To expect DH to wake up when the kids do?!

You need to talk to him about him getting out of bed to parent the morning school routine. Dh was always available in the mornings before he went to work to ensure I could get out of the house for the preschool run with a newborn. He is a fully hands on parent. Oh and I was a sahm and I got a lie in every Sunday when Dh would parent his own children solo.

Ways to help wake your Dh up, remove the covers, open the windows, tell him you will spray him with a water bottle. He is a parent as well as you. He needs to be up and managing the children.

Set the children up for success, sort out school stuff the night before, not you, them. They can write themselves a chore chart so they know what they need to do the night before and in the morning. Get them thinking for themselves. Don't solve problems for them, if they can't find their PE socks ask them where do you think you might need to look? You can buy chore charts too, write in what they need to do and they tick it off, or they can stamp it which is far more fun.

YANBU but I don’t know why you bother opening the curtains and crashing around. If you want him to get up with you then go and tell him to get up and help you. Or send the toddler to do the job if you prefer.
No one is this tone deaf to being needed so he’s probably pretending, but if you aren’t being direct he’s well within his rights to “not realise” you needed him.

If he went to bed at midnight he could easily get up to help in the morning.

Dawn and sunrise are two different things.

Dawn is the time of morning when the Sun is 6° below the horizon.

Much earlier than sunrise.

Is there any arrangements relevant to the story? Are you a SAHP? Does he work late? Is he working lots of overtime/long hours?

If you have broadly similar working arrangements and he's office hours, then yes, he needs to be involved. If I were you, I'd have a calm measured conversation about how hectic mornings are and how it is both your responsibilities, and how it isn't fair that sole responsibility is on you while he has a lie in.

My husband gets up around 9 when he is on a late shift, he doesn't come home until half 10 so he has a lie in on those weeks, not sure of your husbands work schedule but I've just got used to getting up with the kids in the mornings because the other weeks he has to be at work for 6am so I'm just used to it now, on the occasions when I've needed him to get up though he will do, just talk to him about it and tell him you'd like if he got up a bit earlier to help you but at the age your children are I'd expect them to get themselves ready without much prompting, mine are 16, 11, 8 and 9 months all get themselves ready while I deal with the baby

I would absolutely not tolerate this. He either gets up or he is out!

Why do women keep having children with useless men?

6:30 would be a lie in here! 😂
If DP isn’t working an early shift or come off a night shift then we take it in turns to have a lie in so only one of us has to get up. However I should add that we aren’t trying to get anyone out the door for school.
I would say either you take it in turns to get up on your own while the other one lies in till 8 or you both get up. I agree with send the 3 year old in to wake him- mine would be bouncing on the bed, that would wake him quick enough!

Lazy fuck needs telling. He needs to get up and help Your job shouldn’t be 247 while he strolls down at 8am every day.

He doesn’t use an alarm clock? If he does but claims he doesn’t hear it then I suggest you tell him you need to get him to the hospital asap because you are concerned when he sleeps he reaches a coma like state.

He is certainly taking the easy way and pretending to be asleep, which is infuriating. Irrespective whether he works from home or goes out, getting up early is part of adulthood, more so when there are multiple young children. There are no excuses, only perhaps if he was working night shifts. My father, irrespective of how late he came from work and by late I mean past 10.30pm, would be up by 6am, get me ready etc. for school. Both my parents were involved and there was no competition of who does more or less.
It is sad that your husband just leaves you to deal with it all. Perhaps, as a household, you all need to be more organised the previous night. Things like uniforms, bags can be easily arranged beforehand. Rather than being passive aggressive in the morning, have a calm conversation in the day with your husband on each of your contributions. Has he always behaved liked this? If so, why have you not dealt it with it?

Yanbu but didn’t the clock change help as they would have got up abit later in the new time?

You can’t be serious 😂

@Mumof3Chaos Make sure you trip over his trainers and throw the tea all over him tomorrow then!! that will soon get him out of bed!

YANBU

Tell him to get the fuck up, do it 10 mins early tomorrow so you can go ballistic so it’s clear he needs to get himself the fuck up in future.

This^ 100%
Im a strong lifelong supporter of this idea. DH? Not entirely, I’m still trying to convert him after 25 years together 🙂
In the mean time I just wake him up physically if I need to accepting that I’m a light sleeper and he’s not.
Surprisingly if DD is shouting “Dad” he wakes up straight away not that she does it often…

Some people are useless in the mornings so could you do a trade off where you do the early shift and your DH does bedtimes while you relax?

I'd also add that part of bedtime includes putting clothes etc out for the next day.

realist you’ll need to help the older two get organised the night before for a few weeks, and chase them up on it the night before ongoing. 7 is still little. I still put uniforms out for mine the night before for the 6 year old but 10 year old does his uniform and helps with bags and other paraphernalia . Can’t imagine the chaos of trying to do it in the morning. If DH doesn’t wake up maybe he should do the night before stuff. Make a list of what needs packing/preparing for each day. Mine are different, depending on the day’s sports, instruments etc

There isn't a specific sunrise time that covers the whole of the UK. It varies quite significantly north vs south 😂

So he has been like this for a decade and you’re still seething and adding additional kids to your load?

I would ask the 3 year to play a game of wake up daddy whilst you get sorted. Just put them in bed with him - give them some some tools to help wake him up

It was 6.04 in uk

Tbf sunrise is at 6:40 today, so 6:30 is actually pre dawn!

If he is the only breadwinner, he is entitled to this, if you are both working, this is a disgrace.