Husband never takes photos - is this a common thing

dh has never taken a photo - NEVER
I have 14000 plus of the dogs on my phone

I never take photos and would need to be asked. My mum never took photos either.

Mine are in 20s now have never had a picture taken on Mother's day with kids.

My DH never takes any photos of humans but he has about 5000 photos of our cat and other cats he sees on the street.

If you want him to do something then ask. It’s really not fair to expect him to read your mind and what’s so hard about asking?

Not everyone loves taking or looking at photos. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t take many photos either. I have no wedding photos as I didn’t want any taking and I’ve no photos of me as a child although I think my brother might have some?

I’ve taken a few of DS growing up but I don’t think there are any with him and me together as I never do selfies. I can’t stand them. 😂

I don’t think my husband has ever taken a photo of me and my daughter without being asked. But it would never have occurred to me to take pictures on a day such as mothers’ day. I’ve never seen the need to have thousands of photos of anyone, and I’ve never posted a photo of a member of my family online in my life.

What a ridiculous post. This is the kind of thing that gives Mumsnet a bad name.

This is NOT a man issue and it's quite ridiculous to lay it out as such.

Seriously, this attitude to life does my head in sometimes.

My kids and their families all came to mine yesterday. On the evening I got a bunch of photos of the day sent to me via WhatsApp. All from my son in law.

My late husband was the photographer (mostly pre smart phones). I really regret that now, because after he died I realised that we had relatively few photos with him in.

Yes very common. Sounds pathetic but I stopped taking photos of my DH and focused on the children.

My husband does take some photos, but I always think that the ones I take of my son, I'm the on he's smiling at!

(Now what is funny is pictures my ILs take of us - my husband is front and centre of the ones with him and our son, whilst I am almost completely out of frame even if he's sitting in my lap...)

I often feel quite sad looking back at old photos and videos of my children because I’m in so few of them. If I wanted any photos of me I definitely had to ask for them. Make sure you do.

I've got hardly any of me and the kids when they were small, it does make me a bit sad. Selfies weren't really a thing then either.

As others have said the few I do have were taken by friends or are shite!

I think it depends how keen you are on taking photographs. When I was growing up (long before digital cameras) my dad was a keen photographer with an SLR camera and would be taking pictures all day long on holidays and day trips, although rarely if ever around the house. I don't think my mum even owned a camera.

My husband and I are probably about equal - we'll take some photos on trips and occasions but not constantly snapping all day long. We have 'proper cameras' that we'll take if we are going somewhere specifically with photography in mind, but on other trips, sometimes we just want to enjoy the moment and appreciate it not through the screen of a phone or the lens of a camera.

I think OP needs to ask her husband to take photos if she wants them - yes, there might be a small loss of spontaneity, but saying "Can you take a picture of DS and me eating breakfast in bed' or whatever the moment is doesn't mean you have to break off and actively pose.

Its interesting you say that, this thread reminded me that I work with a cohort of people who are quite vulnerable, either MH, or substance misuse or LD/SEN or a myriad of the combinations as well as previous trauma etc etc

A really common theme during assessments is a preoccupation, sometimes to the point of obsession with made up anniversaries, like OP says the last mothers day before the baby. Then marking those times with quite over the top recognition, sometimes not being able to go out that day or do something that day etc etc

Not the same as your husband but it reminded me that society seems to have picked up 'days' as something tangible and built it up in their heads and get upset if they're not done in the 'right way'

It probably stems from society's different behaviours towards men and women. Women are complimented, called beautiful, and far more emphasis is put into aesthetics with them than men. Half the shops along the highstreet are hair, nails, clothes, tanning salons, etc, all for women. Men don't really compliment each other or put a fraction of the effort into appearance. As such, would men really feel 'pretty' enough to want to be in pictures?

Yep, never. He just doesn't reminisce or look back at anything! 🙄

This ffs

It's better than the other extreme I would guess. Everything we do has to be photographed & videoed then posted with a commentary. There'll then be sulks if not enough people acknowledge it. I don't let him take my photo anymore & I refuse to engage with it. Can't even get a bag of chips without photographs, video, price info etc etc. It's part of a wider OCD problem & he's 'on the waiting list' for treatment.

Same here. I don't think its especially a man thing......if you want photos, use your words and say so!

So you didn’t ask him and you’re upset that he didn’t guess? Use your words!

I think this is partly a family thing. We are not a very photo-y family, my parents hardly ever took any and when they did they were bloody awful (my mum can make anyone look bad in a photo). As an adult it’s not a habit i’m in.

YABU. My DH never takes pictures of anything unless it is practical, such as a barcode of something, or his passport before he goes on holiday, or a golf club he’s seen but wants to order online cheaper.

Last mothers day before baby sister?
Maybe he didn't know that was a thing.
I didn't

Well I've got hundreds and hundreds of photos of my son from when he was a baby and growing up. My DH is in quite a few of them and I'm in very few. Mainly because I just hate seeing myself in photos because I just spoil them.

I'm not interested in photos of myself and would never have expected my DH to take a Mother's Day photo. Although actually yesterday my now adult son took a head and shoulders selfie of us both. It was what he wanted and I don't have to look at it. My DH has been dead many years now.

This might be the most absurd use of "mental load" I've seen yet.

Remembering to take photos is not "mental load" because it's not actually necessary! If it stresses you out then don't do it.

I don't understand people who observe a minor personality difference between them and their husband and immediately think it must be because he's a MAN. Is gender the only possibly explanation for personality differences to some people?

I'm not into taking photos at all. A lot of the time it doesn't occur to me, a lot of the time when it does occur to me I enjoy being in the moment too much to faff around and get my phone out, and I'm not an especially good photographer anyway (my phone gallery is just one big blur).

I'm most conscientious of taking photos of food (both in restaurants and DP's own dishes). I like taking photos of cute dogs too but they never stay still long enough for me to get anything other than a blur.

DP is better than me at taking photos but he's hardly a must-document-every-memory type either. I don't really see the point when I can just use my actual memory to think back to nice times in the past.