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To wonder where these kids are meant to go?!

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Wonderberry · 31/03/2025 19:06

Unfortunately, my child's school is closing due to the VAT imposition on private school fees. She has special needs, and her fees are paid for by her EHCP, as it is a cheaper alternative to a special school. I am not rich. She cannot attend a state mainstream due to her special needs, and the council agrees with this.

I now have no school placement for her. The special schools are hugely oversubscribed (over 10 applications per place). Even if she could go to a state mainstream, there is no space in any of them, due to lots of schools closing locally. I have called dozens of them in desperation, as I need for her to go somewhere.

I have been frantically contacting the council to get her a new school place. They won't even respond. I'm faced with her being without any school place shortly. I cannot home school as I need to work.

My DD is far from alone in this. Unfortunately, the government has paid no thought into the wellbeing of SEND children, when imposing the VAT.

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Laughingdoggo · 01/04/2025 20:03

Can I point out what should be obvious - most parents want the best for their child. They want them to thrive and be calm and happy. If they know that can’t happen with the current state offering, then they have no alternative than to look at private sector and neither does the LA.

StrivingForSleep · 01/04/2025 20:03

DC don’t get an independent MS named just because it is better. There is no legal right to the best possible education. Provision in EHCPs has to actually legally be reasonably required. To have a wholly independent school named the parents need to prove the LA’s proposed school(s) can’t meet needs &/or it isn’t unreasonable public expenditure. They don’t get the independent MS named just because it is ‘better’.

Not all DC who can manage in an independent MS can be supported in a state MS. If they could be, the independent MS wouldn’t be named, and thus funded, via their EHCP.

Sadly DC of parents who know the system and can advocate for them get better support. It shouldn’t be like that and fails the most vulnerable. However, instead of blaming the parents of DC who secure provision their child is legally entitled to, all parents should be supported to enforce their child’s rights.

Laughingdoggo · 01/04/2025 20:02

0ohLarLar · 01/04/2025 19:59

The reality is we can't afford to pay for private education for kids who cope better with smaller class sizes.

The vast majority of kids learn much faster/better with a better ratio of adult input. We can't afford it.

A child who can manage in a mainstream private, should be able to be supported in a mainstream state.

I suspect there'll be a shift towards providing "autism friendly" classes in state schools.

”A child who can manage in mainstream private should be able to manage in mainstream state when supported.”

If the private one offers tiny classes, break out spaces, sensory/quiet areas and a broad curriculum and they are things that cannot be delivered in state, because they simply don’t have them, then what should happen?

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 20:01

0ohLarLar · 01/04/2025 19:59

The reality is we can't afford to pay for private education for kids who cope better with smaller class sizes.

The vast majority of kids learn much faster/better with a better ratio of adult input. We can't afford it.

A child who can manage in a mainstream private, should be able to be supported in a mainstream state.

I suspect there'll be a shift towards providing "autism friendly" classes in state schools.

This!!!

0ohLarLar · 01/04/2025 19:59

The reality is we can't afford to pay for private education for kids who cope better with smaller class sizes.

The vast majority of kids learn much faster/better with a better ratio of adult input. We can't afford it.

A child who can manage in a mainstream private, should be able to be supported in a mainstream state.

I suspect there'll be a shift towards providing "autism friendly" classes in state schools.

Laughingdoggo · 01/04/2025 19:58

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:57

Finding private education for a few with proactive parents isn’t sustainable and IS a race to the bottom for the majority. We don’t have a magic money tree.

Still waiting for your current alternative…

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:57

Parsley1234 · 01/04/2025 19:55

@TesterP0t i don’t think you’re really getting it the SEND provision isn’t fit for purpose it’s a shit show it’s not a race to the bottom

Finding private education for a few with proactive parents isn’t sustainable and IS a race to the bottom for the majority. We don’t have a magic money tree.

twistyizzy · 01/04/2025 19:56

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:55

I don’t think you speak for all schools.

And you certainly don't
Are Labour your paymasters?

Parsley1234 · 01/04/2025 19:55

@TesterP0t i don’t think you’re really getting it the SEND provision isn’t fit for purpose it’s a shit show it’s not a race to the bottom

twistyizzy · 01/04/2025 19:55

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:54

Things will be changing so it’s best to look ahead to how best to provide better provision for more children rather than a few.

Please enlighten us as to what is changing?

