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Teens and drugs

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Cannaeberught · 31/03/2025 15:07

DC has a close friend, known from infant school, now in different high schools but still meet up pretty regularly. Now both 15. Friend has always been a bit of a handful, in trouble a school etc. we’re friends with the parents, who are a bit lefty MC but nice.

Had lunch last week, all of us, and the parents said they know/suspect their kid is taking ‘class A’s’ their words, not mine.
They don’t seem that bothered, have said not much they can do and have ‘talked’ to their DC about drugs and said they’d rather they don’t do it but at least try to know their limits, not over do it.

AIBU to think they should try a bit harder to prevent the child from taking drugs??? I’d be horrified if my D.C. was at this age. And would put consequences in place, freeze pocket money etc not just be ah well. Kids will be kids????

For context - the parents both grew up doing that kind of thing in a big city, DH and I are country bumpkins who grew up playing sports and barely even drank til we were well past 18.

YABU - lighten up, teens do this sort of thing. 15 is old enough to handle it.

YANBU - Of course 15 is too young to be taking drugs etc.

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Redwinetorelax · 31/03/2025 15:31

I have teens and I would be horrified to find this out and yes I would be stepping in to stop it. My eldest is 15 - I know where he is at the weekends and he’s definitely not taking drugs!!

Cannaeberught · 31/03/2025 15:29

‘Ecstacy is a class A. Lots of teens do that sometimes I think, at weekends? ’

oh that’s okay then. My bad, so long as ‘lots’ of teens are doing it on weekends it must be okay …

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BobbyBiscuits · 31/03/2025 15:26

You sound like you look down upon the family in general. If the parents knew how judgemental you are then I doubt they'd raise the subject with you again.

Ecstacy is a class A. Lots of teens do that sometimes I think, at weekends? I'd be concerned if it was heroin but that would be concerning for any age. But at 15 lord knows how they'd find the money to support a habit? It's also not like you personally can stop the kid from doing it.

Anyway, I don't really know what you can do or say. Other than try and ban your kid from seeing him if you think he's a bad influence. But I get the feeling that could backfire.

Cannaeberught · 31/03/2025 15:22

I’m just struggling to see how/why this is the norm - or is it- and why they wouldn’t be more concerned.

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H0LLOW · 31/03/2025 15:20

I think it’s good that they are able to talk openly about it.
I was taking drugs at that age, parents had no idea at all. They were bumpkins.

incidently what is it about them being lefty middle class but nice?

Cannaeberught · 31/03/2025 15:16

And obvs I’m worried about my teen getting influenced but generally they have different friendship grps- with this friend being in with the ‘cool’ older kids.

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