None of this is confirmed, but I have strong suspicions.
my grandfather sadly passed away last year. He owned a very successful business, and was very generous with all his grand kids.
since he died, I have heard my mother (his daughter) and uncle having conversations about dealing with the inheritance from him. For context, I know that my uncle received enough to pay off all the mortgage on his new £1.2m house, so I know my mum likely received a similar amount.
My grandfather also told me before he passed a few times that I’d be receiving a good inheritance and shouldn’t waste it.
the issue is, my mother is very ideologically opposed to the idea of she or her kids inheriting money. She is very left wing, and believes that it is immoral for some people to receive inheritances when others don’t receive anything. Therefore, she has refused her portion of the inheritance.
it also means that I have no idea how much I have inherited. She is the executor of the will, and I have not seen it. I only ask as I’m saving up to buy a house, and it would be great to know whether I’m likely to receive any money to help with a deposit.
Every time I’ve asked her about my inheritance, she gets very angry and accuses me of not loving my grandfather and only caring about his money, which isn’t true.
how do I deal with this? I don’t want to fall out with my mum over this, and she is still very much grieving.