To expect DH to wake up when the kids do?!

Who gets the kids ready and out to school then?

My husband and I agreed to alternate days on whose turn it is to get up with the kids and get them ready for school. I think you need to have a sit-down talk with your husband about how frustrated and resentful you are because of this.

He can get up. If he was in basic training in the army and he’d be facing sanctions for not getting up in time, he wouldn’t still be lying there mumbling.

pour a bowl of cold water over him?

Has he not got a job to get up for? 7.50 is late for a week day!

Buy a MASSIVE bag of Mini Eggs, every morning the child who manages to wake Daddy up and get him downstairs, be that by jumping on him, shrieking in his ear, throwing by things at him etc, gets a mini egg, if they all do it together, they all get one.

A week of that and your H will be getting up by himself, rather than having three children jumping on him as an alarm call.

Whilst the kids are busy waking him up, you can be packing the lunch boxes or whatever else needs doing and they won’t be distracting you.

Job done.

Get him to organise their school things and uniform in the evening ready for each school day. If he does that, then you just have to sort breakfast.
If there's other things you need sorting out then go and wake him up and tell him what needs doing.
If he hasn't sorted everything they need for school then send the DC to ask him where it is.
And make sure you get a lie in at the weekend if you need it.
Making noise to subtly wake him clearly isn't working and will just frustrate you more.

Stop the martyred passive aggressive behaviour.

They can be spectacularly obtuse when it comes to picking up signals and atmosphere.

Use your words.

Sit down when the kids are not there and have a calm adult conversation about what you expect and require.

If that fails, buy one of those old fashioned alarm clocks and put it by his ear.

Why don't you just 'play dead'?

That's what I do. DH gets up then.

At the risk of someone coming along and screaming "why is this relevant the children are here now"!!!....just why did you have 3 kids with a useless man?

Your h would have a point if he were in an extremely physically demanding or dangerous job where he needs sufficient rest (although that doesn't excuse his inability to lay some uniforms out the night before.

But he's working from home at a desk job, it's not like he's down the mines. As PP have said I think it's time for a proper conversation about how disrespected and taken for granted you feel. If he has any sense whatsoever he will see that resentment kills a marriage

How did the clock change make it worse? Clocks going forward means it’s later than it feels so generally it’s harder to wake earlier, plus it’s darker.

Completely missing the point of the thread I know 😁

No “lol” about it! It’s not funny OP!

To lie in once in a while is ok as long as you both get a chance.

He is taking the fucking piss. I’d honestly have to ask him to leave.

Sadly it seems some posters think earning money brings rights to lie around in bed and leave someone else to care for their children.

It's not difficult, and he fully understands, he just knows he doesn't have to, so he prefers to get his lie in every morning, knowing that his wife will deal with everything herself and he's got away with it again.

I've had words with my BIL before when my sister has asked him to do something 3 times, I asked him why he doesn't just do it? And he said if he leaves it long enough she will just do it herself, the look of disgust on my face must have been a picture but he wasn't wrong, she asks, then she just does it herself because she doesn't like nagging.

I don't think men realise that the love women have for them is finite and it's exactly this sort of behaviour that makes then resented.. then they often wonder why there's no intimacy or closeness anymore.

Mone would either get in with me and talk at me until I got up, cry and say come get in with me or, as she has learned this gets a fast response, announce "I'm gonna pee myself".

No one with a three year old is in bed til 8am unless someone else is looking after them.

Sorry but you’re enabling him! Wake him up, and don’t leave the room til you’re both up! Then parent together. If he doesn’t/won’t get up - shout to the kids and tell them they’ll have to come into your room if they need anything as dads not up yet so I can’t leave the room 🤷‍♀️ He’ll soon start and get up. No way would I leave my husband in bed asleep while I do everything. And more importantly, no way would my husband stay in bed and let me do everything.

No not a child, just a twat - twatishness, unlike childhood, can be life long.

But why is it so difficult for a full grown adult man with a family to understand that he should be getting up to help without any prompting? He is not a child…

Mine was like this and then I bought a cheap but extremely annoying alarm clock from Amazon that progressively gets louder until it's the most irritating noise you've ever heard in your life.

I put it out of arm's reach so he has to get up to turn it off.

You just tell a 3 year old to go back to bed until 8oclock?
That sounds wildly unrealistic.

Why? Getting kids ready in the morning is work. Having a 3 year old to look after is work. Why does having a partner not working get you out of helping them to get three kids that you fathered ready in the morning, snoozing while your wife struggles. OP, tell him it stops today. He gets up and parents his kids. One morning, you get in the shower and he gets them ready for breakfast, the next he does. Then you swap over. And he actually parents his children.

YABU, I think you're just annoyed because you have got up and he hasn't. Why would a 10 year old need their parent to make them breakfast unless they want a full English? I was perfectly capable of making breakfast of cereals and toast for my family at that age, as are my children. My parents, or I, would never have got up just because the children were up. If they were little, they'd have been told to go back to bed. BTW, I don't think 7.50 is late to get up. On workdays I get up at 6.00 in order to commute, otherwise 8.00 is standard.

Was this Mothering Sunday?

Have you three children screaming and crying while your partner deals with everything then cracks on with their work day?

Who looks after your 3 young children and takes them to school then?