StrivingForSleep · 01/04/2025 19:55

@TesterP0t state schools cannot cater for all DC with SEN. Neither can independent SS. By removing other options, you won’t see a reduction in costs. There will be an increase in expensive EOTAS/EOTIS (with or without the C on the end) packages. And they can be far more expensive than an independent mainstream school. They are not the cheap option. And LAs like EOTAS/EOTIS even less than independent placements.

Laughingdoggo · 01/04/2025 19:55

Your average mainstream doesn’t want EHCP kids. They are expensive and tricky and protected by scary legislation, and often don’t produce the academic and sporting results schools like. They are square pegs in round holes. And the underfunding makes them even less attractive as they’re then scapegoated as the kids who are “taking all the resources.”

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:55

twistyizzy · 01/04/2025 19:53

It really doesn't in many schools

I don’t think you speak for all schools.

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:54

Laughingdoggo · 01/04/2025 19:52

And? Run through the current alternatives

Things will be changing so it’s best to look ahead to how best to provide better provision for more children rather than a few.

twistyizzy · 01/04/2025 19:53

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:52

It does in many schools.

It really doesn't in many schools

Laughingdoggo · 01/04/2025 19:52

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:52

The government are right with this. We simply don’t have the money anymore to continue as we are. Funding private education for a few is not a good use of the limited funds that we have.

And? Run through the current alternatives

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:52

twistyizzy · 01/04/2025 19:51

So you should know then! The utopia of state supporting SEN properly doesn't exist in any universe. It's really not as easy as just tipping them all into mainstream schools and hoping for miracles.

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It does in many schools.

Parsley1234 · 01/04/2025 19:52

@TesterP0t i think you must be in a parallel universe because most SEND provision isn’t like that and the only people bankrupting council are these insane ministers spunking £1 mill plus on the briefs defending their socialist ideologies

Laughingdoggo · 01/04/2025 19:52

StrivingForSleep · 01/04/2025 19:45

@Laughingdoggo the high court case the pp was talking about is about VAT. Not about how SEP/placements in EHCPs are secured.

Apologies.

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:52

The government are right with this. We simply don’t have the money anymore to continue as we are. Funding private education for a few is not a good use of the limited funds that we have.

twistyizzy · 01/04/2025 19:51

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:49

Yes I work in SEND provision and have a child with an EHCP.

So you should know then! The utopia of state supporting SEN properly doesn't exist in any universe. It's really not as easy as just tipping them all into mainstream schools and hoping for miracles.

Laughingdoggo · 01/04/2025 19:51

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:44

Well continuing to bancrupt councils funding private education for a few isn’t going to help. Once it stops and more funds are diverted to the state things will improve. It will be easier to look at best practice and follow successful
models .

This is what I mean about missing the point : the councils have a legal duty to discharge. And they are forced by tribunal to do it but the only options at their disposal are private provision because there are not enough specialist places and mainstream simply isn’t suitable/accessible for many kids.

So they need to change the way in which local government is funded, and also simultaneously build more special schools whilst changing the culture of the existing mainstream provision.

This situation is not the making of parents and children. It’s of a structural inequality in education and society. And also legally the law (Children and Families Act) would also have to be rewritten. None of that happens overnight.

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:49

twistyizzy · 01/04/2025 19:47

"Once it stops".....jesus christ! You need to understand how bad SEN support is in many mainstream schools, that's why children end up in specialist SEN schools in the first place(whether state or independent).
The government won't divert funds to mainstream, they will tinker around the edges with tiny % increases which are insufficient to meet the needs of those children.
Have you even stepped foot in a mainstream school to look at their SEN provision?

Yes I work in SEND provision and have a child with an EHCP.

twistyizzy · 01/04/2025 19:47

TesterP0t · 01/04/2025 19:44

Well continuing to bancrupt councils funding private education for a few isn’t going to help. Once it stops and more funds are diverted to the state things will improve. It will be easier to look at best practice and follow successful
models .

"Once it stops".....jesus christ! You need to understand how bad SEN support is in many mainstream schools, that's why children end up in specialist SEN schools in the first place(whether state or independent).
The government won't divert funds to mainstream, they will tinker around the edges with tiny % increases which are insufficient to meet the needs of those children.
Have you even stepped foot in a mainstream school to look at their SEN provision?

StrivingForSleep · 01/04/2025 19:45

@Laughingdoggo the high court case the pp was talking about is about VAT. Not about how SEP/placements in EHCPs are secured.

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