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To wonder where these kids are meant to go?!

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Wonderberry · 31/03/2025 19:06

Unfortunately, my child's school is closing due to the VAT imposition on private school fees. She has special needs, and her fees are paid for by her EHCP, as it is a cheaper alternative to a special school. I am not rich. She cannot attend a state mainstream due to her special needs, and the council agrees with this.

I now have no school placement for her. The special schools are hugely oversubscribed (over 10 applications per place). Even if she could go to a state mainstream, there is no space in any of them, due to lots of schools closing locally. I have called dozens of them in desperation, as I need for her to go somewhere.

I have been frantically contacting the council to get her a new school place. They won't even respond. I'm faced with her being without any school place shortly. I cannot home school as I need to work.

My DD is far from alone in this. Unfortunately, the government has paid no thought into the wellbeing of SEND children, when imposing the VAT.

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Arran2024 · 04/04/2025 15:44

SelkieSeal · 04/04/2025 14:27

Yep.

The posters wanking on about how my DS shouldn't be getting a private education at the taxpayers expense yada yada would be feeling quite different if he had been in their child's class a few years ago Hmm

At the time, I was devastated to find out that the other class parents had a WhatsApp group set up to "share their concerns" about DS's behaviour. He caused the classroom to be evacuated on a daily basis at one point. He screamed, and spat, and swore, and ripped wall displays down, and absconded, and locked himself in rooms, and threw chairs, and bit/kicked anyone who got too close when he was in meltdown. And no, it wasn't down to shitty parenting. I've got proof in the form of older DC who didnt throw chairs plus numerous professional assessments/reports (several of which I paid for myself in order to try and ascertain the full extent of DS's needs) that my parenting is fine. Not just fine but excellent, responsive, dedicated, and well informed, according to some of those professional reports.

Pretty sure some of the posters on this thread would have been front of the queue to suggest that he be moved out of mainstream and into a more suitable specialist placement!

Except that because this is a large rural county there are no suitable state specialist provisions for 40 odd miles, the only suitable placement was...the independent school he is at. Should he have stayed in mainstream fucking up not just his own education but that of all the other children? Or should he have been moved to a suitable school that could meet his needs? It's a real conundrum Confused

Same here. I adopted two traumatised, neglected children from the care system and surprise, surprise, mainstream school wasn't a good fit. They weren't even that disruptive but certain other parents were deeply unhappy and made my life hell - even the teachers were astonished at the behaviourof some of them and had to intervene. We had no option but mainstream for primary but secondary was two different sen schools, one LA for one child and one independent for the other.

SelkieSeal · 04/04/2025 14:27

FalseSpring · 04/04/2025 12:17

In my opinion there is a bigger issue with trying to shoehorn all these SEN children into MS schools. Quite apart from the impact on the SEN children themselves, the disruption and staff time required to manage some of the more challenging SEN children is taking away from the education of the non-SEN chidlren.

My experience of MS is that it only takes one SEN child to ruin the experience of many others who are often experiencing low-level trauma in the classroom on a daily basis. Our good teachers are leaving in droves because of the behavioural issues that they lack the help and facilities to deal with.

I am not surprised that we are having to deal with a huge increase in SEN children when ND children are thrown into chaotic schools every day - I know I wouldn't have been able to cope with a huge modern school at all. The lack of ability to discipline and the lack of human and other resources in MS schools are making the school environment too hostile for many children, even those with relatively minor SEN.

Yep.

The posters wanking on about how my DS shouldn't be getting a private education at the taxpayers expense yada yada would be feeling quite different if he had been in their child's class a few years ago Hmm

At the time, I was devastated to find out that the other class parents had a WhatsApp group set up to "share their concerns" about DS's behaviour. He caused the classroom to be evacuated on a daily basis at one point. He screamed, and spat, and swore, and ripped wall displays down, and absconded, and locked himself in rooms, and threw chairs, and bit/kicked anyone who got too close when he was in meltdown. And no, it wasn't down to shitty parenting. I've got proof in the form of older DC who didnt throw chairs plus numerous professional assessments/reports (several of which I paid for myself in order to try and ascertain the full extent of DS's needs) that my parenting is fine. Not just fine but excellent, responsive, dedicated, and well informed, according to some of those professional reports.

Pretty sure some of the posters on this thread would have been front of the queue to suggest that he be moved out of mainstream and into a more suitable specialist placement!

Except that because this is a large rural county there are no suitable state specialist provisions for 40 odd miles, the only suitable placement was...the independent school he is at. Should he have stayed in mainstream fucking up not just his own education but that of all the other children? Or should he have been moved to a suitable school that could meet his needs? It's a real conundrum Confused

FalseSpring · 04/04/2025 12:17

In my opinion there is a bigger issue with trying to shoehorn all these SEN children into MS schools. Quite apart from the impact on the SEN children themselves, the disruption and staff time required to manage some of the more challenging SEN children is taking away from the education of the non-SEN chidlren.

My experience of MS is that it only takes one SEN child to ruin the experience of many others who are often experiencing low-level trauma in the classroom on a daily basis. Our good teachers are leaving in droves because of the behavioural issues that they lack the help and facilities to deal with.

I am not surprised that we are having to deal with a huge increase in SEN children when ND children are thrown into chaotic schools every day - I know I wouldn't have been able to cope with a huge modern school at all. The lack of ability to discipline and the lack of human and other resources in MS schools are making the school environment too hostile for many children, even those with relatively minor SEN.

