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To expect DH to wake up when the kids do?!

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Mumof3Chaos · 31/03/2025 08:05

Honestly, I am FUMING this morning. Every single day, without fail, the kids wake up at the crack of dawn (thanks to the flipping clock change making it even worse), and every single day DH just magically doesn’t hear them. I swear the man could sleep through a fire alarm.

So there I am, dealing with 3yo screaming because she wanted the blue cup (which is in the dishwasher, obvs), 7yo crying cos he can’t find his school tie, and 10yo shouting down that she’s got no clean PE socks (despite me washing a million pairs last week). Meanwhile, DH is just lying there, breathing deeply, pretending he’s in a coma or something.

I banged around a bit in the kitchen, “accidentally” dropped a spoon, even opened the curtains in the bedroom when I went back up, and NOTHING. He just strolled downstairs at 7:50 looking all bleary-eyed, stretching like he’s had the best sleep of his life, and went “Oh, are they up already?” LIKE NO, I’M JUST RUNNING A NOISE EXPERIMENT.

AIBU to expect him to get up and help instead of playing dead every morning?! Cos I swear if he does it again tomorrow I might just ‘forget’ to make him a cup of tea for the rest of the year.

OP posts:
femfemlicious · 31/03/2025 08:15

Do you work outside the home?. If you do then yanbu if not yabu.

Sofiewoo · 31/03/2025 08:14

Honestly I just don’t understand how you can be over a decade into parenting and do the passive aggressive “banging around”.

Just take it in turns and tomorrow if you hear the kids who wakes first you just use your words and tell him to get up surely??

Anoisagusaris · 31/03/2025 08:14

As I say to my kids ‘use your words’! When you need him to be up and helping, just tell him. No point passively aggressively making noise, just go into the room and say ‘you need to get up and help get the kids sorted’.

Elicitcoffee · 31/03/2025 08:13

Sounds like a disorganised and unhappy mess

where are the kids now?

FanofLeaves · 31/03/2025 08:11

I hate to be that person but things need to be better organised the night before so it’s not a stressful mad rush! That’s obviously not just on you, the eldest two are capable of sorting out their school things ready to get dressed in the morning with you or ‘D’ H checking.

And he absolutely should be getting up.

what time do you all need to leave if he’s surprised they’re all up at 7:50?!

SpringIsSpringing25 · 31/03/2025 08:09

Is the eldest his?

If so, has he been doing this for 10 years?

faerietales · 31/03/2025 08:08

I would be sending the 3yo in to wake daddy up. Every single morning.

TourangaLeila · 31/03/2025 08:07

No YANBU. Tell him to get the fuck up.