parent the ins and outs.

The guy demands whole group parent meetings. Won't let it go that he has to be involved or kept up to date.
Is so abusive to staff etc they end up banning them from playground. Now schools put up with a lot. More than most people realise. It takes somme pretty abusive and heavy handedness to get to that state

Then he gets bloody awkward. Email after email - probably a parent demanding instant answers from someone teaching his child and you know kinda busy. Then emailing again.
It honestly looks like he kept demanding to come in and talk about medication. Trying to get the round the ban. The school reasonably asks what he wants to talk about and he goes off on one - peeved because he's not getting his own way. So instead of writing it down - putting his kids first - he refuses and keeps demanding to come in.
Seen some of the WhatsApp messages. Described as banter by the couple. Well it's not. It's vile poisonous derogatory and vicious. Slagging off the school on WhatsApp is just not on.
Overall the couple come across as spoilt and too used to getting their own way. They're using their media connections to bully a school and governors who can't talk back.
There was obviously something said that prompted the school to show it to the police
So yeah. Spoilt, vindictive and quite nasty is how the parents come across.

Completely agree with you. I have seen this too with schools. I have seen the kind of harassment parents lead and then cry they didn't do it when collared. Parents do not get bans without it being necessary. The whatsapp groups of schools are vile. The parents are the ones bullying usually through the groups and then cry 'free speech' all the while falsely accusing, name calling, threatening and harassing staff. I have seen it all on those groups.