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Would this comment heard in a nursery concern you

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Eva98 · 31/03/2025 17:29

If a child was not behaving very well at dinner time, throwing their fork and the response from staff member was ‘throw that at me one more time’. I’m not a nice tone. It sounded to me like a threat

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kitchentablegardentable · 31/03/2025 18:58

MuddyPawsIndoors · 31/03/2025 18:03

Yes it would concern me.

Also, kids can be quite literal and could take ‘throw that at me one more time’ as an instruction.

Yes, absolutely.

my kids are now older than nursery age and still wouldn’t fully understand this. They would take it as an instruction and be confused.

what a horrible way to speak, I would have to say something.

MuddyPawsIndoors · 31/03/2025 18:43

DonaldMacRonald · 31/03/2025 18:34

No it wouldn't concern me. If my toddler was throwing cutlery at staff then I'd want them to tell them off. "Throw that at me one more time...." and what? "I'll take the fork off you"? I doubt the members of staff was going to finish the sentence off with "and I'll kick your arse".

No but a professional would have finished the sentence.

She's not stupid, she'll know the child's imagination may be working overtime without her saying exactly what she means.

DonaldMacRonald · 31/03/2025 18:34

No it wouldn't concern me. If my toddler was throwing cutlery at staff then I'd want them to tell them off. "Throw that at me one more time...." and what? "I'll take the fork off you"? I doubt the members of staff was going to finish the sentence off with "and I'll kick your arse".

Staceysmum2025 · 31/03/2025 18:24

How many times do you think it’s appropriate to have a fork thrown at you by a toddler?
Little ones these days have absolutely no manners or boundaries, because of idiots refusing to tell them off when they do something wrong. Throwing a fork is wrong.
The toddler needs telling

Fingernailbiter · 31/03/2025 18:21

No, unless there were previous concerns it wouldn’t. Children need to be taught what is acceptable. For all you know, it might have been going to end as "Throw that at me one more time and I’ll have to take your fork away and feed you like a baby", or "Throw that at me one more time and you’ll have to go and sit on the thinking chair on your own for a few minutes while the other children who are eating nicely have their lunch", which would both be fine by me if it was my child.

qwertyasdfgzxcv · 31/03/2025 18:04

That is awful.

Model the behaviour to children that you want them to repeat.

Always remember that children are not mini adults.

Patience and kindness first.

MuddyPawsIndoors · 31/03/2025 18:03

Yes it would concern me.

Also, kids can be quite literal and could take ‘throw that at me one more time’ as an instruction.

Rattatooee · 31/03/2025 17:47

It would concern me but I don’t think it’s uncommon unfortunately.

Fancycheese · 31/03/2025 17:32

Yes it absolutely would. I unfortunately live in an area that has, sadly, had its fair share of horrendous things happening to children at nurseries so maybe I’m on high alert. However I wouldn’t be happy with any kind of threatening tone from a nursery worker. Although undoubtedly they have a difficult job, threatening children you’re looking after is not acceptable!
I would suggest if they’re that bothered by a child throwing a fork they should not be in that line of work.

BallerinaRadio · 31/03/2025 17:31

You heard it yourself?