StrivingForSleep · 04/04/2025 12:13

Have you checked if you are eligible for legal aid? This can fund the pre-action letter. If you get to JR proceedings themselves, that will be in DD’s name and she can be eligible for legal aid in her own right, but the pre-action letter is in your name so legal aid can only cover it if you are eligible. SOSSEN can help with pre-action letter. However, they have a long waiting list at the moment.

imip · 04/04/2025 10:24

Sorry, preaction protocol letters! Probably not for JR, but usually the letters work:

imip · 04/04/2025 10:24

SOSSEN have affordable prices for JR. Many universities will also offer a similar service via their law students.

Wonderberry · 04/04/2025 10:15

StrivingForSleep · 03/04/2025 21:58

If the threat didn’t work, have you sent a pre-action letter?

The timescales of the normal complaints process mean it isn’t a suitable remedy.

I haven't because I don't have a solicitor (not sure I can afford one either) but maybe I need to look into this

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StrivingForSleep · 03/04/2025 21:58

If the threat didn’t work, have you sent a pre-action letter?

The timescales of the normal complaints process mean it isn’t a suitable remedy.

Wonderberry · 03/04/2025 21:18

StrivingForSleep · 03/04/2025 19:54

Some schools are cagey about consultations. I would email them explaining DD’s actual needs and a copy of the current EHCP. The LA may not have been totally truthful.

Have you emailed the Director of Children’s Services threatening to pursue judicial review proceedings if they do not get their act together regarding the AR?

Thank you. I have mentioned pre-action protocol and judicial review many times. I am waiting for the reply to my formal complaint too.

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StrivingForSleep · 03/04/2025 19:54

Some schools are cagey about consultations. I would email them explaining DD’s actual needs and a copy of the current EHCP. The LA may not have been totally truthful.

Have you emailed the Director of Children’s Services threatening to pursue judicial review proceedings if they do not get their act together regarding the AR?

Wonderberry · 03/04/2025 19:46

I'm still trying to chase the council in getting a new school place. I asked them to send a consultation to the local special school, and they have now said it was sent. When I called the school, they said 'they can neither confirm nor deny receiving it'. Is this usual? I understand if they wouldn't discuss over the phone but they wouldn't email either.

I'm aware how short a time there is until we are without a school place, and that nothing happens unless I follow it up dozens of times.

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TooBored1 · 03/04/2025 16:01

Cannaeberught · 02/04/2025 07:12

Demand for places over all IS down. Our birth rate is down, and it isn’t just private schools having to adjust to this.
Our city has had a controversial change in boundaries - with MANY children affected - because less places are needed.

Exactly. Over the last 10 years, just under half the independent schools in my city have closed.

imip · 03/04/2025 15:45

Was this in the SEN tribunal, and is it a decision that has been made?

imip · 03/04/2025 15:44

Yes, heard the same from the lead tribunal judge. And I think only two year of support post 16.

twistyizzy · 03/04/2025 15:43

imip · 03/04/2025 15:42

I think there will be a move away from the word SEN by the “system’ and the net affect will be kids won’t get support. It might be additional learning needs, which I think is the Welsh system.

And they have already stated that Wales is the blueprint

imip · 03/04/2025 15:42

I think there will be a move away from the word SEN by the “system’ and the net affect will be kids won’t get support. It might be additional learning needs, which I think is the Welsh system.

twistyizzy · 03/04/2025 15:03

SelkieSeal · 03/04/2025 15:01

Whatttttt??

Yep and that goes alongside the admission that they considered exempting any child with SEN from VAT but that would mean it wouldn't raise enough money so they didn't

SelkieSeal · 03/04/2025 15:01

twistyizzy · 03/04/2025 14:34

FYI government KC just stated in court that if a child doesn't have an EHCP then they don't have SEN! Any parent with a child with SEN but without an EHCP needs to be very afraid of this government.

Whatttttt??

twistyizzy · 03/04/2025 14:34

FYI government KC just stated in court that if a child doesn't have an EHCP then they don't have SEN! Any parent with a child with SEN but without an EHCP needs to be very afraid of this government.

twistyizzy · 03/04/2025 10:24

Cannaeberught · 03/04/2025 10:24

‘If you want to go down "tax break" route then you reveive tax breaks on your: food, water, utility bills etc etc etc.’

yes, well we do. And books, which is nice.

So start coughing up otherwise taxpayer is subsidising all of those!

Cannaeberught · 03/04/2025 10:24

‘If you want to go down "tax break" route then you reveive tax breaks on your: food, water, utility bills etc etc etc.’

yes, well we do. And books, which is nice.

twistyizzy · 03/04/2025 09:43

Cannaeberught · 03/04/2025 09:40

I would support A tax break for children who have genuine need but of course private schools would just take the piss with this they way they do their ‘charity’ status and have every other kid declared SEN in some way.

The judge ruled that legally there are no "tax breaks" or "subsidies" and told Labour KCs to stick to facts not opinions.
If you want to go down "tax break" route then you reveive tax breaks on your: food, water, utility bills etc etc etc.
Maybe park your obvious prejudice and lack of knowledge and actually read + listen to what is being said!

Cannaeberught · 03/04/2025 09:40

I would support A tax break for children who have genuine need but of course private schools would just take the piss with this they way they do their ‘charity’ status and have every other kid declared SEN in some way.

EasternStandard · 03/04/2025 08:26

Blackbird84 · 02/04/2025 21:19

You utterly horrible person. We are talking about children, disadvantaged ones at that. Just because you hate their parents, you have no empathy for the mental distress of struggling children.

Labour’s policy does tend to drive this.

twistyizzy · 03/04/2025 08:04

frozendaisy · 03/04/2025 08:03

Because parents who can move house, pay for tutors, also love and care about their children’s future so will do as anyone else, everything they can to get their child the best school possible.

Of course, so exactly the same as parents who choose independent schools then? Yet only 1 set is vilified for their decisions